the comparison to catholic school is relevent since many at seed were 30, 40, and even 50 years old at that time of my life i did not need anyone to tell me (years after graduating) not only how to sit, but i certainly did not need someone to tell me who to dat and how to date, where i should go, who i should go out with, what career decisions i shuld or should not make, that i was less than some of my peers, simmly becuase some had more money than me . . .and most importantly, in many cases the love was an empty attempt at obigation so you did the "right thing" by someone, so you wouldn't be yelled at than a true unconditional love that love from the heart and not greed.