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Straight, Inc. and Derivatives / Missing Puzzle Pieces
« on: August 19, 2003, 07:48:00 PM »
I'm amazed at the outright hostility towards Sue.  We all had problems, many of still do but I'm sure you were no saint whomever you are.  Before you start ripping into other people, perhaps rejudge your own actions and see if you're in a position to do as such?  I was a brat when I was there and I know it.  I did it on purpose because I thought the only way to keep that brainwashing crap out was to fight it.  I was twelve years old, scared, abandoned, and not even able to talk to the one person I knew there.  I remember people sitting behind me used to kick the chair to get me to turn around enough to give them a reason to throw me from the chair and restrain me.  I remember having to sit in sex group for the first time and being scared out of my wits because people were talking about stuff I hadn't even learned about yet.  So if I had to be a brat to survive that and much more, so be it.  

Sue thought she could save herself by doing what she did and as her cousin and watching her do this stuff, I'm sorry but if I can deal with it so can you.  Nothing like watching your own relative try to starve herself to death or pop out her shoulder to get the hell out of that place to help the nightmares along.  

If you want to judge me or her for it, I doubt either of us will lose sleep over it.  I personally have more important things to deal with in my life than someone else's judgement of my actions in a situation I had no control over and was tricked into going to.  I dont blame her for what she did and if you have problems with her and what she did then perhaps you have more issues to work out.

I came to this forum in the hopes that perhaps it would be supportive and informative and seeing responses like that disgust me.  I avoided y'all for years and when I think on most of the stuff, I block out most things except when I stayed with Rebecca's family for that long stretch.  They were wonderful people that became almost like a second family to me while there.  I was in a lot of different host homes, but non as nice as that one.  If you or your family is reading this, thanks Rebecca.  I know you tried to get in contact with me a few years back along with Kim and a couple of others and I appreciate the effort.

Jodi

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Straight, Inc. and Derivatives / A note from Leanne
« on: August 19, 2003, 07:14:00 PM »
Well its been 13 years since I left KIDs and I've been doing my damnest to forget the two years I spent there.  Most of you probably remember me as the youngest one there and Sue's cousin.  A few of you have tried to contact me or get me to keep contact and I always felt if I could block it out, the almost daily restraining and other similar nightmares, I'd get past it.  I've tried the whole let it go and move on thing and its never worked for me.  I still break out crying suddenly whenever the topic is brought up, I still have nightmares, I still have fear of hard cold floors, I still can't let people get near me or touch me without having an anxiety attack.  I've been in and out of therapy ever since I left that hell hole, been drugged up on several different anti-dpressants and mood stabilizers and nothing has helped.  No one at this point can pinpoint what exactly is my problem since I'm now too scared to even leave my apartment more than once a week to see the doctor.  Live all in all sucks for me right now and I know a lot goes back to the program and apparently the let it go just dont work for me.  My parents still feel incredibly guilty for me being in there at all and have been helping to support me but looks like I'll have to be hospitalized yet again cause this therapist isn't helping and my life is getting progressively worse.

I've only read a lil of this site so far because I just got off the phone with Sue and she directed me here, but some of the comments of suck it up and move on are terribly insensitive and inaccurate.  If it works for you, great, wonderful, I'm thrilled for you.  I'm assumeing many like me have tried and failed at that approach and are still struggling over a decade later.  I'm not sure even why I'm posting on here now after avoiding all of you for so many years but I guess its mostly because I have nothing left to lose at this point not doing it and Sue thinks its a good idea.

I hope everyone else's recovery is coming along more readily than mine and I wish you the best in the future.

Jodi

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