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An open discussion about the troubled parent industry

Are you really this lonely and your life that devoid of value that you feel the need to impersonate someone even MORE lonely and pathetic than yourself?

 

Ha,Ha,Ha...

Look, everybody, I seem like a nice enough guy and probably don't contribute or add value in anyone's personal life.  So I am here to troll the issues concerning the “Troubled Teen industry”, dispute and degrade the details of others who are looking to learn and grow, as I am not, along with ridiculing their personal experiences.  When I can demonstrate that I am willing to have an adult conversation with others here and I'm sincere in trying to discuss the issues and add value here then you should respond.



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The Best Advice to a Family Member...
....of an abused person?

An incident concerning my sister has been troubling me since Friday and though I've surrendered it to the Lord I thought I'd also ask those of you who have escaped from abusive relationships.

I have been a shoulder to cry on for my sister, early in her relationship I was the only family member to confront the abusive man and lost contact with my sister for nearly a year, I was privy to her account of him being in the care of their little one (about two years ago) and him threatening to kill himself where I felt the need to contact a child protection agency and she nearly had a melt down as a result of me conveying what the agency had said. I've given her numbers for refuge shelters which she has not taken up. Our family have offered to pay for a lawyer to sort out their house so that she and my nephew could separate from him. Her response to our offer was that she does not want to lose where she lives and her house and start over again. The one incident on Friday had me hear (on speakerphone) her bf screaming at her to come and fix a soft drink for him. I have never heard a human being scream like that before.

This man has been a diabetic all his life - only when they are together does his diabetes get to a point where his blood sugars drop (when he is working abroad he is fine) and he "loses it". I was at my other sister's house when the phonecall was made. The abused sister had ran into the garden because she said that he had picked up a knife and was coming towards her. My older sister had motioned me over to her and put the conversation on speaker phone and this was when I heard the man angrily screaming at my sister. The abused sister had already called an ambulance prior to the phone call and the paramedics and two police officers finally arrived.

This week, she is still in the environment with my nephew. She has remained with this man since 1992.

I've bounced it off another family member who also works with children and social services and she basically said that social services in the UK are so swamped with more serious cases that they will not bother with a man coming to a woman with a knife and screaming at her. Basically the mother or child would have to be physically hurt - with the knife - before they can intervene!

For those of you who have survived physical and verbal abuse, what advice can you offer?

Do we still stand far off from the situation due to the fact that she would go into denial, defend him and even cut herself off from us if she knew that we got the authorities involved?

Would you suggest we give her more time to do something herself?

Or is it time for us to intervene?

Any advice from those of you who have actually been there would be greatly appreciated.

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I found it frustrating that our society equates abuse with sexual and physical contact. If there is no bodily sexual contact or violent physical contact - it's not seen as abuse.But all survivors of abuse deal with one main element, the emotional/mental scars.A person can be raped, and beaten....and their bodies can mostly repair the damage.....but it's living with the emotional impact of that abuse that makes it a long time struggle. It's society's way of not speaking about bad or negative things. Unless you have physical wounds you aren't hurt.
In a way our society works with the abusers to hide the emotional and mental impact by denying it's importance. Survivors of abuse are eventually told to 'get over it'. There is supposed to be some deadline for survivors to deal with the abuse. And when abuse comes in a pure mental/emotional form (no sexual or physical attack) - it so much easier for the abuser to hide and or also to deny that it exists. Children can live in a mental prison that their abusive parents create. Much like the elephant being chained to the ground and eventually only requiring a small rope. It's learnt to be submissive and not escape or fight back. That's also why we repress most of the abuse and don't deal with it...because we are taught by the larger world to do that.

The world wants hard working people that read success books and practice positive thinking mantras so they can be good little machine workers. Don't say anything negative, don't talk about the past. Just get over it already. But the impact of the abuse doesn't go away if it's ignored.The worst culprits for denying the emotional/mental impact of our past abuse is ourselves.

Just my thoughts on the matter.

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Will the real Who please stand up, please stand up?!!!!!!! :rasta:

Admins blocked my other account and are now impersonating me on my old name. I am the real Who.



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Ha,Ha,Ha...more conspiracy theories from the trolls. Admins locked my old account for laughing at a video they posted of my daughter. They put the video in my signature now and I can't remove it, so now I see it as a badge of honor. Free speech is not being respected at fornits, they can't win a debate without changing the rules on me.

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As many have probably heard, Richard Wright from Pink Floyd passed away recently. Rest in peace, my good man.

We don't need no education
We dont need no thought control
No dark sarcasm in the classroom
Teachers leave them kids alone
Hey! Teachers! Leave them kids alone!
All in all it's just another brick in the wall.
All in all you're just another brick in the wall.


Even Pink Floyd knew that public schools were dangerous, and that programs are safer.  Let's all work on putting "Another Brick in the Wall" of a program, and help support them. We must be vigilant because with programs you don't need just any wall, you need four solid ones.

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It all gets back to that relentless control issue that is so hard for the admins to unhand.  I feel for you who.  Out of all the posters here you are the only one who is continuously harrassed but you stand your ground for fair play and free speech.  I have to hand it to you, just hang in and say what you feel is right.

I always say what I feel is right, and that is why so many people around here take offense to my opinions. I think that all programs are beneficial all the time, and any kid who is saying otherwise is a liar. I know that can sound harsh, but let's not forget the type of kids programs treat, they are all liars, thiefs and manipulators. That's what fornits is, one big manipulation. These kids got so mad someone finally tried to help them, they have created an organized effort to discredit the industry which helped them. Their stories are all very similar, which leads me to believe this website is the work of a small group of dedicated "posers" who act like they were abused. That is why I laugh so much at their outlandish stories, I know they are all just made up. Even my daughter got in on the conspiracy, and posted a video of her receiving treatment. Eventually over time though, I convinced her it was for her own good, and now we have a good relationship.

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