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Elan School / Elan (corporation/school)
« on: March 04, 2003, 10:08:00 AM »
I'm really quite sorry each time that I read someone posting that we need to get over Elan and move on with our lives.  With any tradegy it is as though it becomes a part of who you are.  Elan sucked...those of you that have been there recently just have no idea as to the cruelity or psychological games that were played on us.  As a parent now and having raised a teenager of my own, I have made my own voice heard to other parents contemplating to send their children away.  YOU DO NOT SEND YOUR CHILDREN AWAY IN MASSES LIKE A USED CAR TO BE FIXED.  B/c daah, it's usually the whole family that needs some adjusting.  And those that advise rape victims to move on with their lives, have not beeen raped.  Horray, for you that Elan was so wonderful, that is the farthest thing in the world that my Elan was.  You don't know what you are talking about...NO IDEA AT ALL!!!!

I could see if there was only one or two of us from the old school that were complaining or venting or sharing..whatever you want to call it, but there are hundreds of us...hundreds of us that share a terrible experience that get together occassionally in these bulletin boards to talk.  Do we offend you?  Well, that's just too bad.  I'm glad you are doing well, and I'm happy for you that you contribute some of that to Elan.  But for me, b/c of Elan I had to work all that harder to get where I'm at which is a great place to be, (mentally, physically, etc), but what I share and bring to other teenagers that come into my house and other parents contemplating sending there kids away.  I don't want to forget.

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Elan School / Elan (corporation/school)
« on: June 07, 2002, 01:05:00 PM »
I am a survivor of Elan.  I was there...oh some 23 years ago.  There is no one that can convince me that Elan was anything but corrupt.  I was there.  I saw it.  I remember when I was there, there were a couple of kids that tried to runaway or something and they had to sit in bunny suits all day and handcuffed.  I remember the boxing ring/blood.  I remember the customes and signs.  I remember the constant yelling and screaming and knocking on doors.  I remember the termoil of my peers. I remember most of all that I could trust no one.  I was so alone and knew that Elan was going to destroy me, I wanted out in the worst way.  I felt as though Elan was stealing my soul and spirit.  I played the game real well though and stayed basically out of any real trouble there.  But as you all know, that didn't always work.  They made sure everyone got a fair shake at their "therapy".  Anyway, I finally got them to take me on a trip with others to the mall and by this time, because I stayed out of trouble, they took their eyes off of me for only a minute and I was gone.  I left Maine and went to Boulder, got a job, an apartment, got married years later, went back to school, raised my son (who just graduated high school last week).  SCREW you all anonymous fakes, that can't even post who you are.  I don't feel this way about many, but Ricci...I was so glad to hear that he was gone.  I was relieved.  The world is a much better place without him.  What a sad statment on his life.  I mean look at all of us..I'm 37 and while I'm by no means consumed with Elan anymore....the pain is still there in some degree...I WILL NEVER FORGET.  And for those of you who have said...well what did you do to make it better.  Elan sucked...nothing can make that better.  What I've done is raised a healthy son...who dabbled at 14 in drugs/drinking and the black clothes and when told that either I put him somewhere or they will not continue to treat him for his ADHD, I said fine...he is not a car I'm sending to get fixed.  He is my son.  Why anyone thinks that you can send away your child to be fixed is beyond me.  I worked with my son, we both made changes and we're here to say that places like Elan should be eliminated.  That is more of a contribution than thinking that you made Elan a better place.  You are sick!

I AM A SURVIVOR!

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Elan School / Elan (corporation/school)
« on: June 07, 2002, 12:51:00 PM »
You don't know what you are talking about (says respectively).  The Elan I knew was nothing like what you have described.  I am very happy that you had a great experience, but that was not my Elan 23 years ago.  It was so damaging to me and took many years to recover.  I believe I was only 1 of a few that ever escaped and the fact that I survived had nothing to do with Elan.

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