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« on: November 29, 2004, 08:38:00 PM »
My reason for pointing out this flaw in the CEDU programs is not to say that they necessarily encourage sex only between the same gender, I meant to point out that many students will find ways to experiment with the same gender because the punishment is less severe and it takes care of their sexual urges.
I can agree that students having sex with one another within a program setting is a bad idea and that it would be a legal problem with certain circumstances. But what about kissing? Since when is kissing such an evil act? Many students will be publicly humiliated and cast out as whores once staff finds out about any lip-locking. Then the student will be put on bans from so much as poking the individual and even hugs become taboo.
Yes, some students need to have those very distinct and very strict lines drawn for them especially if they have issues saying no and drawing their own boundaries or if sex is one of their personal issues. But for others?
It's a known fact that if a young adult or child is told that they cannot do something, that they are more likely to want to do it just to be defiant or because they want to see what they can get away with. When students' sexual urges and thoughts are entirely supressed, they are bound to find ways to take care of it.
Take Milestones for instance... the program is to take young adults, ages 18-23, and help them transition into adulthood. But students cannot even have an independent outing until Phase 3, towards the end of their program, and cannot participate in any sexual act (including kissing) even if it is with someone that is not in the program until they have completed Phase 4 (the final phase) or have left the program. (It is at least strongly discouraged and then openly discussed for all to hear during raps). How is that helping students build healthy relationships between themselves and a significant other, whether of the same sex or not? It is more difficult to learn to draw healthy boundaries when they are drawn for you and also when there are no boundaries to be drawn... you simply cannot engage in any sexual act ever.