I am glad you brought this up. There are options and programs that can help. Some kids are on a terrible road to self destruction. Some kids end up dead at home.
I would start with a therapist - marriage and family, social worker, or psychologist - who specializes in adolescence. Forget about your insurance. Find the best.
Do not ask your family doctor for a referral. They do now know. Do not inquire with your local county behavioral health department. The person whom you get on the phone may or may not know, and how can you tell? Plus, they can't give you the inside scoop even if they do know it, because of legal implications.
Call the nearest major university - the one closest to you. State universities are good, although there are many good private ones. However, how will you know if it's a good private school when it comes to psychology?
Also, I would recommend calling the American Psychological Association. Their numbers:
(800) 374-2721 or (202) 336-5500
Tell them you want a referral for a psychologist who specializes in adolescent development. There are several divisions within APA that are applicable. Do your homework. Call the therapists and ask them:
1)What do you consider your area of specialization?
2)What journals do you read regularly?
3)What professional associations do you belong to?
4)Do you have experience with _____________________? (problem)
5)Have you had your own therapy?
6)What do you consider to be your strengths as a therapist?
Do not hesitate to ask these questions. If the psychologist is weird about any of them, thank him for his time and say ?goodby.?
Hope this helps!
But what about kids who are really out of control? How do we help them?