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Straight, Inc. and Derivatives / Once Upon A Time...
« on: August 11, 2003, 12:21:00 PM »
Whether or not the following story is true, this is a great lesson for all of us, especially when we reflect upon who we are and how we treat others.  This still gets to me everytime I read it...

In Brooklyn, New York, Chush is a school that caters to learning disabled children.  Some children remain there for their entire school career, while others can be mainstreamed into conventional schools.  At a Chush fund-raising dinner, the father of a student delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all that attended.

After praising the school and its dedicated staff, he cried out, "Where is the perfection in my son Shaya?  Everything God does is done with perfection, but my child cannot understand things as other children do. My child cannot remember facts and figures as other children do. Where is God's perfection??  The audience was shocked by the question and pained by the father's anguish and stilled by the piercing query.  "I believe," the father answered, "that when God brings a child like this into the world, the perfection that he seeks is in the way people react to this child."  He then told the following story about his son Shaya:

One afternoon, Shaya and his father walked past a park where some boys Shaya knew were playing baseball. Shaya asked, "Do you think they will let me play?"  Shaya's father knew that his son was not at all athletic and that most boys would not want him on their team, but Shaya's father understood that if his son was chosen to play it would give him a comfortable sense of belonging.

Shaya's father approached one of the boys in the field and asked if Shaya could play.  The boy looked around for guidance from his teammates.  Getting none, he took matters into his own hands and said, "We are losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we'll try to put him up to bat in the ninth inning."

Shaya's father was ecstatic as Shaya smiled broadly.  Shaya was told to put on a glove and go out to play short center field. In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shaya's team scored a few runs but was still behind by three. Shaya's team scored again in the bottom of the ninth inning.  Now, with two outs and the bases loaded the potential winning run was on base and Shaya was scheduled to be up. Would the team actually let Shaya bat at this juncture and give away their chance to win the game?

Shaya was given the bat. Everyone knew that it was all but impossible because Shaya didn't even know how to hold the bat properly, let alone hit with it. However as Shaya stepped up to the plate, the pitcher moved a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shaya should at least be able to make contact.

The first pitch came and Shaya swung clumsily and missed.  One of Shaya's teammates came up to Shaya and together they held the bat and faced the pitcher waiting for the next pitch. The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly toward Shaya. As the pitch came in, Shaya and his teammate swung at the ball and together they hit a slow ground ball to the pitcher.  The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could easily have thrown the ball to the first baseman.  Shaya would have been out and that would have ended the game.  Instead, the pitcher took the ball and threw it on a high arc to right field, far beyond reach of the first baseman.


Everyone started yelling, "Shaya, run to first! Run to first!"  Never in his life had Shaya run to first.  He scampered down the baseline wide-eyed and startled. By the time he reached first base, the right fielder had the ball. He could have thrown the ball to the second baseman, who would tag out Shaya, who was still running. But the right fielder understood what the pitcher's intentions were, so he threw the ball high and far over the Third baseman's head.

Everyone yelled, "Run to second, run to second!"  Shaya ran towards second base as the runners ahead of him deliriously circled the bases towards home.  As Shaya reached second base, the opposing short stop ran to him, turned him in the direction of third base and shouted, "Run to third!"  As Shaya rounded third, the boys from both teams ran behind him screaming, "Shaya run home!"  Shaya ran home, stepped on home plate and all 18 boys lifted him on their shoulders and made him the hero, as he had just hit a "grand slam" and won the game for his team.

"That day," said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, "those 18 boys reached their level of God's perfection."

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I go to straights.com to read the article about the settlement- how about that picture of Miller?  Oh my God! He looks soooo :flame: EVIL :flame: ! He hasn't changed a bit since I last saw him 23 years ago.  Well, according to my good old Straight awareness ( :lol: LOL :lol: ), Mr. Newton's body language tells me a lot- he's angry, he's being rebellious, he's being defiant, and he's closing off from the group.  I wonder what he was thinking about while he was sitting there.  Hmmm...

Top 10 things Miller's thinking:

10. "I better split soon or else."
 9. "I'm going to write a searching and fearless moral inventory about this tonight."
 8. "I think I'll carve my arms. Now, where did I put that pen?"
 7. "I can't wait to get home and smoke a joint."
 6. "Damn, what are the words to that Serenity prayer?"
 5. "Gee, I hope I get 4th phase this week."
 4. "I'm glad they didn't ask me about that guy-guy relationship or that night with the neighbor's dog!"
 3. "Should I rock out to Metallica or Led Zeppelin?"
 2. "I knew those anger management classes wouldn't help!"
 1. "I wonder if I'm going to get started over for this?"


[ This Message was edited by: gduncan on 2003-07-18 13:22 ]

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Straight, Inc. and Derivatives / any good days that you can recall?
« on: July 07, 2003, 07:01:00 PM »
A good day for me was getting a full cup of juice for lunch and/or dinner and getting lots of ice.  I would sit in my chair and savor each cube while I was "getting in my head" about all the places I'd rather be.  

Another good day was being chosen to work in the kitchen and getting to drink as much as I wanted as well as standing in the refrigerator on those days when it was blistering hot.  

Days off with family were good too.  I remember  in '81 when you made second phase you got Saturday's off.  I think this was for out of town families only so that you could work on the family relationship.  I remember that privilege didn't last long.

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Hey METALGOD8,

Like you, I'm a big SRV fan.  I attended his last five concerts in Atlanta.  One of them was at the Fox Theatre on New Year's Eve 1986 with Lonnie Mack.  They do a great version of Oreo Cookie Blues from LM's Strike Like Lightnin' album.  Most of the concert was broadcast live on a local station (96 Rock) and I happen to have it on CD.  I founud it in a store on Beall Street in Memphis, TN and the owner claimed he was friends with SRV.  Let me know if you're interested and I'll burn a copy for you.  It's awesome! E-mail me at [email protected] or post here.

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Straight, Inc. and Derivatives / Variety in the diet
« on: July 02, 2003, 03:39:00 PM »
I don't drink, but when I did I used to like Gatorade (lemon-lime) and tequilla for a little pick me up.  I imagine fruit punch or some of the new flavors would be pretty tasty.  What a thirst quencher!

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Straight, Inc. and Derivatives / This place is going to kill me!
« on: July 01, 2003, 05:00:00 PM »
Thomas- Coming to this site has opened the flood gates to feelings and memories we haven't experienced in a long time and it can be a bit overwhelming.  Perhaps you would feel comfortable enough to share a particular post that got to you and why it made you think and feel the way you do.  I'm sure someone here will be able to provide some insight into how they dealt with similar thoughts and feelings.  Hopefully this will help you break this vicious cycle that Straight has created.

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Straight, Inc. and Derivatives / When do parents tell?
« on: June 30, 2003, 02:20:00 PM »
How many of you are parents? And how many of you have told your kids about your days in Straight?  What was their reaction?  Was it a hard decision to tell them?  At what age did you tell them?  If you haven?t told them why not?  I?m asking because I have 2 sons, the oldest is 6, and although I have a few years before I broach the subject I am curious how others have handled it.

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Who came up with the idea of motivating to get called on and what was it supposed to do for us? I don't remember rocking out while motivating but I do remember thinking how stupid it was.  What's wrong with just raising your hand?  Right now I'm sitting in my office listening to Metallica's "Bad Seed"  ::drummer::  and I've been motivating.  It's been 23 years since I've motivated and after having done it a few seconds I'm amazed that I never threw my arm out of joint or suffered any sort of injury. In case you're wondering, I work from home so there's no having to explain to co-workers what I'm doing! :eek:

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Hey Anonymous-  I respect the fact that you  apologized.  I think it's easy for comments to be misconstrued.

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Straight, Inc. and Derivatives / Posting Anonymously?
« on: June 29, 2003, 08:28:00 PM »
I have been postng on this board for a short time compared to some and I have never thought of it as a place where people were coming to be attacked or where people come to attack others.  I thought we are here to express our opinions freely.  Just becasue someone expresses an opinion it does not make them "fucking hostile and adamant in their narrow-minded programmed views".  

Are there dominant voices on this board?  I never thought so.  If there are they aren't necessarily right.  If there are dominant voices and if we can not speak our minds how is this different from the mind fucking that took place during the days of our unfortunate incarceration?  

We will disagree at times and that's fine- no one's getting started over or put on a refresher.  I think we will all agree that we couldn't disagree with many things at Straight for fear of the consequences that were in most cases unjustified.

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I don't think one statement constitutes badgering.  I don't see the need for anonymity when you are coming to a place where people truly understand.  Look at my profile and and my posts and YOU can see who I am.  Check myself out?  Go back into your bag of Straight lingo and pullout something more original.

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Straight, Inc. and Derivatives / Posting Anonymously?
« on: June 29, 2003, 02:21:00 PM »
What?s the deal with posting anonymously?  I have read posts from several anonymous posters and wonder who are some of these people--  Miller Newton?  Mrs. Pete?  The Semblers?  Or is it some former staff members suffering from paranoia about their past actions?  Also, I wonder what are you afraid of?  

It is easy to hide behind a cloak of anonymity and make comments, and quite frankly anonymous posters have not established any sense of credibility.  I believe in rights to privacy, etc., and I believe it has a time and a place.  Now is the time for all of you to ?come out of the closet? and join the real group of survivors!

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Why don't you just tell us who you are.

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Straight, Inc. and Derivatives / Our Worth as Phasors
« on: June 29, 2003, 12:46:00 PM »
Anonymous- You seem obsessed with donkey balls. Is there something you want to tell us? Perhaps you had one of those animal relationships that you never talked about while you were in the program?  Try using intelligent metaphors, similes and figures of speech to get your message across.  The members of this forum would appreciate it.

[ This Message was edited by: gduncan on 2003-06-29 10:37 ]

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MB- First of all let me say that you are not damaged goods.  I am appalled that someone, especially an Anonymous poster, would say such a thing.  He or she obviously has issues and has not taken responsibility for their own life and they blame everyone but themselves for their position in life.   I will say to that  person to GET A LIFE!  If you think about it everyone in this world is  fucked up to some degree.  How a person deals with it is what makes the difference.  

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your infant daughter.  I can not begin to imagine what it has been like for you, and I am happy to hear that you have a son.  I have 2 sons, 4 & 6, and I will tell you that time goes by quickly so cherish every moment with him.

You were not being punished for anything and don?t blame yourself.  Perhaps this breakdown you are feeling is a combination of the grief of losing a child and Postpartum Depression.  Also, maybe trying to forget the past is part of the equation.  Regardless of what you?ve been through you deserve to be happy and don?t let what happened at Straight 13 years ago hold you back  or make you think differently.  Break those chains that have enslaved you!!  

Don?t be afraid to remember.  My advice is to start with the first page of this forum and read some of the old posts and reply to those that  stir something inside you.  I believe that as you respond and get feedback from others you will begin to get some closure.

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