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« on: January 20, 2007, 01:29:12 PM »
This is an interesting and thought provoking thread to me. I don?t identify as a survivor of the program though I certainly remember being emotionally abused by some sadistic staff. I never felt like the abuse I suffered at RMA was in danger of destroying me though. It was injurious and was sometimes disorienting, and people were certainly cruel at times, but there were plenty of nurturing and caring people around me too. In fact, I experienced more care and nurturance than not, and it was certainly a more positive balance than the family I came from.
I have a trauma history that predates being at RMA and I can?t compare those experiences with what I experienced at the school. One set of experiences was life and soul threatening to me; the other set didn?t come close.
Your idea though, that for some people the program just jived with some internal sense of the world and our place in it, definitely has some merit in my opinion. When I think about RMA, I think of sadistic people, not a sadistic program. I never felt injured by what I learned; I felt injured by those trying to teach it to me. Or in some cases, I felt injured by staff that I think were simply injurious. Any conflicts I have had with the program, some 15 years later, have been when I have found something to be too limited, too simplistic, or too extreme (yes or no; do or don?t do etc.). My conflict has not been with something being ?right? or ?wrong.? For me, it has been about learning nuance and about grappling with my limitations and the limitations of those I love.
In thinking about your question, I think that there are probably three factors that influence how I understand my RMA experience and why I don?t see myself as a survivor where it is concerned. 1) The program did jive with some existing internal representation that I had had; 2) I went to RMA with a trauma history. While some experiences at RMA exacerbated my history, the program certainly didn?t rise to the level of being a trauma experience in and of itself. 3) I had way more people at RMA who treated me lovingly than who were cruel to me.
Take care, M