Treatment Abuse, Behavior Modification, Thought Reform => Mission Mountain School => Topic started by: Anonymous on November 22, 2005, 03:02:00 PM

Title: Meaningful posts
Post by: Anonymous on November 22, 2005, 03:02:00 PM
Hello everyone. I was looking through the entire MMS forum and have seen many meaningful posts. You know the ones that really make you think. I was wondering if you could all look back and paste your favorite most meaningful ones, since it would be difficult to read every single one.

Here is one of mine:

by anon:

Hi everyone i know or don't know!
i'm new to this forum and have been reading a lot of interesting posts. i was able to speak my mind (whether it was heard or not) through an alumni survey that was sent to me on email by colleen. it asked a lot of pertinent questions about what i thought about the school and it's performance. in answering the questions i did my best to stay objective and not infuse my words with anger. no one actually hears anything you say if you make it clear that you don't like them.
anyway, i copied my last answer here. i know it's long but it might be worth the read. i'm sure you can request to fill the survey for colleen and the school to read if you contact her.
54. Is there something you would like to see changed at MMS? If so, what is it?

I don?t know how a strategy as to how it can be changed. I just don?t think that the school?s structure should be based on fear of rejection and punishment. All we had were each other and I (and from discussions with many alumni on the subject, I learned that I am not alone) was afraid to get close to anyone because ?calling people out? was rewarded. I think girls should be put into cabins with other girls of the same age so that they can create connections and have more in common. I don?t think it should be a privilege to shovel the headmaster?s horse manure. I think the school should have more of a female, motherly, and nurturing influence. The male, fatherly symbol creates the search for approval as opposed to the motherly influence which creates the belief that approval is already there and they will be loved no matter what. I think more should be done to nurture the friendships of the girls as opposed to reminding them that after all they are only there to fix themselves. I think that fourteen year olds are still children and should be allowed to do fun things without being analyzed. I think that a community based on love will flourish. The girls will want to change their life instead of thinking they have to say the right thing so they won?t have to chop wood.

I think parents should be called back the day they call inquiring about their children. Most of them are far away and worried about their kids and don?t need to be blown off by people to whom they?re paying $100,000 a year. Also, I do not believe that we should be told we have a bunch of problems and that they are our parents fault. Of course the parents are going to agree because they love us, but I smoked pot to get high not because my mother walked around the house naked.

I don?t think that girls should be told they are different and have to be treated differently and do things differently than other kids. They have to go out in the world and do everything just the same as everyone else and if they think they?re special in some way, they will just be let down by expectations others set which they believe they cannot meet. I think that the word ?addiction? should be used sparingly. Everyone can fit that description in some way or another and being diagnosed with it can effect the way one thinks about themselves and it becomes an excuse for behaviors and actions as being ?just something an addict does.? It shouldn?t be cool to sit in an AA meeting and list out all the addictions one has (i.e. ?hi I?m Audrey and I?m a drug addict, nicotine addict, alcoholic, codependent sex addict who likes to use work when there isn?t anything else to calm me down... [small giggles from those who agree or can relate]). It?s just ingenuine and disrespectful to those who really do have a serious addiction.

I think aftercare plans should be written as a normal 18 year old would write one. They wouldn?t take into account their feelings and fears, but just set goals for college and their future that they are likely to succeed in. We went to the school because we didn?t know how to deal with life on life?s terms; we should leave planning to live life on life?s terms.

Finally, I believe when a girl leaves or graduates she should have the love of the school behind her 100%. Personally, when I left I believed that the staff loved me and would be there for me only to find that phone calls weren?t returned- ever- unless they had something to get from me. This was very disheartening and I felt abandoned and hurt.

I believe overall my MMS experience was positive because it got me away from my turbulent home environment. But, I believe it didn?t do much else but get me away and encourage me to get good grades. I created trauma bonds with girls which, since MMS, have turned into meaningful and lasting relationships. Other girls are so angry that they?ve cut off all contact from anyone that had to do with the school; this is very sad for me.

I went to MMS and graduated feeling the same thing- that I had to be a certain person to survive and get by in the world. Albeit the person I thought I had to be was drastically different from beginning to end, but neither was myself. If I was allowed to speak up without fear- from the beginning before the fear was instilled in me- then I think I would have grown into the Audrey that I am starting to love.

What I want to change is this: I want the girls to experience themselves in every possible loving and good way without expectation, fear, or need for approval
Title: Meaningful posts
Post by: Anonymous on November 23, 2005, 01:32:00 PM
I came across this one, and I don't know who wrote it.  Hey Kat how about you? Give us one of yours:--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
 I went to mission mountain school, and though I am off drugs now, I'd have to say the thought of that place makes me cringe now. I feel I was constantly being told that I would never succeed and that I was a burden to the school. Well, I am proud to say that I did not graduate from that school, and still havn't touched drugs for nearly 3 years. I'm sure it did great things for people, but I gaurantee that there will be emotional issues in every student that goes there that will caused solely by thier experiences at MMS. The question is really, are the ends worth the means? or better yet, isn't there a way to get off drugs and clear up emotional issues in your life, without being subjugated to ridicule, blaming, and disrespect for two years? I'm sure some of you did not feel those words describe your stay at MMS but I feel I was treated differently than the others. I was being pushed down instead of being pulled up.
No one believed in me there, but a few of my friends and myself. Every day was a struggle against the faculty. They told me I was crazy. I had to go on meds. By the last few months of my stay I no longer prefered living over dying. I just didn't care.
It's nothing like that anymore. My first week back home brought back the realization that life doesn't suck, but MMS does.
Title: Meaningful posts
Post by: Anonymous on November 23, 2005, 03:27:00 PM
Instead of copying the whole message, how about providing the post URL that is provided at the bottom of each message. Uses less bandwidth.