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Straight, Inc. and Derivatives / Straight alumni with teens today...your perspectives????
« on: July 30, 2002, 12:52:00 AM »
I have two different experiences.
My son who just turned 18,and graduated High School, Starts at New College of Florida in August. He has been a wonderful, trusting, responsible, open and loving son. I am sure that he did some things that I assume all kids do, In fact there were a couple of times that I thought he might have come home high.
I did not confront him those few times. I know it seems crazy, but I actively chose NOT to confront it. #1 I was not sure, #2 I did not want to accuse him....I was always accused of doing things that I did not do as a child...I did not want to pass that behavior on to my son.
He was a straight A student (4.85 gpa when Graduated), JROTC officer and Commander, Nat Honor Society Chaplain,Student Council Representative for his Jr & Sr class.He also has worked for a Local Law Firm for the past 2.5 years.His curfew was 11pm until 11th grade then it became midnight.Thought he would challenge the curfew when he became a Senior,but never did. He only missed it twice and called both times to let me know he was going to be late.
He was/is always polite,friends are over here all the time,has a focus,talks of his life goals and feels he has a strong moral code of ethics that he is very proud of. (IE wants to wait until he is married before he has sex....don't know how long that will last but the longer the better from this parent's perspective LOL.)
Those are the reasons I decided to let my suspicions remain just that. Should those items, (or as I think of them "parameters") started to be different~~ I would have acted differently.
I have always been open to him about the mistakes I have made in my life. I always spoken with reality when discussing different drugs, their effects and their consequences. He takes great pride in the fact that he is "smarter than I am" !! LOL-- whatever works right?!!
debi
[ This Message was edited by: MommaDebi on 2002-07-29 21:55 ]
My son who just turned 18,and graduated High School, Starts at New College of Florida in August. He has been a wonderful, trusting, responsible, open and loving son. I am sure that he did some things that I assume all kids do, In fact there were a couple of times that I thought he might have come home high.
I did not confront him those few times. I know it seems crazy, but I actively chose NOT to confront it. #1 I was not sure, #2 I did not want to accuse him....I was always accused of doing things that I did not do as a child...I did not want to pass that behavior on to my son.
He was a straight A student (4.85 gpa when Graduated), JROTC officer and Commander, Nat Honor Society Chaplain,Student Council Representative for his Jr & Sr class.He also has worked for a Local Law Firm for the past 2.5 years.His curfew was 11pm until 11th grade then it became midnight.Thought he would challenge the curfew when he became a Senior,but never did. He only missed it twice and called both times to let me know he was going to be late.
He was/is always polite,friends are over here all the time,has a focus,talks of his life goals and feels he has a strong moral code of ethics that he is very proud of. (IE wants to wait until he is married before he has sex....don't know how long that will last but the longer the better from this parent's perspective LOL.)
Those are the reasons I decided to let my suspicions remain just that. Should those items, (or as I think of them "parameters") started to be different~~ I would have acted differently.
I have always been open to him about the mistakes I have made in my life. I always spoken with reality when discussing different drugs, their effects and their consequences. He takes great pride in the fact that he is "smarter than I am" !! LOL-- whatever works right?!!
debi
[ This Message was edited by: MommaDebi on 2002-07-29 21:55 ]