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The Troubled Teen Industry / more kid hating from stuggling turkeys

« on: February 13, 2006, 03:11:00 PM »

Author Topic: Does having children predispose one to depression?
FS
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posted February 11, 2006 08:14 PM
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Psychologist/author says childless couples are happier:
http://www.webmd.com/content/Article/11 ... genumber=1
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mose
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posted February 13, 2006 07:17 AM
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How fascinating and depressing at the same time!
I don?t think I will hand out copies of this study to the expectant and new parents my business works with.

Do you think parents are more depressed now because of the current parenting trends that places a huge emotional investment on children at the sacrifice of most parents own wellbeing and happiness? In our current culture, children are definitely first in most families and marriages and it is shocking when we hear about or meet someone that says their self or husband or wife comes before their kids as an emotional priority. There was a huge uproar when the author Ayelet Waldmans article ran in The New York Times http://www.ayeletwaldman.com/truly.html she wrote about her husband coming first before the four kids. I thought she was narcissistic, selfish and a fool for gaining so much of her happiness from her spouse when I read the article, hey, maybe she is onto something. Who knows?

Our culture for the past few decades has been completely child centered and this study indicates it could be to the determent to ones own overall happiness. Parenting was not historically like this, think about our own childhoods if you were born in the 1950?s. I know I was loved and attended to, but not nearly, anything coming close to the adoration and the way our generation is all consumed with our kids lives and their educational, recreational, psychological and emotional well-being.

[ February 13, 2006, 11:00 AM: Message edited by: mose ]
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The Troubled Teen Industry / from struggling turkeys

« on: February 05, 2006, 07:57:00 PM »

Author Topic: Almost 18, where can he go?
zap
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posted February 05, 2006 09:16 AM
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Are there any Wilderness/TBS/or RTCs that will take unwilling 17 year olds (he will be 18 at the end of May) and keep them past the age of 18 if they are still uncooperative? We had finally settled on a school but they told us they would not accept him after the 17 1/2 cut-off date. Now we don't know where to turn and matters are getting increasingingly bad.
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Dadrod
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posted February 05, 2006 03:28 PM
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There are wilderness programs and therapeutic schools that will take him, and some (fewer) that will allow him to stay past 18, but none that I know of can keep him there past 18 if he wishes to leave. They don't have to make it easy to leave, but the law generally applicable doesn't let them make him stay.

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heleneb
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posted February 05, 2006 03:36 PM
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zap,
AS long as they are under 18, most wilderness programs should take him. I see that you are from NJ. We live in PA and sent our son to a wilderness program in NY (names are not allowed in this section). There are many people who sent their teens to wilderness where they turned 18 at camp. Most chose not to walk out on their b-day IF the parents make it clear that if they leave before the end of the program they will have to walk home and that they would not support them financially. Since you have until May, you have a little bit of time (a month or two) to send him. I am sorry that the TBS you mentioned would not take him because of his age. Our son is at that TBS (in MA). He will turn 18 the beginning of Oct. He is scheduled to graduate from that school the end of Aug. Do not be discouraged. Your EC will help you find a program for him after wilderness. This is not uncommon to take teens your son's age. Especially if your son seems to be in agreement with your plans. There are parents who take their teens to visit schools that you are considering. For our son, wilderness was a surprise and going on to TBS was even more of a shock. E-mail me privately if you need the name of the wilderness. If you end up needing escorts,we used a company out of Maryland who treated our son like he was their own. We also used the same escorts from wilderness to TBS. You are right to intervene NOW..... Helene
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The Troubled Teen Industry / struggling turkeys discussing fornits

« on: January 15, 2006, 06:32:00 PM »

http://www.strugglingteens.com/cgi-bin/ ... 4;t=000055
Author Topic: what's with fornits?
heleneb
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posted January 11, 2006 03:23 PM
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Is anybody real on that site, or are they all disgruntled teens looking to trash every therapeutic program?

I can't wait until they have kids of their own!
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HStreet
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posted January 11, 2006 06:02 PM
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Unfortunately, many of them have chronological ages way beyond the teenage years. However, almost all are disgruntled former program kids. They are one trick ponies with a sole agenda of bashing every single program. They use the mature tools of vulgar language and insults if anyone dares to support a program. The few specks of accurate and useful information on the site is obscured by all the trash talk. My advice- stay away.
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katsmom
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posted January 11, 2006 07:23 PM
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I received vile emails from posters of that site (most seem to be mid 20's?) when I posted here that my daughter was thinking of leaving her program when she turned 18 (she didn't). They basically said I lost the TBS "lotto". Ugh, I feel sympathy for the parents of the people who post there.
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maggie0325
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posted January 12, 2006 08:50 AM
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I, too, have read some of the posts on Fornits. I am a graduate of 20 years and when I read some of the posts referring to the program I graduated from, I can't help wonder what is going on in their lives. I don't understand. I don't think that I am braishwashed (which is what I have been accused of on Fornits)nor am I an advocate of child abuse (another accusation), but I do feel quite strongly that I benefited greatly from my school. I have never claimed that it was perfect, nor have I ever claimed to be perfect as a result of graduating from a TBS ( I just am... hehe). I just did not witness the abuse that is decribed on that site. Never.
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HStreet
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posted January 12, 2006 12:03 PM
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What bothers me is the complete refusal of the Fornits posters to recognize that there might actually be some good programs out there and that there are kids who NEED these programs. Any parent who sends a kid to a program is attacked and accused of abdicating all parenting responsibilities.
No program is perfect, and it is not always easy to find the right program for a particular kid. As we know, by the time we get to the point of considering a residential program, we have tried absolutely everything. But- the Fornits geniuses will tell you to "try sitting down and talking to your kid". Why didn't I think of that?
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mose
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posted January 12, 2006 12:19 PM
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I do think there are people in this world that have truly unloving abusive horrible parents. These parents continued to ruin their child?s life by sending them away when they really did not need this level of intervention. It seems as if all those kids (who are now young adults) found each other on the internet and congregate complaining about their misfortune at Fornits. They spend endless hours basking in the horror of their teen years and family life trying to convince others not to do what their parents did to them. They all seem to have been dealt a bad hand in life and can?t move on.
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FS
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posted January 15, 2006 12:21 PM
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It's too bad that this website is so negative and at times down right abusive. It COULD provide a valuable service. Is there a reputable one that allows people to talk freely on the web about programs? If you don't feel comfortable mentioning it here, please private message me.
Thank you.
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The Troubled Teen Industry / Send the druggie delinquents to SIBS, we are better than th

« on: June 27, 2005, 08:06:00 PM »

Injury at reform school probed
Saturday, June 25, 2005

By Barbara White Stack, Pittsburgh Post-Gazette

State police and the Department of Public Welfare are investigating an incident at a Butler County reform school last weekend that left a West Virginia teen with more than 20 stitches in his face.

Officials at The Summit Academy, a residential school for delinquent boys, told welfare investigators that the teen's face-first crash through a glass cover on a fire hose cabinet was an accident. But doctors at Children's Hospital apparently don't believe that.

After treating Devon Cooper's disfiguring wounds Saturday night, the hospital reported the incident to ChildLine. Doctors are required by state law to inform ChildLine when they believe a youngster has been abused by a parent or caretaker, such as staff at a reform school. Physicians aren't required to report what they believe are accidents.

In addition, Children's Hospital refused to send 17-year-old Cooper, of Charles Town, W.Va., back to the facility with staff member Joe Vacanti, who had driven him to Pittsburgh after he was injured about 9 p.m.

Vacanti was one of two workers directly involved in the incident, but according to an academy spokesman, Vacanti was not the one who "put his hands on the child" during the confrontation.

Hospital officials called Summit and demanded that another staff member drive from the school in Summit Township to pick up Cooper.

Children's Hospital declined to discuss the case, citing federal confidentiality regulations. The academy refused to allow a reporter to speak with Cooper, noting that state law prevents the school from even acknowledging Cooper is a student. And both staff members involved, Vacanti and Dave Akers, said they would not talk about it.

The Summit suspended the two, but they're still being paid, according to Joseph Daugerdas, a spokesman for the nonprofit corporation that operates The Summit Academy and The Academy, a South Hills program that delinquents attend after school and on weekends.

Daugerdas said it is routine for staff to be suspended with pay while such an incident is investigated by The Summit and by welfare officials. "We do not want them around students until we can really find out what happened," he said.

The Summit has filed a report with the state on the incident. It says staff member Vacanti confronted Cooper about going into another child's room when Cooper was supposed to be in bed in his own quarters. Then Akers, a supervisor, intervened.

The report says Cooper "became aggressive and pushed away from the supervisor. [Cooper] lost his balance and fell into a glass cover for a fire hose receptacle injuring the side of his face and ear."

That, however, is not the kind of incident that certain officials, such as doctors, are required by state law to report to ChildLine. They must call in when they have "reasonable cause to suspect that a child has been abused." And, the law says, abuse is "non-accidental serious physical injury."

Daugerdas said that if The Summit determined that staff members involved in a confrontation with a student failed to follow proper procedures, they could be fired.

In addition, he said if a welfare investigation found that a staff member abused a child, the worker would be fired.

The Summit can house as many as 350 boys. Most are delinquents, but its license from the Welfare Department permits it to accept youngsters abused or neglected by their parents. Summit charges the counties that send boys about $90 a day.

There are 263 boys living at the school, including 53 from Allegheny County, 127 from Philadelphia and 16 from West Virginia, Ohio and Washington, D.C., also send youngsters there.

John Law, a spokesman for the West Virginia Department of Health and Human Resources, said he could not discuss an individual child's case. But in general, when a youngster is seriously injured in placement, West Virginia could send a caseworker to the school to investigate or it could bring the child back to the state to hear his side of the story in a setting away from the facility where he was hurt.

"We would look very closely at the provider" to see whether the facility is safe, Law said.

Straight, Inc-By-The-Sea / The Druggie Sweatshop

« on: May 04, 2005, 12:00:00 PM »

We are proud to introduce the Straight by the Sea Druggie Sweatshop where all Druggies manufacture items such as hand sewn soccer balls, fine clothing, coats, and hats. All proceeds from the Straight by the Sea's Druggie Sweatshop goes directly towards the program at Straight by the Sea.

http://fornits.com/SIBS/straight.htm

Also proud to annouce a questions page feturing the answers to common ask questions about Straight by the Sea.

http://fornits.com/SIBS/facts.htm

We are now adding the following job listings to the employment page. http://fornits.com/SIBS/employme.htm

Judges
Must still be employed the the state and be willing to stay employed for the state. For every druggie you court order to complete the program at Straight by the Sea you will receive a $2000.00 cash pay-off. For every referral to Straight by the Sea (without a court order) you make you will also receive a $1,000.00 cash pay-off.

Child Protective Service Workers (DHS Employees)
Must still be employed the the state child protective services (the DHS) and be willing to stay employed for the state. You will receive a cash pay-off for looking the other way when you are called to inspect Straight by the Sea or come interview a child claiming they have been abused at Straight by the Sea. This job pays $200.00 cash for each time you are ask to look the other way. For every referral to Straight by the Sea you make you will also receive a $1,000.00 cash pay-off.

Law Enforcement Personnel
Must still be employed the the state, city or country as law enforcement. You must be willing to stay employed by the state, county, city. You will receive a cash pay-off for looking the other way when you are called to Straight by the Sea or come interview a child claiming they have been abused at Straight by the Sea. This job pays $200.00 cash for each time you are ask to look the other way. For every run-away you return to Straight by the Sea with no questions ask you will receive A $1,000.00 cash payment. For every referral to Straight by the Sea you make you will also receive a $1,000.00 cash pay-off.