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Facility Question and Answers / Re: Second Nature/Boulder Creek Academy?
« on: December 01, 2011, 07:57:55 AM »
"H" is only 15, which is one reason I am so worried about him. That is a long time to be away if they keep him until he is 18. He was sent away for being "withdrawn" and "shy", mainly because his father treats him like shit while he dotes on his brother and sister. Once he got to 2N, they decided he was "Oppositional Defiant, PDD:NOS, and had Anti-Social Personality Disorder". Trust me, he has none of these things. He is a normal 15 year old stuck on the shitty end of his parents divorce.

Thanks for all the links, I will look through them and see if I can find anything to send his mom. She may hate me for it, but I'm willing to lose the friendship of his family in order to save him. I just can't understand why she doesn't see that a place that hasn't even met him that knows he won't be able to leave in 7 months is not a bad place to send him. It makes me sad.

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Facility Question and Answers / Second Nature/Boulder Creek Academy?
« on: November 30, 2011, 09:59:13 PM »
I recently found out that a friend of mine's little brother was shipped off to Second Nature in Utah, and is going straight from there to Boulder Creek Academy in Idaho. I went to dinner with this friend's mom over Thanksgiving, and asked how "H" was doing, since I had not heard from him in a while, and was told he was send to SN, but had to "stay longer than anticipated" and was not allowed to come home for Thanksgiving (he was supposed to be out at the end of October). They are sending him straight to BCA, not even allowing either of his parents to fly out to see him. "H" is supposed to be in my wedding in June, and BCA told his mother that he "may or may not be ready to leave the premises" and that she might not be allowed to fly him back to the east coast where we are.
I've done some reading on here about the two programs, and I am really worried about him. I have been reading all about these places on here, and I know they are bad news bears. I don't know that I would be able to change his mother's mind (he is basically being sent away parents are divorced and his father is shitty to him, the SN place made up some diagnoses which she told me about and I know they are incorrect), but I would like to at least have something concrete to tell her about the terribleness she is sending/sent "H" into.
Also, I guess I am looking for some reassurance that whenever "H" makes it out he will still be the same kid I've know since he was 6.

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