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Dear Former PCS kid:  your feelings are normal. and make perfect sense.  Even though your mom not  be open right now to face the enormity of what she and your dad did to you at least she has learned enough to stand up for your brother (although maybe as part of the divorce drama she is opposed to anything he does; i.e., if he wanted to keep him out maybe she would want him to go to the school).  When parents are caught up in their drama the kids pay the big price.  Remember that most parents are pretty narcisstic and in their minds everything is about themselves.  That is why some pretty shitty decisions are made that have nothing to do with what is actually in the kid's best interest (been there; done that and learned from it).  Please support your mother's decision to keep your brother out and maybe little by little she will come around to understanding the affect it had on you.  I am sorry you had to go through that as a child but now you have to be more mature and intelligent than your mother has been in the past.  She is so eaten up with anger, resentment, fear and guilt that there is no room for much else.  I hope she can get through that with therapy or whatever so that one day she will be able to really listen to you.  Good luck!