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Here are a few choice exerpts from the 1976 TIME article featuring Hyde Schools’ founder Joe "Joey" Gauld.

- Many of the students are troubled, and short-tempered Gauld treats them like a drill instructor faced with a platoon of left-footed recruits. He occasionally slaps and routinely humiliates the kids—with their parents' tacit consent—in a no-holds-barred effort to toughen them up and build their characters.

- "The rod is only wrong in the wrong hands," Gauld likes to say.

- [Gauld] has even conducted a public paddling ceremony at Hyde.

- Parents are required to make a strong commitment to Hyde's philosophy. They participate in two encounter weekend seminars annually, at which everyone criticizes everyone else.

- "Everyone wants to run away from here sometime." In fact, each year about 50 students do run away—and 20 never return. Gauld blames the dropout rate on the parents' failure to uphold their pledge to make runaways return to Hyde.

- “You find that the kids are in effect brainwashed." Doris Vladimiroff, director of HEW'S Upward Bound program in Maine, whose son went to a Hyde summer session, complains: "Gauld's techniques are nothing less than demoniacal."

- Novel and untested, Hyde could not hope to attract outstanding students; thus Gauld started by accepting teen-agers with a history of mental illness or drug problems... Despite the large number of problem children, there are no psychologists on the school's staff, because Hyde teachers prefer to "use our gut feelings."

Full TIME article: http://content.time.com/time/subscriber/article/0,33009,914495,00.html

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And don't forget the wonderful New York Times article:

At the Hyde School, the idea is to break through these restraints on “unique potential,” and this can take forms ranging from attendance at regular self‐criticism “seminars” to an occasional public paddling of obstreperous boys or, in the case of one girl, a dunking in the duck pond.

Mr. Gauld is so insistent that a young person's character is more important than his grades that The Hyde School's graduation honors are ranked according to the graduate's development as a person, rather than on his or her grade.

Mr. Gauld is not surprised by the fact that many of the students who come there are either from troubled families, have washed out of other schools or are what he calls “classic underachievers'—students who are bright but don't seem to get anything out of school.

“Nobody's going to give me their top kids,” he said, “so I go to people and say, ‘Give me the kid who bothers you.'"

New York Times article: https://www.nytimes.com/1974/03/20/archives/new-prep-school-view-kids-character-comes-first-y-iver-peterson.html

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In the Herald News, 1974: https://www.newspapers.com/clip/76377987/duck-pond-paddle/

Gauld insists that although some of his disciplinary methods are unorthodox, they work. On one occasion, when a boy refused to abide by study-hall rules, Gauld ordered him to make a paddle out of wood and then gave him four swats with it in front of the entire student body. Another time, a girl was tossed into the duck pond when she spoke disrespectfully.

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If this is what the Hyde founder called "character building", and bragged about in public national news articles, then what on earth was he also doing and teaching faculty (and all his family members and relatives who run the school) to do behind closed doors????

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See screenshots of a conversation 93 year old Hyde School founder Joe Gauld had in the beginning of 2021 with a former Hyde student regarding rape and a Hyde student distributing nude photos of a 13 year old female Hyde student on campus by an older Hyde student:

Story and photos of this conversation are on Reddit here:
It's also posted on Facebook.



Keep in mind that this man and his entire family have been profiting from "helping" and "educating" kids for over 50 years in the "boarding school(s)" they founded and run, including "troubled" kids, while they've never employed a single licensed psychologist to work there.

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FALLOUT: Joe Gauld's daughter in law, Laura Gauld (married to Joe's son Malcolm Gauld, also head admin of Hyde School) later sent out a letter saying Joe is resigning over this, once Hyde started losing donors.
Letter post on Reddit

Letter text:
Dear Hyde Community,

Some of you may be aware of recent negative comments and upsetting allegations on social media. This past weekend, we were alerted to a report by a Hyde alum involving student-on-student sexual misconduct from several years ago. Hyde's Founder, Joseph Gauld, engaged in a private online communication with this alum. In the course of their exchange, Joey made some statements that were hurtful, puzzling, and inappropriate. These statements do not reflect our vision for Hyde School and they have no place in any conversation about helping young people work through traumatic experiences around relationships and sexual assault.

Upon reflection, Joey made a heartfelt apology on the social media account for his offensive statements. His commitment to help students and parents is part of the reason he ventures into discussions that others might avoid. Despite his 93 years of wisdom as an educator and his belief that he was having a conversation in a private forum, his words were completely unacceptable.

After some meaningful conversations with Joey, we both have agreed that it is time to formalize a change we have been discussing for awhile. Joey will be retiring from any formal role at the school. We will forever be indebted to him for his vision and courage to found a school that broke new ground and made a real difference in the lives of so many students and families. We also know that many of the larger Hyde community will continue to connect with him as he works to find his new purpose.

Hyde's foundation is about character and having the courage to look at one's strengths and challenges - including our own school's self-examination. The safety and well-being of our students is our first concern. In our 54 years of existence, we have developed policies and processes which guide us to take any student or faculty safety allegation seriously.

To any member of our community that has concerns about their time at Hyde, I invite you to reach out and speak with me or someone else in the community that you feel comfortable with. Our pledge to you is that we will listen, learn, and take action where necessary. We look forward to productive and respectful communication.

To help a student unlock their unique potential is the most rewarding aspect of this job. Our commitment to each and every one of you is lifelong. I thank those who have already reached out to both share the strengths and the challenges of their experiences. Know that both are valued and important as Hyde moves onward to achieve its fullest potential.

Sincerely,

Laura D. Gauld
President
Hyde School
616 High Street,
Bath , ME 04530
(207) 443.5584

Sent by [email protected]

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FINDING THE RIGHT SCHOOL:
 LESSONS LEARNED FROM “INSIDE”

Rick Reamer and Deborah Siegel
 - Pawtucket, RI
 [email protected]cox.net

Parents of struggling teens typically agonize about finding the “right” school or program. They sort through mounds of data – from educational consultants, school directories, pamphlets, promotional videos, websites, campus visits and conversations with school staff – before settling on what they hope is the right choice.



We’ve been there. During the spring of 2003, we spent countless hours combing through every morsel of information we could find about an overwhelming array of school options. We knew our child did not need a therapeutic boarding school. We simply needed a school that offered structure; consistent, humane supervision; a positive peer culture; constructive emphasis on personal accountability and integrity; and a willingness to collaborate collegially with parents. We did not seek perfection, realizing that those who do will always be disappointed. We followed the sage advice offered in The Woodbury Reports (December 2000) issue about the “ten most common mistakes parents make” (e.g., “We want a place close to home.” “We want something affordable.” “We want our teen fixed.”). In short, we dotted our “i’s” and crossed our “t’s” – or so we thought.



At the conclusion of our conscientious search, we enrolled our child in The Hyde School in Woodstock, CT. From the outside, Hyde appeared to be the right choice. All of the information about the school flashed “accountability,” “family involvement,” “structure,” and “integrity.” That’s what we wanted.



Unfortunately, that’s not what we got – at least not in the way we expected. What we experienced over the course of a year – and we recognize that families experience the school quite differently – taught us an overarching lesson: Sometimes critically important information about a school can be known only from the inside, particularly from parents and students (and candid staffers) who have walked the halls, sat in on classes, witnessed teacher-student interactions, participated in seminars, hung out on the athletic fields and really breathed the school’s air. We’ve learned that glossy brochures, promotional CD’s and videos, telephone communication, visits with administrators, school tours, and discussions with educational consultants who visit a school for a few days, may not be sufficient. In short, there may be more to the school’s story than initially meets the eye and ear.



We learned a lot this past year about how to search for the right school. We learned that our child’s school had strengths that served us well and that we want to replicate in our child’s next school. True to its promotional material, the earnest and dedicated staff at Hyde emphasized accountability and structure. Both students and parents received consistent messages from staffers about personal integrity and responsibility. We embraced those messages wholeheartedly.



But we also learned concrete lessons about looking for “red flags” that may lurk beneath a school’s promotional material and information available to “outsiders.” Here are the five lessons we learned from our Hyde experience about choosing a school:



Lesson #1: Carefully scrutinize a school’s admissions criteria and standards. Explore whether the school’s student body matches the description in the promotional material. Only after we became involved with Hyde did we learn that it accepts an unusually high percentage of applicants, compared with other boarding schools, and that, as some Hyde administrators say, the vast majority of parents send their children to Hyde to be “fixed” or “turned around” because of their child’s misbehavior, substance abuse, defiance, academic underperformance and so on. The fact that the school accepts nearly everyone who applies undermines the school’s ability to manage its students’ diverse, complex and special needs effectively.



Lesson #2: Compare the school’s approach to adolescents’ issues with widely accepted research-based knowledge. Ask questions about staffers’ familiarity with the latest research on adolescent development and brain chemistry, the impact of enforced sleep deprivation on adolescent behavior and academic performance, and the most constructive ways to handle emotional and behavioral challenges that adolescents pose. In our experience, many Hyde staffers were unfamiliar with, or dismissed, prevailing research-based theories and practices for helping struggling teens. We found a dogmatic adherence to what’s called “the Hyde process,” even when the process wasn’t working.



Lesson #3: Find out how staffers treat students and parents. Observe how staffers communicate and interact. Are they tactful, clear, direct, honest, humane, constructive and civil? Only after witnessing many Hyde personnel interacting with students and parents did we realize that, contrary to prevailing educational and mental health standards, name calling, shaming, intimidation, judging, minimizing and humiliation are embedded in the school’s belief system and practices; these emotionally abusive behaviors are used frequently and intentionally (although not by all staffers). For example, in seminars composed of complete strangers, intimate self-disclosure is demanded. We heard students under this pressure reluctantly disclose, with intense emotion, sensitive information about their mental health issues and trauma histories, only to be called “manipulative,” “drama queen,” “quitter” and other pejorative epithets. In our view, this constitutes verbal and emotional abuse and models poor interpersonal boundaries and communication skills.



Lesson #4: Find out who at the school handles students’ mental health issues. While at Hyde, we discovered that many of the school’s students have psychiatric diagnoses (such as depression, bipolar disorder, eating disorders, ADHD, PTSD). We were surprised that a school that enrolls so many students with these special needs has a nurse on staff to dispense medication but no licensed mental health team. We subsequently gathered information from a large cross-section of traditional boarding schools and discovered that the typical school, including those that do not aim to serve “struggling teens,” has licensed mental health professionals on staff. We gradually came to realize that Hyde tends to view mental health issues as “character flaws,” not as medical conditions that require research-based interventions. Hyde’s decision not to have a licensed counseling team is deliberate, not an oversight; it reflects Hyde’s belief system and model.



Lesson #5: Find out exactly what the school means by “family involvement.” Hyde’s materials trumpet their focus on the family. In actual practice, however, while parents are required to attend many family seminars, they are also explicitly instructed to stay out of the loop, “let go” and let Hyde do its thing, and ignore their child’s feedback about their Hyde experience. Staff communicated with us about our child rarely and superficially. Parents should look for a school that invites parents’ feedback, responds to it and engages in respectful dialogue.

 Finding the right boarding school for one’s child is a daunting responsibility. In the absence of inside information, parents understandably rely on professionals’ recommendations and schools’ promotional material. What we have learned, through trial and error, is that much of what parents need to know to make informed choices can only come from inside the school. Parents need to be wary of schools that have a doctrinaire, “one size fits all” approach and are unwilling to hear respectfully communicated differences of opinion. Try to talk not only with parents who are pleased with the school, but also with those who have had unfortunate experiences there. Finding those parents is a challenge.

Original post: https://strugglingteens.com/news/lettertoeditor/reamersiegel041107.html

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From the host site:
Family Light:   Our biggest concern is that when parents have circulated signed statements expressing concerns about Hyde School(s), the management at Hyde has been unwilling to respond specifically and on the record.

Hyde Schools, Bath ME and Woodstock, CT [now closed] are two schools, under common management that Family Light has very mixed feelings about.

Here are questions we suggest parents ask if considering Hyde.  We suggest that request answers in writing and challenge the school in case of later evidence that there was not full disclosure.

1. What mental health diagnoses occur among Hyde Students? With what frequency?

2. What percentage of you students are taking psychotropic drugs?

3. What are the qualifications of the staff members supervising these students?

4. To what degree are mental health services for your students integrated with the faculty and other staff supervising your students?

5. What is expected of parents regarding participation in parent seminars?

6. What of my personal life am I expected to disclose in the parent seminars? How many other parents will be present?

7. What are the credentials of the people staffing the parent seminars?

8. What donations will I be expected to make to the school, in addition to the tuition?

9. What special provisions to you have for learning disabled students?  Are the teachers of learning disabled students special education certified?  All of them?

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These are former Hyde students who have passed away since leaving Hyde School (at least, these are the ones that a handful of us are aware of). One of them (James Roman) died at Hyde in the 1980's during a basketball game of a brain aneurysm allegedly caused by a heart condition that he didn't know he had (however, Hyde often dismisses student complaints about physical ailments, and there is tremendous pressure to not complain about them at all - "Suck it up!" is a favorite saying by coaches, proctors, other faculty, and even fellow brainwashed students - a willingness to continue workouts through severe pain, tears, and vomiting is required to be considered 'on-track', so whether James had actually experienced warning symptoms from his condition prior to the incident that caused his death is unknown).
 
Out of the over 150 former students with a known/specified cause of death:
- Over 35 of them passed away from drug overdose or substance-related complications
- Over 25 confirmed suicides
- Over 20 accidents (land vehicle, boat, hiking, falling, etc.)
- Over 12 listed as "at home", "suddenly" or "unexpectedly" with no other explanation
- About 12 health (assumed non-mental-health-or-substance-use-related) causes (cancer, kidney disease, etc.)
- 2 military deaths
- 2 by homocide
- 1 died during a robbery, exact cause unknown (to us)
- Over 42 are unknown/unspecified

About 153 of them passed between 1999-2021.

111 of them passed at age 30 or under.  :'(

Name, age at passing (if known):
Austin Allard 21
Don Anthony 23
Chris Baldwin 23
Travis Ballew 23
William Barber 35
Mark Bello 28
Daniel Bennett 23
Brian Bernstein 18
Cintheia Berry 34
Mark Blevins 40
Jeff Boiselle 26
Marissa Borsani 34
Mary "Angelle" Boutwell 29
Chris Bowman 28
Tony Bradley 39
Carol Anne Brown 18
Jennifer Buhler 31
Ben Burlock 20
Virgil Buzzell 36
Nina Carbone 23
Laura Carr 19
Shonali "Shona" Chakrabarti 31
Joshua Christensen 38
Francis Clappsa 22
John Coggins 17
Michelle Correa 42
Deirdre Cotter 51
Ben Cowley 30
Michael Crean 27
Robert Crowe 55
Andrea "Cookie" Crute 26
Sarah Da Rosa 41
Patrick Damon 41
Haden "Hootie" Daras 18
Christian Darling 19
Andrew "Drew" Dean-Lipson 19
John James "Jimmy" Denault 24
Adam Dern 29
Ari Diaconis 33
Chris Dietz 21
Andrew Dillenkofer 19
Alexandra "Alexa" Dublikar 39
Jason "James" Dunbar 34
Dillon Dwyer 26
Robert Ebling 22
Scott Elkin 26
Greg Epilone 28
Adam Frankel 21
Adam Freed 33
Caleb French 20
Todd French
Mike Garber 27
Laura Golden 38
Eric Alan Gottung 24
Stuart Granek 21
Charles Green 32
Josh Gulbrandsen 33
George Hammond 20
Dale Hardegen 30
Kenyatta Hasan 39
Christopher Henson 34
John Hickey 22
Maia Hightower 25
Preston  Holetz 23
Mark Hoover
Christopher Hopperstad 39
Max Horowitz 23
Daniel Jaye 40
Carly Jensen 30
Nathan Jewell 39
Larquette Johnson 29
Kevin Jones 21
Steven Jones 54
Sean Kadagian 27
Ina Kaltenhauser Gary 41
Jon Kaplan 29
Leo Keisman 21
John Kelly
Nicholas Kendall 43
Todd Kern 38
Sage Kiesel 25
Abby Kraftowitz 33
Travis Krogh 29
Mason Latham 16
Megan Lavin 26
Craig Leidner 27
Sam Levinsohn 19
Ned Levy 25
Madelyn Linsenmeir 30
Andrew Llewellyn 23
Karlena "Karlee" MacKenzie 29
Mia Maisel 27
Kevin Mateczun 16
Chris Mauger
Brian McConnell 27
Frank McGill 20
Daniel "Magoo" Mclaughlin 20
Sterling Mclemore 21
Michael McMillan 46
Nik Michaud 23
Maggie Miller 18
Michael Mindell 39
David Mitchell
Patrick Modern 28
Christopher Moran 53
Nick Mortazavi 20
Darius Moshfegh 30
Stephen Mueller 47
Robert Mulholland 54
Mike Noonan 35
Noelle Norris Chase 52
Alexander O'Connor 43
Kyle O'Keefe 21
Kerry O'Leary 25
Francis O'Neill 19
Jon Ogan 23
Margaret "Meg" Orchard-Hays Ferguson 54
Pat Parisi 21
Adam Patterson 30
Joey Perna
Adam Pollock 29
Justin Pratt 28
Luke Prendergast 19
Michael Ragin 26
Alexandra Raineault 22
Sam Rauschenbush 20
Benjamin Reagan 25
William "Tyler" Reed 22
Doug Reilly
James Roman 14 (Died while at Hyde)
Nathaniel Rother 27
Robin Roynon
Hal Rubin 23
Adrij "Dee" Rudko 45
Anton Safonov 20
David Sandelli 34
Marianne Sapienza 24
Kevin Sargent 34
Andrew "Moose" Sayre 29
Alex Schneider 27
Ryan Scioli 19
Cynthia Silverman 29
Joseph "Joe" Slattery 47
Donny Small
Andrew Smith 24
Caitlin Snaith 33
Daniel Spiegel 35
Jon Starets 29
Bradley Steele 51
Doug Steen 21
Timothy "Shane" Stemple 21
Martina "Tina" Takami 30
Scott Thomas 29
Flo Tissandier 20
Alexander Tyler 21
Larry Uras, 18
Alex Vance 29
Alessandro "Al" Vico 21
Jeremy Viebrooks 38
Laura Vines 20
Chelsea Vinton 23
Jonathon "JJ" Vitaletti 38
LC Wagley 22
Reinhold Taylor Wappler 35
William "Billy" Watts 20
Christopher Wells 19
Stefan White 28
John "Johnny" Wimble 24
Ian Worth 19
Jesse Wright 24
Mike Yedid 20
Larry Yerys 19
James Michael Ziede 27

Steve Dupont, missing since 2003 (since age 23)

It's quite upsetting that for a school who claims to "be with you for life," Hyde and the Gaulds and all the spouses/relatives of the Gaulds (who have run and profited from the school for over 50 years by charging parents a lot of money and offering "help" to their troubled teens) do nothing to publicly acknowledge the passings of the vast majority of these former students on their website or anywhere else.   

May they rest in peace.  :'(


Funeral service, memorial services, celebration of life, passed away, untimely death, in memoriam, condolences, with regret, in loving memory, in memory of

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Please follow Hyde School Survivors pages on social media if you had a hard time at Hyde School, experienced abuse, and/or want to be part of the #BreakingCodeSilence movement:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hydeschoolsurvivors/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hydeschool_survivors/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/HydeSurvivors
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hydeschool_survivors

LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/hydesurvivors
Internet Archive: https://archive.org/details/@hssurvivors
Breaking Code Silence Hyde files: https://www.zotero.org/groups/4288739/breaking_code_silence/collections/V6PCN38T


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