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An open discussion about the troubled parent industry

I have worked with students and families from Hyde for the past 15 years and this is simply not my experience.  Imagine that we have Student A) and Student B).  After Hyde, Student A) goes on to college, graduates, and leads a positive, productive and honest life.  Student B) drops out of college, begins to abuse drugs and is like a “tornado roaring through the lives of others.”  Does this mean that Student A) succeeded and Student B) failed?  No, it means that Hyde was able to reach Student A) and was not able to reach Student B).  Like any other school in America, whether public or private, you will have some students and families that had an incredible experience and some that had a very negative experience.  All this is indicative of is that it was not the “right” school for their family.  I often tell clients that if they are looking for the “perfect” school for their son or daughter, they will need to build it themselves.  No matter how aligned a schools values and ethics are to your own, most parents will undoubtedly disagree with some facet of their child’s education and or the school’s curriculum.  Far too often, and I am guilty myself, as a father of three, we as parents want to “pass the buck” when it comes to our child’s struggles and failures.  However, we are more than happy to take and point credit for their successes.  Hyde was founded on two basic premises, “Every individual is gifted with a unique potential that defines a destiny” and “Parents are the primary teachers of character, which makes the home the primary classroom.”  In my experience it is the latter that parents struggle with, especially when their child fails to live up to the standards and expectations set forth.  Hyde is far from traditional, but many of the students that I have referred there over the last 15 years have gone onto to do extraordinary things.  A clear distinction needs to be made; is this the wrong school for my child or is this the wrong school for me?