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From the following post, from the author who says they are the parent of Larry Dubinsky's victim (Hiler).. https://www.fornits.com/phpbb/index.php/topic,22969.msg279705.html

Yes, I have a question.  What would you call a Character Based School who has every opportunity to avoid a lawsuit by simply keeping the pedophile away from the victims yet refuses to do so?  I call this plain STUPIDITY, don't you?

I am the parent of a girl who was sexually fondled by a staff member with the initials LD.  Although Hyde would like you to believe that some lunatic parent made up a story about their daughter being molested by LD, this is not so! It's called "DENIAL" Hyde, when one wants to pretend something didn't happen in order to live with ones self.

 LD did sexually fondle my daughter. The only reason we did not file criminal charges was because the attorney explained that our daughter would be put through more than she could handle going through a criminal trial. It was explained that she would be re traumatized. LD should consider himself lucky.

I asked over a six month period that LD not be allowed on campus.  Hyde would not agree to this no matter how hard I pleaded.  Their stance was that because LD was a parent at Hyde, (he was asked to resign from staff after we pursued this) he had every right to be on campus for his daughters activities, parent weekends, seminars, and the like.  As far as I was concerned, this not only gave him an opportunity to sexually harass other female students, it re traumatized my daughter by seeing him, as well as sent a very poor message to the other students about what kind of behavior would be tolerated on campus. After our many pleadings fell on deaf ears, we filed a lawsuit under Title IX.

 When confronting Malcolm by phone and asking how he would like it if it had happened to his daughter, his response was, "my daughter could handle it."  Geez Louise, poor thing.  I hope she never has to go through something like our daughter. I am still waiting for Malcolm's apology and explanation for such a stupid remark. Also pretty sad that a head of a school would take this type of attitude. Hyde was however kind enough to offer that our daughter should move to the other campus. I guess this is how they offer assistance to a victim. Let the perpetrator stay where he is and enjoy his life in paid campus housing, and send the victim off to another place where she will feel even more isolated, not have any friends, etc.

  In my estimation the whole sick culture at Hyde is pathetic, but I guess wherever there are desperate parents, there will be places like Hyde.  Good luck to all of you.  If you have any questions I would be happy to answer them.  I also would be happy to speak to any incoming parents who might like to know more about Hyde.

.... there is NOTHING humorous about a young girl trusting an older man in a position of authority, who was supposed to protect her, only to then have him fondle her and rape her of her trust in authority.

There was much more to this story.....what they put our daughter through, how they interogated her without us being informed of the crime, how they NEVER offered counseling, etc. For a school that is supposed to be based on "Concern" and "Integrity" they certainly didn't show any!

This is the past and we have moved on, but seeing this other person talk about sexual abuse I felt compelled to inform you that there are many more cases of the same at Hyde. Any parent who reads this website and still decides to send their kid to Hyde, must be nuts!

...When LD enjoyed himself rubbing his body all over my daughter she  complained to Ken Grant who then called her into a meeting with LD, (without my knowledge) along with other adult staff.  She was made to confront him in front of all. MY GOD, this was a sexual assault and they want a young teenage girl to be in the same room as the perpetrator to "confront" him??  Sorry, but this goes beyond sick!! Every single one of those staff who participated in this and knew it was wrong needs to look at themselves and ask why they were such cowards.  I am referring to the non family members who were upset yet kept silent.

Someone asked if we won the case.  The case was going to trial in Ct Federal Court.  The jury was selected.  Hyde then settled right before.When LD enjoyed himself rubbing his body all over my daughter she  complained to Ken Grant who then called her into a meeting with LD, (without my knowledge) along with other adult staff.  She was made to confront him in front of all. MY GOD, this was a sexual assault and they want a young teenage girl to be in the same room as the perpetrator to "confront" him??  Sorry, but this goes beyond sick!! Every single one of those staff who participated in this and knew it was wrong needs to look at themselves and ask why they were such cowards.  I am referring to the non family members who were upset yet kept silent.

Someone asked if we won the case.  The case was going to trial in Ct Federal Court.  The jury was selected.  Hyde then settled right before.

....The difference between the Catholic Church and Hyde is that the Catholic Church has humbled themselves and are making sure this doesn't happen again. Hyde stood behind LD and when they finally made a statement it was, "LD will be taking a little time off to look at his life."

 There was no doubt that the "concern" was about LD, not the victim.

....There were males and females staff in this meeting. My daughter told me it was the most humiliating thing she was ever forced to do.  She was having trouble being in the same room as the creep teacher, (LD) who fondled her, so was looking the other way. Judy Fortier, a former Hyde Mom and staffer told her, "xxxxx, you need to look at LD when you talk to him." Ken Grant also told her that she needed to confront LD and let him know how uncomfortable he made her feel.

The fact that these misguided, ignoramus, mentally impaired  fools who run Hyde School would think it is normal or therapeutic to put a child (victim) through this says it all!!

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In case you couldn't read what Ursus wrote above regarding Larry Dubinsky, former dean of students and his alleged sexual misconduct, (Hyde settled and paid the Hiler family) and "star" of Hiler v Hyde, here are the links to the summary: https://ia800202.us.archive.org/2/items/gov.uscourts.ctd.18684/gov.uscourts.ctd.18684.docket.html and https://www.plainsite.org/dockets/1e0g0oy6/connecticut-district-court/hiler-v-hyde-school/ and here is what Ursus transcribed from photos of the case into text:

UNITED STATES DISTRICT COURT
DISTRICT OF CONNECTICUT

L. HILER VS. HYDE SCHOOL AT WOODSTOCK
CIVIL ACTION NO.
MARCH 5, 2002

COMPLAINT

1.  This is an action by a female student against a private school which, upon information and belief, is the recipient of federal funds, for tolerating and encouraging a pattern of sexual misconduct directed against her and other female students by a male faulty member, over a long period of time.

2.  Jurisdiction of this court is invoked under the provisions of Sections 1331, 1343(3) and 1367(a) of Title 28 of the United States Code and this court's supplementary and diversity jurisdiction over the plaintiff's causes of action under state law.

3.  The plaintiff is an adult female citizen of the State of XXXXX.  She was born on XXX and at all times mentioned herein was an out-of-state student at the defendant's school in Woodstock, Connecticut.

4.  The defendant is a private school located in Woodstock, Connecticut.  Upon information and belief, the defendant receives federal financial assistance for the operation of its educational and related programs.

5.  The amount at issue in this case is greater than seventy-five thousand dollars, exclusive of interest and costs.

6.  In 2001, and for several years prior thereto, the defendant employed at its school in Woodstock an adult male teacher by the name of Larry Dubinsky.  At all times mentioned herein, said Dubinsky was acting as the agent, servant, and employee of the defendant, within the scope of his employment and agency, and for the defendant's financial benefit.

7.  For several years prior to and including the events described hereinafter, the defendant, through its administrators and officials, had actual knowledge that Dubinsky  was subjecting the female students at Hyde School to sexual harassment which included inappropriate touching, staring, and comments.  Despite such actual knowledge, the defendant retained Dubinsky on its faculty and permitted him to continue to have daily, direct and unsupervised contact with the adolescent female students at the school, including the plaintiff.

8.  During the second week of July, 2001, at the school, Dubinsky initiated a "role-playing" incident with the plaintiff in the course of which he insisted upon having full body contact with the plaintiff, repeatedly and over her objection, while making lewd and inappropriate comments to her which included the phrase "fucking pussy".

9.  On August 1, 2001, while instructing a dance routine in which the plaintiff was involved, Dubinsky required the plaintiff to be his partner and to dance with him.  He required her to bend down in front of him, then lifted her, raised her blouse, felt around her body for her hips and placed his hands on her hips.  When the plaintiff objected and moved away from him, he attempted to coerce her into continuing.

10.  When the plaintiff complained to the defendants administrators about the aforesaid misconduct, she was summoned to a meeting at which she was required to meet with Dubinsky and was criticized by administrators for not wanting to look at Dubinsky during the meeting.  The following day, she was summoned to yet another meeting with administrators, which the administrators concealed from her parents.  When school officials were informed in September of 2001 that the plaintiff was suffering from recurring nightmares regarding Dubinsky, a faculty member falsely accused the plaintiff of flirting with another male teacher.  Her mother's pleas to the defendant's highest administrators that Dubinsky be kept away from the plaintiff and not allowed on school grounds were rejected.  In February of 2002, the plaintiff was required to serve as a waitress at a party given by the defendant's headmaster at which other under-age students were required to serve alcoholic beverages.  Dubinsky was an invited guest at that party.

11.  In the manner described above, the defendant has, on the basis of the plaintiff's sex, excluded her from participation in, denied her the benefits of, and/or subjected her to discrimination under an education program or activity receiving Federal financial assistance in violation of Title IX of the Educational Amendments of 1972, Sections 1681 - 1688 of Title 20 of the United States Code.

12.  In the manner described above, the defendant through its aforesaid agent subjected the plaintiff to assault and battery on each of the two separate occasions described above, in violation of Connecticut state law.

13.  The conduct of the defendant and its agent described above was extreme and outrageous and was carried out with the knowledge that it probably would cause the plaintiff to suffer emotional distress.

14.  In the manner described above, the defendant further acted in negligent disregard  of the probability that its conduct would cause the plaintiff, like any person of ordinary sensibilities similarly situated, to suffer emotional distress so severe that physical illness could result.

15.  As a direct and proximate result of the acts and omissions of the defendant described above, the plaintiff has suffered severe emotional distress.

WHEREFORE, the plaintiff claims judgment against the defendant for compensatory damages, punitive damages, attorney fees and costs.

CLAIM FOR JURY TRIAL
The plaintiff claims trial by jury.

THE PLAINTIFF

BY:______________
JOHN R. WILLIAMS
Federal Bar No. ct00215
Williams and Pattis, LLC
51 Elm Street
New Haven, CT 06510
TELEPHONE:  203.562.9931
FAX: 203.776.9494
E-MAIL:  jrw@johnrwilliams.com
Her Attorney

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Regarding above post about the death of 14 year old James Roman that happened at Hyde School on the basketball court:

One of them (James Roman) died at Hyde in the 1980's during a basketball game of a brain aneurysm allegedly caused by a heart condition that he didn't know he had (however, Hyde often dismisses student complaints about physical ailments, and there is tremendous pressure to not complain about them at all - "Suck it up!" is a favorite saying by coaches, proctors, other faculty, and even fellow brainwashed students - a willingness to continue workouts through severe pain, tears, and vomiting is required to be considered 'on-track', so whether James had actually experienced warning symptoms from his condition prior to the incident that caused his death is unknown).

It's confirmed on another thread that James had an enlarged heart.

Well, to be fair, James (after the autopsy) was revealed to have an enlarged heart. According to the medical folks, that pumped too much blood to his brain, which caused the condition. (From here:  https://www.fornits.com/phpbb/index.php?topic=22965.15)

From Web MD:

Symptoms of cardiomegaly:
 
Sometimes, an enlarged heart causes no symptoms. If it becomes unable to pump blood well enough, you may get symptoms of congestive heart failure, such as:

Shortness of breath (especially when active or when lying flat)
Leg swelling
Weight gain, particularly in your midsection
Tired feeling
Palpitations or skipped heartbeats
Some folks may never have symptoms. Others may have little things that don’t change for years. Still others may have shortness of breath that steadily gets a little worse.


Warning signs of a brain aneuryism:
A brain aneurysm that has not ruptured often does not cause any symptoms and may not pose an immediate health risk, especially if the aneurysm is small.

Over time, an aneurysm may grow larger and press up against delicate nerves and tissue in the brain. If this occurs, you may gradually experience one or more of the following symptoms:
-headache
-pain above or behind one eye
-blurred or double vision
-difficulty speaking or swallowing
-numbness or weakness on one side of the body, including the face, an arm or leg
-seizures

Warning signs of sudden cardiac arrest:

Recognizing the warning signs of sudden cardiac arrest is also important. If your child experiences any of the following, he or she should see a pediatric cardiologist for an extensive cardiac evaluation:
-Chest pain or discomfort during physical activity
-Fainting or near fainting without warning or during physical activity
-Seizure without warning or during physical activity
-Excessive fatigue associated with exercise
-They also have Unusually fast heart rate or rhythm with an unknown cause

It's also stated that sometimes a person with an enlarged heart has no symptoms, but sometimes they do. If James did have symptoms and complained, they likely would have been mostly ignored by faculty (as per their standard protocol that I and nearly everyone I know who has gone to Hyde over the span of multiple decades experienced while there), and/or he would have likely felt extreme pressure to not complain about them. Complaining about physical pain, discomfort, and other problematic physical symptoms is treated as a weakness of character. Kids who complain of pain and other physical issues are told that they are lying/exaggerating/making excuses, not putting in effort, "that's bullshit", "suck it up", etc. over and over while being forced to play on extremely demanding sports teams, subjected to brutal punishment workouts, etc. I believe that the only qualified medical personnel ever employed by Hyde School was a registered nurse, or a lower level nurse. A nurse was not available at all times, and they aren't trained to diagnose and treat medical conditions. Children were given no other access to medical resources, short of calling 911 on one of the sparsely placed payphones, or maybe if parents requested, or if a teacher or the med nurse decided to take complaints very very seriously..

The only way to know if James ever complained of symptoms would be to ask his friends/roommates/people who were with him at the time about it (if they would even remember those details). Otherwise we can only wonder. All of this is speculation based on what I know of the place.

One former Hyde student's excellent facebook response to Laura Gauld's letter about her 93 year old father-in-law Joe's ("Joey?") "resignation":

To me, this doesn't feel like accountability because:
1. I'm *sure* this is of no consequence. I highly doubt he was doing anything but collecting a pay check from the school- that will now be retirement/pension and he still obviously has the ear of the heads of school- his literal children.
2. Joey!? This is like an email coming out about Harvey Weinstein that calls him Har-Har the whole time. A nickname in the email feels hugely flippant.
3. An email addressing the concerns of the victim(s) that centers the contributions of the person who created and fostered this culture is trash.
4. Calling it student-on-student sexual assault is language intended to distance accountability and put it back on us- the students.
5. At no point does she name the violence that people experienced there and address a systemic change that will be made or any kind of serious investment and reflection on a change of culture that needs to happen.
6. No acknowledgment of the power dynamic of coming to talk to her while she is his daughter-in-law.
7. No acknowledgment or gratitude for the labor people have done and continue to do to call the school forward.
8. That she references the communication was private (bro, it was over Facebook messenger- no one recorded a call) implies he was some how tricked. Into what..? Sharing his actual opinion?

Parents of struggling teens typically agonize about finding the “right” school or program. They sort through mounds of data – from educational consultants, school directories, pamphlets, promotional videos, websites, campus visits and conversations with school staff – before settling on what they hope is the right choice.



We’ve been there. During the spring of 2003, we spent countless hours combing through every morsel of information we could find about an overwhelming array of school options. We knew our child did not need a therapeutic boarding school. We simply needed a school that offered structure; consistent, humane supervision; a positive peer culture; constructive emphasis on personal accountability and integrity; and a willingness to collaborate collegially with parents. We did not seek perfection, realizing that those who do will always be disappointed. We followed the sage advice offered in The Woodbury Reports (December 2000) issue about the “ten most common mistakes parents make” (e.g., “We want a place close to home.” “We want something affordable.” “We want our teen fixed.”). In short, we dotted our “i’s” and crossed our “t’s” – or so we thought.



At the conclusion of our conscientious search, we enrolled our child in The Hyde School in Woodstock, CT. From the outside, Hyde appeared to be the right choice. All of the information about the school flashed “accountability,” “family involvement,” “structure,” and “integrity.” That’s what we wanted.



Unfortunately, that’s not what we got – at least not in the way we expected. What we experienced over the course of a year – and we recognize that families experience the school quite differently – taught us an overarching lesson: Sometimes critically important information about a school can be known only from the inside, particularly from parents and students (and candid staffers) who have walked the halls, sat in on classes, witnessed teacher-student interactions, participated in seminars, hung out on the athletic fields and really breathed the school’s air. We’ve learned that glossy brochures, promotional CD’s and videos, telephone communication, visits with administrators, school tours, and discussions with educational consultants who visit a school for a few days, may not be sufficient. In short, there may be more to the school’s story than initially meets the eye and ear.



We learned a lot this past year about how to search for the right school. We learned that our child’s school had strengths that served us well and that we want to replicate in our child’s next school. True to its promotional material, the earnest and dedicated staff at Hyde emphasized accountability and structure. Both students and parents received consistent messages from staffers about personal integrity and responsibility. We embraced those messages wholeheartedly.



But we also learned concrete lessons about looking for “red flags” that may lurk beneath a school’s promotional material and information available to “outsiders.” Here are the five lessons we learned from our Hyde experience about choosing a school:



Lesson #1: Carefully scrutinize a school’s admissions criteria and standards. Explore whether the school’s student body matches the description in the promotional material. Only after we became involved with Hyde did we learn that it accepts an unusually high percentage of applicants, compared with other boarding schools, and that, as some Hyde administrators say, the vast majority of parents send their children to Hyde to be “fixed” or “turned around” because of their child’s misbehavior, substance abuse, defiance, academic underperformance and so on. The fact that the school accepts nearly everyone who applies undermines the school’s ability to manage its students’ diverse, complex and special needs effectively.



Lesson #2: Compare the school’s approach to adolescents’ issues with widely accepted research-based knowledge. Ask questions about staffers’ familiarity with the latest research on adolescent development and brain chemistry, the impact of enforced sleep deprivation on adolescent behavior and academic performance, and the most constructive ways to handle emotional and behavioral challenges that adolescents pose. In our experience, many Hyde staffers were unfamiliar with, or dismissed, prevailing research-based theories and practices for helping struggling teens. We found a dogmatic adherence to what’s called “the Hyde process,” even when the process wasn’t working.



Lesson #3: Find out how staffers treat students and parents. Observe how staffers communicate and interact. Are they tactful, clear, direct, honest, humane, constructive and civil? Only after witnessing many Hyde personnel interacting with students and parents did we realize that, contrary to prevailing educational and mental health standards, name calling, shaming, intimidation, judging, minimizing and humiliation are embedded in the school’s belief system and practices; these emotionally abusive behaviors are used frequently and intentionally (although not by all staffers). For example, in seminars composed of complete strangers, intimate self-disclosure is demanded. We heard students under this pressure reluctantly disclose, with intense emotion, sensitive information about their mental health issues and trauma histories, only to be called “manipulative,” “drama queen,” “quitter” and other pejorative epithets. In our view, this constitutes verbal and emotional abuse and models poor interpersonal boundaries and communication skills.



Lesson #4: Find out who at the school handles students’ mental health issues. While at Hyde, we discovered that many of the school’s students have psychiatric diagnoses (such as depression, bipolar disorder, eating disorders, ADHD, PTSD). We were surprised that a school that enrolls so many students with these special needs has a nurse on staff to dispense medication but no licensed mental health team. We subsequently gathered information from a large cross-section of traditional boarding schools and discovered that the typical school, including those that do not aim to serve “struggling teens,” has licensed mental health professionals on staff. We gradually came to realize that Hyde tends to view mental health issues as “character flaws,” not as medical conditions that require research-based interventions. Hyde’s decision not to have a licensed counseling team is deliberate, not an oversight; it reflects Hyde’s belief system and model.



Lesson #5: Find out exactly what the school means by “family involvement.” Hyde’s materials trumpet their focus on the family. In actual practice, however, while parents are required to attend many family seminars, they are also explicitly instructed to stay out of the loop, “let go” and let Hyde do its thing, and ignore their child’s feedback about their Hyde experience. Staff communicated with us about our child rarely and superficially. Parents should look for a school that invites parents’ feedback, responds to it and engages in respectful dialogue.

 Finding the right boarding school for one’s child is a daunting responsibility. In the absence of inside information, parents understandably rely on professionals’ recommendations and schools’ promotional material. What we have learned, through trial and error, is that much of what parents need to know to make informed choices can only come from inside the school. Parents need to be wary of schools that have a doctrinaire, “one size fits all” approach and are unwilling to hear respectfully communicated differences of opinion. Try to talk not only with parents who are pleased with the school, but also with those who have had unfortunate experiences there. Finding those parents is a challenge.

Original post: https://strugglingteens.com/news/lettertoeditor/reamersiegel041107.html

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Family Light:   Our biggest concern is that when parents have circulated signed statements expressing concerns about Hyde School(s), the management at Hyde has been unwilling to respond specifically and on the record.

Hyde Schools, Bath ME and Woodstock, CT [now closed] are two schools, under common management that Family Light has very mixed feelings about.

Here are questions we suggest parents ask if considering Hyde.  We suggest that request answers in writing and challenge the school in case of later evidence that there was not full disclosure.

1. What mental health diagnoses occur among Hyde Students? With what frequency?

2. What percentage of you students are taking psychotropic drugs?

3. What are the qualifications of the staff members supervising these students?

4. To what degree are mental health services for your students integrated with the faculty and other staff supervising your students?

5. What is expected of parents regarding participation in parent seminars?

6. What of my personal life am I expected to disclose in the parent seminars? How many other parents will be present?

7. What are the credentials of the people staffing the parent seminars?

8. What donations will I be expected to make to the school, in addition to the tuition?

9. What special provisions to you have for learning disabled students?  Are the teachers of learning disabled students special education certified?  All of them?

Obituaries - obituary or information regarding each former Hyde School student (now passed) if one has been found -

Austin Allard 21 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/name/austin-allard-obituary?pid=192065763&
Don Anthony 23 http://joycefuneralhome.tributes.com/condolences/view_memories/106241280#150805432
Chris Baldwin 23
Travis Ballew 23
William Barber 35 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/newsobserver/obituary.aspx?n=william-morris-barber&pid=187257415&fhid=30833
Mark Bello 28 https://www.tributearchive.com/obituaries/1768221/Mark-The-Babe-Bello
Daniel Bennett 23 http://www.arlingtoncemetery.net/drbennett.htm
Brian Bernstein 18 http://www.tributes.com/obituary/show/Brian-M.-BERNSTEIN-88149425?
Cintheia Berry 34 https://obits.lohud.com/obituaries/lohud/obituary.aspx?n=cintheia-monique-berry&pid=149182355
Mark Blevins 40
Jeff Boiselle 26 https://www.murphyfuneralhome.com/obituary/140659
Marissa Borsani 34 https://obits.cleveland.com/obituaries/cleveland/obituary.aspx?n=marissa-i-borsani&pid=187229612&fhid=31725
Mary "Angelle" Boutwell 29 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/name/mary-boutwell-obituary?pid=159637855
Chris Bowman 28 https://obituaries.bangordailynews.com/obituary/christopher-bowman-1072935627
Tony Bradley 39
Carol Anne Brown 18 https://www.fornits.com/phpbb/index.php/topic,27330.0.html   Tribute video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ly6Vd95CgNA
Jennifer Buhler 31 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/stamfordadvocate/obituary.aspx?n=jennifer-buhler&pid=194465344&fhid=11211
Ben Burlock 20 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/sfgate/obituary.aspx?n=ben-burlock&pid=173231109
Also: https://www.lopa.org/heroes/benjamin-burlock and https://www.nola.com/news/crime_police/article_1b0435c3-2be8-5c33-815e-3d703d5cb031.html
Virgil Buzzell 36 https://www.dignitymemorial.com/obituaries/portland-me/virgil-buzzell-10196235
Nina Carbone 23 https://everloved.com/life-of/nina-catherina-carbone/obituary/
Laura Carr 17 https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/89681645/laura-carr/photo
Shonali "Shona" Chakrabarti 31 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/name/shonali-chakrabarti-obituary?pid=162877964&page=2
Joshua Christensen 38 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/inquirer/obituary.aspx?n=joshua-r-christensen&pid=173965029
Francis Clappsa 22 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/greenwichtime/obituary.aspx?n=francis-claps&pid=190443018&fhid=7958
John Coggins 17 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/atlanta/obituary.aspx?n=john-coggins&pid=15505460&fhid=4911
Michelle Correa 42
Deirdre Cotter 51 https://obituaries.durangoherald.com/us/obituaries/durangoherald/name/deirdre-cotter-obituary?pid=198971081
Ben Cowley 30 https://www.tributearchive.com/obituaries/18930392/Benjamin-Hardy-Cowley/Louisville/Kentucky/Ratterman-Brothers-SRS
Michael Crean 27 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/name/michael-crean-obituary?pid=176416184
Robert Crowe 55 https://www.tributearchive.com/obituaries/17959122/Robert-E-Crowe
Andrea "Cookie" Crute 26 https://www.facebook.com/1271687631/posts/10215854542577771/?d=n
Sarah Da Rosa 41 http://www.tributes.com/obituary/show/Sarah-Adams-Pope-Da-Rosa-103437736
Patrick Damon 41 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/mainetoday-pressherald/obituary.aspx?pid=18191137
Haden "Hootie"? Daras 18 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/nytimes/obituary.aspx?n=haden-daras&pid=176214225&fhid=2058
Christian Darling 19 https://whitting.com/tribute/details/669/Christian-Darling/obituary.html#tribute-start
Andrew "Drew" Dean-Lipson 19 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/recordonline/obituary.aspx?n=andrew-a-dean-lipson-drew&pid=88173675
John James "Jimmy" Denault 24 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/hartfordcourant/obituary.aspx?n=john-james-denault&pid=170681315&fhid=4107
Adam Dern 29 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/saltlaketribune/obituary.aspx?n=adam-s-dern&pid=152383916
Ari Diaconis 33 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/nytimes/obituary.aspx?n=ari-j-diaconis&pid=188045892 and https://www.aridiaconis.com/#/highschool/
Chris Dietz 21
Andrew Dillenkofer 19 https://www.miznerfuneralhome.com/obituaries/obituary-listings?obId=2587333
Alexandra "Alexa" Dublikar 39 https://www.horancares.com/obituary/alexandra-alexa-dublikar
Jason "James" Dunbar 34 https://www.mercurynews.com/2011/05/26/memorial-may-27-in-lafayette-for-jason-dunbar-sous-chef-who-died-while-hiking-in-yosemite-2/
Dillon Dwyer 26 http://hosting-6776.tributes.com/obituary/show/Dillon-Patrick-Dwyer-102856953
Robert Ebling 22 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/stamfordadvocate/obituary.aspx?n=robert-w-ebling&pid=14659040
Scott Elkin 26 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/bostonglobe/obituary.aspx?n=scott-j-elkin&pid=87907684
Greg Epilone 28 https://www.echovita.com/us/obituaries/ca/irvine/gregory-epilone-jr-7413444
Adam Frankel 21 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/bostonglobe/obituary.aspx?n=adam-nathan-frankel&pid=190778778&fhid=8784
Adam Freed 33 https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/214765701/adam-taylor-freed
Caleb French 20 http://riverafuneralhomes.frontrunnerpro.com/book-of-memories/656882/french-caleb/obituary.php
Todd French 18 https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/229770183/todd-david-french
Mike Garber 27 https://www.dignitymemorial.com/obituaries/cleveland-heights-oh/michael-garber-7669432
Laura Golden 38 https://patch.com/connecticut/greenwich/laura-g-golden-38-daughter-greenwich-residents-0
Eric Alan Gottung 24 https://www.ancientfaces.com/person/eric-allan-gottung-birth-1986-death-2011/7280178
Stuart Granek 21 https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/160992183/stuart-fredric-granek
Charles Green 32 https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/210547690/charles-p.-green
Josh Gulbrandsen 33 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/name/joshua-gulbrandsen-obituary?pid=166626913
George Hammond 20 https://obituaries.salemnews.com/obituary/george-hammond-772280951
Dale Hardegen 30 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/lowellsun/obituary.aspx?pid=175495432
Christopher Henson 34 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/mansfieldnewsjournal/obituary.aspx?n=christopher-henson&pid=192412377&fhid=22471
John Hickey 22 https://www.mysticfuneralhome.com/obituary/1879213
Maia Hightower 25 https://journalism.berkeley.edu/maia-keyanna-hightower-johnson-1995-2021/
Preston Holetz 23 https://sfgov.org/sunshine/sites/default/files/SOTF090518_Item-8.pdf
Mark Hoover 37 https://keprtv.com/news/local/pasco-high-teacher-dies-suddenly-from-medical-emergency-at-37
Christopher Hopperstad 39 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/name/christopher-hopperstad-obituary?pid=196129543
Max Horowitz 23 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/northjersey/obituary.aspx?n=maxwell-horwitz&pid=165446587&fhid=14973&
Daniel Jaye 40
Carly Jensen 30 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/gjsentinel/obituary.aspx?n=carly-jensen&pid=192888456&fhid=203
Nathan Jewell 39 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/burlingtonfreepress/obituary.aspx?pid=185739561
Larquette Johnson 29 https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1cbodJraxWnXL9QprHpFa4jc29Nk9JnsitBI6S4XP1HY/edit#gid=0
Kevin Jones 21 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/nhregister/obituary.aspx?n=kevin-jones&pid=184648480&fhid=15951 actually he probably attended Hyde Leadership Charter School in CT.
Steven Jones 54 https://www.andrefbakerfuneralhome.com/obituary/steven-jones
Sean Kadagian 27
Ina Kaltenhauser Gary 41 https://www.newjerseyhills.com/ina-kaltenhauser-gary-41-warren-resident-mother/article_7497f5bc-0b81-579c-a0ba-da62c1a8c0c1.html
Jon Kaplan 29 https://www.schlossbergchapel.com/individual.php?id=2051
Leo Keisman 21 https://www.facebook.com/100000092276697/posts/4318808981465468/?d=n
Nicholas Kendall 43 https://www.hollowayfuneralhomefl.com/obituary/Nicholas-Kendall/guest-book
Todd Kern 38 https://www.greenvalleymortuary.com/obituaries/Todd-Kern/
Sage Kiesel 25 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/name/sage-kiesel-obituary?pid=143344383&page=2
Abby Kraftowitz 33 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/postgazette/obituary.aspx?n=abby-kraftowitz&pid=194993677&fhid=9699
Travis Krogh 29 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/marinij/obituary.aspx?n=travis-krogh&pid=176064501
Mason Latham 16 https://obits.dallasnews.com/obituaries/dallasmorningnews/obituary.aspx?n=mason-charles-latham&pid=150002717&fhid=11533
Megan Lavin 26 https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/115705929/megan-lavin
Craig Leidner 27 https://www.thompsonmemorial.net/index.php/obituaries/157-james-craig-leidner
Sam Levinsohn 19
Ned Levy 25 https://www.emkpress.com/pdffiles/POM%20final%20small%20copy.pdf
Madelyn Linsenmeir 30 https://www.sevendaysvt.com/vermont/madelyn-linsenmeir-1988-2018/Content?oid=21797604 and https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/woman-who-begged-medical-help-was-told-it-was-her-n1152276?cid=sm_npd_nn_fb_ma&
Andrew Llewellyn 23 https://www.genealogybuff.com/va/state/webbbs_config.pl/noframes/read/450
Karlena "Karlee" MacKenzie 29 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/lowellsun/obituary.aspx?n=karlena-a-mackenzie&pid=161853479
Mia Maisel 27
Kevin Mateczun 16 https://www.epilepsy.com/about-us/research-and-new-therapies/kevins-fellows/kevins-story
Chris Mauger  https://www.dailycamera.com/2009/08/15/accused-deserter-could-face-up-to-3-years-confinement/
Brian McConnell 27 https://www.legacy.com/us/obituaries/lohud/name/brian-mcconnell-obituary?id=22935767
Frank McGill 20 http://wcfish.tributes.com/obituary/show/Franklin-Wofford-McGill-85332205
Daniel "Magoo" Mclaughlin 20
Sterling Mclemore 21 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/montgomeryadvertiser/obituary.aspx?pid=156330618
Michael McMillan 46 https://www.ellsworthamerican.com/obituary/michael-mcmillen/
Nikolas Michaud 23 https://www.myheritage.com/names/nikolas_michaud
Maggie Miller 18 https://www.nytimes.com/2000/11/06/classified/paid-notice-deaths-miller-margaret-elizabeth.html
Michael Mindell 39 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/burlingtonfreepress/obituary.aspx?n=michael-leon-mindell&pid=166143645
David Mitchell
Patrick Modern 28 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/name/patrick-modern-obituary?pid=171375322
Nick Mortazavi 20 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/name/nicholas-mortazavi-obituary?pid=189663860
Darius Moshfegh 30 https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/16/books/ottessa-moshfegh-death-in-her-hands.html
Stephen Mueller 47
Robert Mulholland 54 https://obits.postandcourier.com/us/obituaries/charleston/name/robert-mulholland-obituary?pid=100380481
Mike Noonan 35 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/washingtonpost/obituary.aspx?n=michael-noonan&pid=194526190
Noelle Norris Chase 52 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/azcentral/obituary.aspx?n=noelle-b-chase&pid=164975643
Alexander O'Connor 43 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/name/alexander-o%27connor-obituary?pid=158275565
Kyle O'Keefe 21
Kerry O'Leary 25 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/name/kerry-o-leary-obituary?pid=179381591
Francis O'Neill 19 http://www.myhometownbronxville.com/index.php/obituaries/2868-frances-francie-catherine-cutting-oneill-dies-peacefully-on-june-13-2017-in-charleston-sc-at-age-19-funeral-service-thursday-june-22?
Jon Ogan 23 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/name/jonathan-ogan-obituary?pid=86432767
Pat Parisi 21 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/app/obituary.aspx?n=patrick-a-parisi&pid=154854076
Adam Patterson 30 https://www.websleuths.com/forums/threads/me-adam-patterson-30-portland-10-november-2015.388751/
Joey Perna 32 https://www.gofundme.com/f/63hnq-please-help-for-this-boy
Adam Pollock 29 https://obits.nj.com/obituaries/starledger/obituary.aspx?n=adam-pollack&pid=186926653&fhid=16990
Justin Pratt 28 https://heritagelifestory.com/obituaries/justin-pratt.118143
Luke Prendergast 19 https://patch.com/florida/clearwater/man-19-dead-after-shooting-himself-gun-range-cops
Michael Ragin 26 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/florencenews/obituary.aspx?n=michael-ragin&pid=2029153
Alexandra Raineault 22 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/thehour/obituary.aspx?pid=141347312
Sam Rauschenbush 20 https://patch.com/california/piedmont/remembering-sam-raushenbush?
Benjamin Reagan 25 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/washingtonpost/obituary.aspx?n=benjamin-d-reagan&pid=161715510
William "Tyler" Reed 22 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/mainetoday-pressherald/obituary.aspx?n=william-tyler-reed&pid=17013654
James Roman 14 https://www.fornits.com/phpbb/index.php/topic,22965.msg336117.html#msg336117
Nathaniel Rother 27 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/washingtonpost/obituary.aspx?n=nathaniel-a-rother&pid=134057817
Robin Roynon 26 https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/219367713/robin-lee_hood-roynon
Hal Rubin 23 https://elem.org/donate/harold-rubin-memorial/
Adrij "Dee" Rudko 45 https://www.oldbridgefh.com/obituaries/Andrij-Rudko/#!/Obituary
Anton Safonov 20
David Sandelli 34
Marianne Sapienza 24
Kevin Sargent 34 https://obits.masslive.com/obituaries/masslive/obituary.aspx?n=kevin-m-sargent&pid=174967120&
Andrew "Moose" Sayre 29 https://www.fornits.com/phpbb/index.php/topic,23777.msg290919.html#msg290919
Alex Schneider 27 https://issuu.com/wfervor/docs/hyde_schools_destinydefined
Ryan Scioli 19 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/lubbockonline/obituary.aspx?n=anthony-ryan-scioli&pid=165408375&fhid=19536
Cynthia Silverman 29 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/nytimes/obituary.aspx?n=cynthia-silverman&pid=194919046
Joseph "Joe" Slattery 47 http://www.obitcentral.com/obitsearch/obits/me/me-cumberland23.htm
Andrew Smith 24 https://www.caringbridge.org/visit/andrewsmithsmemorial
Caitlin Snaith 33 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/fitchburg/obituary.aspx?n=caitlin-virginia-elizabeth-snaith&pid=169872795&fhid=20758&
Daniel Spiegel 35 https://obits.nj.com/obituaries/starledger/obituary.aspx?pid=196170424
Jon Starets 29 https://www.facebook.com/jstarets
Bradley Steele 51 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/cincinnati/obituary.aspx?pid=173152767
Doug Steen 21 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/hartfordcourant/obituary.aspx?pid=157509321
Timothy "Shane" Stemple 21 https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/16542058/timothy-stemple
Martina "Tina" Takami 30 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/mainetoday-pressherald/obituary.aspx?n=martina-m-takami&pid=175525682
Scott Thomas 29 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/ctpost/obituary.aspx?n=scott-a-thomas&pid=115314007&fhid=4258
Flo Tissandier 20 https://www.facebook.com/thiago.vinholo/posts/10151463325351426
Alexander Tyler 21 https://www.post-gazette.com/news/obituaries/2011/03/10/Obituary-Alexander-Tyler-Former-Ohio-Wesleyan-student-killed-in-gun-mishap/stories/201103100749
Alex Vance 29 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/name/alex-vance-obituary?pid=187859475
Alessandro "Al" Vico 21 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/theithacajournal/obituary.aspx?n=alessandro-vico-al&pid=87918990
Jeremy Viebrooks 38 https://www.palmbeachmemorial.com/m/obituaries/Jeremy-Viebrooks/Memories
Laura Vines 20 https://www.genlookups.com/al/webbbs_config.pl/noframes/read/449
Chelsea Vinton 23 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/name/chelsea-vinton-obituary?pid=163468522
Jonathon "JJ" Vitaletti 38 https://www.swbrownandson.com/memorials/jonathan-vitaletti/4478281/
LC Wagley 22 https://obittree.com/obituary/us/massachusetts/watertown/faggas-funeral-home/louisa-caroline-wagley/2954791/
Reinhold Taylor Wappler 35 https://www.pressherald.com/2021/03/24/obituaryreinhold-taylor-wappler/
William "Billy" Watts 20 https://www.beckerfuneralhomes.com/notices/William-CharlesWatts-III
Christopher Wells 19 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/thestate/obituary.aspx?n=christopher-gadsden-wells&pid=160176786
Stefan White 28 https://foresthillspost.com/man-struck-killed-by-lirr-train-in-forest-hills-on-sunday-mta?
John "Johnny" Wimble 24 https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/seattletimes/obituary.aspx?pid=141802464
Ian Worth 19 https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/162797497/ian-worth
Jesse Wright 24 https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/86308732/jesse-andrew-wright
Mike Yedid 20 https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/176809597/michael-yedid
Larry Yerys 19 https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/78785295/lawrence-w.-yerys
James Michael Ziede 27 https://massapequafuneralhome.com/obituary/james-michael-ziede/

In the rising of the sun and in its going down,
we remember them.
In the blowing of the wind and in the chill of winter,
we remember them.
In the opening of buds and in the rebirth of spring,
we remember them.
In the blueness of the sky and in the warmth of summer,
we remember them.
In the rustling of leaves and in the beauty of autumn,
we remember them.
In the beginning of the year and when it ends,
we remember them.
When we are weary and in need of strength,
we remember them.
When we are lost and sick at heart,
we remember them.
When we have joys we yearn to share,
we remember them.
So long as we live, they too shall live, for they are now a part of us,
as we remember them.

-"A Litany of Remembrance", Rabbi Sylvan Kamens and Rabbi Jack Riemer

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