A lot of us use that term because that's how we felt.....like we were inmates in a prison.
Well for some of us who were in prison and know damn well you never were, it is like a slap in the face. Because you don't know a darn thing about Juvenile Detention Centers, County/Town/City Jails or Prisons.
So please do not refer to yourselves as inmates. Most of you were rich snotty little kids who finally got your butts whipped and want to cry about it now or not.
I'm not judging, I'm just say'in.
Anne there was abuse in the programs on a large scale back in the day but let me tell ya, it was nothing like the peer-pressure you would have received in prison.
Bullshit. I was never in juvie, or prison, but I have been in a handful of adult rehabs and more county jails than I can remember. NOTHING came close to that kiddie rehab I was in when I was 15. The term 'inmate' is entirely appropriate. ' Victim ' would work too.
I agree with you 100% Shadyacres. I've spent time in both juvie & county jail - I definately
preferred those places over the program I was sent to (CEDU). Yes it is true that juvie &
county jail are more violent environments than Cedu was. However, I coped with this by
not talking shit, staying out of other people's business, staying alert at all times, & making
as many friends as possible - and I left these places relatively unscathed.
Nobody at county jail or juvie tried to brainwash me while depriving me of sleep for 30+ hours straight. Nobody at juvie/county demanded that I constantly talk about my feelings. I was never put "bans" from anyone or anything, or restricted from discussing whatever the hell I wanted to. Unlike Cedu, in county jail/juvie I could write letters to and/or call whoever the
fuck I wanted to. Unlike Cedu, in county jail/juvie I could receive visits from anyone & everyone who wanted to come see me.
In Jail, I wasn't forced to sit thru 15+ hours a week in raps, hearing other inmates talk about all the fucked up shit they did like sticking things up their asses, being molested by their parents, being raped in foster homes, turning tricks for drugs, fucking their siblings, trying to get head from their dogs, etcetera. Even better, in jail I didn't have to sit through raps hearing the STAFF talk about molesting 13 year old girls, setting a homeless man on fire, killing someone while drunk driving, or jerking off into milk cartons filled with raw chicken livers -all of which happened Cedu.
At least in jail - my thoughts were my own. I was expected to do my time - but how I felt about it and dealt with it was my own business, and no one elses. And also my life went on,
sure I was in jail - but that didn't mean I had to be completely isolated from the world, and everyone & everything that meant something to me. Cedu on the other hand - they took everything away from me, they completely alienated me from the real world - total isolation!
Furthermore, I went to juvie/county jail because I was arrested for and/or convicted of breaking the law. At least I was there for a reason, and I received due process before being confined. Most of the kids being placed in programs aren't ever arrested, charged, or convicted of anything. They're imprisoned without even a hearing, let alone trial - in other words kids are being confined without it ever being proven that they did anything wrong!
In this respect - programs are no better than concentration camps! In fact, while at Cedu
I met over a dozen kids who as far as I could tell, were sent there soley they weren't
getting along with their new step parent! This is NOT a valid reason for imprisoning someone!
"Inmate", "Prisoner" & "Victim" are all entirely appropriate terms for describing people
stuck in programs. Also for many people I knew at Cedu, adding the pre-fix "Innocent"
to any of the aforementioned terms would be an appropriate description as well.