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Mission Mountain School / Didn't we all used to be friends?
« on: May 02, 2005, 02:02:00 AM »
hey jessica
Are you the hypoglycemic soccer chick who was from seattle? It's rebecca engel we went to MMS together. I just wanted to say hi and let you know that I was thinking of you. we went on our mom's retreat together. I hope that you are doing okay and if you ever need anything let me know. E-mail me at [email protected]. Thanks kiddo for your post. I hope that you can also check out classmates .com they have a MMS section fro when we went there. Write back if you want.
Rebecca
P.S. to everyoen who wants me to stop posting you got what you wanted after this. I am sorry you can't handle that i had a good experience ther and am trying to reconnect with friends.

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Mission Mountain School / I think i agree
« on: May 01, 2005, 05:57:00 PM »
This is just my opinion like you just shared yours I think that it's a shame not to change how you feel when it affects your life so negatively. I think people should share it and grow from it. That is what I think about this forum and what I think about MMS. I grew from it and you're right i stopped being an "asshole" but I differ from your point of view I think that I did learn how to do it from MMS and therapy afterwards.
Rebecca :wave:

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Mission Mountain School / my experiences at MMS befoer and after
« on: May 01, 2005, 05:53:00 PM »
no I don't I am glad your brother got his treatment for his disease. It's a scary thing to have something your whole life and finally be able to put a name on it. there are many support things out there for people with neurological diseases and their friends and family. You should check it out. I know it helps. like posting on this forum is good for people who need to get things off their chest. Did you go there are you just an observer sharing your opinion? Thanks for your opinion.
Rebecca  :wave:

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Mission Mountain School / MMS changed my life
« on: May 01, 2005, 05:49:00 PM »
hey aya,
I want to get your e-mail address.Please e-mail me if you want because I would like to have some contact with someoone I went to school with. Do you have any of the chat things? Well I am going to give you my e-mail address I hope that you e-mail me back so I don't have to leave this up for very long. Here's my e-mail. [email protected]
Feel free to e-mail me anytime. I know that the people who read this will. Have a great day.
Rebecca :wave:
P.S. where are you in life today? I am glad that we are some of the few that have a few positive thing to say about MMS. I am glad you had a postive that you are willing to share here.

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Mission Mountain School / MMS poll: Helpful or Harmful
« on: May 01, 2005, 05:40:00 PM »
I am not blaming you I am just saying that you e-mailed me under false pretenses I am not blaming you or any victim. I am jut saying that I stopped being the victim and you know what I am not supervised that you re turning his around to me being harsh when I am just sharing my opinion just like you. I am free to do that it' why this is a forum. You don't have to agree with me like I don't have to agree with you. About my negative feelings read my posts and then you will know where i am coming from. I am not blaming anyone and that's the difference between me and you. I know my responsibilities in my life and in my past, I don't know you so I have no bone to pick with you but if you put up another post with a gun shooting some comment I will know that you want to just fight and be abusive and i will not respond to any more of your posts because guns and violence and intimidating conversation like that is dumb. I will not play a part in it. I jut stated my opinion and you stated yours. thanks for informing me of your opinion but know I will reply back with my own.
Rebecca :wave:

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Mission Mountain School / validity of forum
« on: May 01, 2005, 04:04:00 PM »
see topic of I think i agree please I hope this helps.
rebecca

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Mission Mountain School / I think i agree
« on: May 01, 2005, 04:03:00 PM »
I am trying to bring my own experience to level out this negativity and I think you are correct int he fact that people are so negative I think people who have held onto such resentments for so long have to get some kind of help like therapy to get over it or help with it. And it is obvious from this forum that they aren't willing to. Its a shame
Rebecca

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Mission Mountain School / FACTS
« on: May 01, 2005, 04:01:00 PM »
If these are facts are so true and so meaningful to you then why are you so scared to say them yourself wy continue to be anonymous? I am not portraying this school to be anything but my opinion of it. I am not i repeat not telling dandy stroies and I don't think John mercer is all godly and I will not put up an altar to him. HE is human and he makes mistakes just like you and me. I am not sayign what he does is okay because I am studing to be a licensed therapist. And from what i can tell from my own experience his methods are called attack therapy and if you would lie to know more about it look it up in a book or ask me and i can share my knowledge. Don't be afraid to share your opinion but don't do it when you can hide behind being anonymous.
Rebecca

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Mission Mountain School / MMS poll: Helpful or Harmful
« on: May 01, 2005, 03:41:00 PM »
I think it was helpful and stop e-mail people on classmates and telling them you went to school with them when you didn't. I am glad and saddened that you did. Now I ca put up my opinion but now I have to read all of the negative which is everyone else's truth. Here's mine I owe my life to that place and I have had all those negative feelings that each one of t=you had but I grew up and got through them through thereapy adn other helpful supportive things. Stop blaming an intisituion fro your problems when what's the common denominator "YOU"
This is just my opinion
Rebecca

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Mission Mountain School / To Each Her Own
« on: May 01, 2005, 03:30:00 PM »
hey ashlee
I hope you can read my posts. I have seen your profile on classmates.com and I have to tell you that I appreciate your post though I don't agree with it all. I have no idea where bee or cary or ann are today but if I did I would tell you. I hope that this helps. I just wanted to say hi. I am sad that you are still struggling with your eating disorder can you get help for it? Where are you living now? You got married and have kids now? wow how time flies. Feel free to say hi any time.
Rebecca Engel

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Mission Mountain School / MMS changed my life
« on: May 01, 2005, 03:19:00 PM »
hey aya,
I remember you. You were from Japan and you were so quiet. i am glad that you had a good experiences and that you learned from them. i appreciate reading your post it bugs me when I read such hostility from others but yours was quite refreshing do you keep in touh with anoyone there?I have amemory of you. You had a bunny that John gave you and it was beautiful and youkept it in a cage outside the group room I can't rememebr the buildings name now. So what are you up to now?
Let me know.
Rebecca engel

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Mission Mountain School / my experiences at MMS befoer and after
« on: May 01, 2005, 02:37:00 PM »
Hey everyone.
My name is Rebecca Engel and I am 23 and I went to MMS almost nine years ago. I am here because I didn't know there was a way to contact people at MMS afterwards. I left without signing the alumni book but I graduated. At least I don't remember signing the alumni book maybe I did. Like I said it's been awhile.
You know I have read all the posts about people's experiences at MMS before my time and most are after my time. I went to MMS from July 1st, 1996-July 1st 1998. Exactly two years and I have a lot I could share about. But I want to give you all a background of why exactly I went there. I was an abusive punk, I ran away from home, I fought with my parents I made their lives miserable because I was miserable and I didn't know how to tell them that. I did drugs, I fought with my peers, I thought I was this bad ass at the age of 14, that I was invincible, and that I had everything under control. When my brother graduated from high school in 96 we went on family vacation to Idaho where my parents told me I was never coming home to live there again. I was sent to SUWS which it seems that majority of MMS grads went there. I was pissed, but deep down I knew that they were right I was out of control even though at the time I wouldn't have admitted that under torture. When I went to MMS I was picked up at the Kalispell airport by Donna and some girls who were coming back from a home visit. I was bitter and tired of being in the new places and having to learn all these new people?s names. I thought I don't need to be here I barely did anything. You know in adolescence that forgetfulness about our own actions. My two years at MMS were eventful I went there I was 200 pounds and on a 5'5 frame that is obese. When I first got there I hadn?t ever done a thing for myself it seemed. I didn?t know how to clean my room, I had never really done chores before, I?d never done anything that was required at MMS, and I had never been in close quarters with girls. Hell I didn?t have but one friend who was a girl before I came to MMS and that was my best friend who I am still friends with today. I had always been friends with guys b/c they were easier to get along with. But mostly I was a loner. I didn't change overnight and I don't think that's the goal of MMS. And I think some of their methods can be deemed abusive but I ask everyone who is commenting on that to look at their own actions before they came there and see if they really were the angels they claim to be today. I know that I went to MMS and I still think two years is a short time and there is more I could have learned and done differently. I was sent midwinter of my first year to another wilderness program because I was stealing granola from the freezer and fighting and being abusive myself to the other girls I couldn't stop and I think that the night before I left for Catherine freer changed me. When I came back I wanted to be there and I was grateful. That also didn?t happen over night, on Catherine freer there were kids that were going to California Youth Authority and other such places. I just want to mention that I have volunteered there and I think that places is 100times worse than MMS and it?s state and federally regulated and kids die there. I will never do that again. But I am getting ahead of myself.
Back at MMS I was not an athlete and I made efforts and I lost weight with the help of Deb who is a licensed nutritionist so she can tell us what to eat and not eat because she has more knowledge about food than all 30 of us girls who went there at that time put together. I didn?t like Deb, Mike, Gary, John, or Colleen. I didn?t like anyone in authority positions at that time in my life. I went through and I became closer to the girls and the staff as time went on. I owe my life to MMS because when I went there I had lived in Arizona my whole life and never lived in cold weather. When I lived in Montana I found out I had something wrong with my feet and hands. The staff at MMS Deb in particular noticed I walked funny and when they asked me about it I said I?d always done it. Well they sent me to doctors and then they sent me to specialist. I went home (way before I was ready) and I saw a neurologist who told me I had a neuropathy. I would have never know about that if it weren?t for MMS and that affects my life very little today because of the things I have learned and achieved at MMS. I also really didn?t get honest with the staff at MMS in the beginning because my whole life I had been dishonest. They taught me that it wasn?t okay to be dishonest and that I needed to see my own potential and my own actions. I left MMS and went on the another boarding school and I picked up a resentment when I left I felt that these people who had come to mean so much to me wanted nothing to do with me the day I left. I was bitter because of all this hard work I had done I thought they saw it as not good enough. I decided then and there on the flight back through my tears that I would never speak to them again. I wouldn?t understand that until I was in their position as an adult today. I went home for that summer for school and then was transported to my next boarding school where I graduated from high school. I went onto college even though I wasn?t ready. Did I mention that when I went home for the summer my parents let me drink in front of them? It was okay with them because they didn?t think I was an addict and half of the ideas that MMS had told them about me they didn?t believe. My parents and brother needed to work on themselves and not just blame me for the problems. Needless to say that was the last summer I spent at home, but I started to think I could handle the drinking and the way I felt and not have to do the things that I had done for the last two years.  I learned very quickly how much my old life could come back and I thought I could handle it. I got back into all the old behaviors but I never let it get too big that I would need an intervention. Until my 21st birthday when went all out had been doing drugs for days and my parents were there so I had to be on my best behavior. As soon as they left me and my friends at the restaurant to fly home I don?t remember what happened for the next week. But I woke up out of that blackout and I decided right then and there that I was going to end it all. When I had talked myself out of that ( I was too much of a chicken shit) I decided right then and there I wasn?t going to finish my senior year at the school I was at that I need  help and I was going to get it. I went to a rehab 2 and years ago and come this summer I will be working at the adolescent department because I am graduating this May from college in California. I owe a lot to MMS and I had resentments and the same feelings that many of you shared it is only until I got clean and looked at my part in my own life that I realized I was not the victim anymore and that I have a part in everything I choose to do. And I have gained so much knowledge from the aspects of MMS and you know what I wouldn?t trade anything in my life even the bad stuff to change me going there. I owe them for giving me a life and teaching me the tools not to screw it up. I thought school had to be my priority and I took a year off to get clean and figure out myself and live my life. I go to meetings and I do the 12 steps I won?t break my anonymity by telling you which ones I go to. I hope that this helps someone so they don?t make the same mistakes I did when I left. There is help out there, and if you keep denying that you need it when you truly might need it might not be there. To all the people who are blaming John, Mike, Gary, Deb, Colleen, your parents or anyone else for MMS or what brought you there or to where you went after. I hope this helps you because I know I did blame them and after learning from the steps my part in things and how to get rid of my resentments I don?t blame them anymore. I hope that each of you can find peace and find yourselves
I know there will be some responses to what I have said. I hope that you all learn to communicate your feelings and change them instead of blaming, bitching or holding resentments. Because resentments will kill you I can attest to that. I needed to put this out there and I am willing to hear everyone?s opinion even if I won?t agree with it. This is an open forum it is your right to put what you want as it is mine. I just hope that everyone gets the help they need. I know I did and I am living my life each day anew.
Rebecca Engel :wave:

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Mission Mountain School / My experience at MMS
« on: May 01, 2005, 01:41:00 PM »
Whitney,
Are you from texas orginially? I think I know you I was your big sister when you came to MMS and You're already a junior at ASU? OMigosh how time flies. my name is Rebecca and I don't now if you remember me but if you do reply back to this. God it's been almost ten years since I was sent there and I remember it like it was yesterday. I am glad that you have stayed strong and I am glad to see your post. Not that i agree with everything you said but what you said was important and valid to you. I am happy to see that you have changed and maybe that makes you like MMS but they had some good ideals and some defining goals to strive towards. I think that oyu have achieved that by being successful from all your hard work and the tings you learned from their. I am going to make a post now and i hope you will respond back to me at any time. I have not kept in touch after school for many reasons... but now I think I will. Thanks
Rebecca Engel
P.S. Anyone who knows me and is on here please let me know and respond to my post!!

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