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Geoff, I went to CEDU in 1987.  I NEVER spoke about this experience until I came to this site; I understand wanting your folks to understand the shit behind the facade.  I would talk to them if necessary or if they were amiable, but a staff member would be a real coup.  Maybe Roy or Max can help you to this end.

In any event, for me it was 15 years ago, and I am just now realizing the damage.I kind of subliminated it. It came out in anxiety; distrust of any relationships; difficulty emerging into real world after being in such an insular environment etc.  

It's good you are dealing with this now instead of later. Good luck.

Gosh, laura, I feel so stupid. I really thought everyone totally bought into all the stupid rules and mind trips. I thought there was something wrong with me for not... I never questionned that anyone was faking it. I don't know how you survived rebelling. I knew after the Truth propheet that I would be broken into submission if I stayed because they didn't tolerate anything but total capitulation. When I got there, my whole focus was to blend into the woodwork and stay dirt-free.  The only dirt I had was knowing I HAD to split before whatever was left of me was smashed.  But even then I was totally unprepared to deal with the real world after that insulated crap. I trusted NO ONE.

I wonder how much CEDU has changed since then. It seems like the changes were largely cosmetic. We didn't have therapists.  I wouldn't have trusted them anyway if they told CEDU everything.  

YOu know I resented my team leaders most because they were full of shit and saw how they manipulated me and my parents and could never get there facts straight, screwing up my story for their own purposes, but I never went further than Vision to fully experience other staff, except in raps.

Unlike you, Pam (never my family head) was totally cool to me especially when I had table time; she just sat and talked about different stuff; she never condescended or exaggerated or used things against me later, like Jim and Laurie did.  I was in one rap where she let this total BULLY from hell rip a person to shreds for being too smiley(a new staff member--someone's spouse who was trying to be supportive and was one of the few bright lights there). This bully that CEDU nourished had carte blanche to basically humiliate a really nice person just for kicks. I was sickened.  I was hoping Pam would rein her in but she unleashed her.

Was Pam's husband there when you were at CEDU.  He really humiliated me unnecessarily for giving guys hard ons on purpose by wearing tight pants.  The reason my pants were tight was because I gained 20 pounds and my parents didn't send me anymore clothing that fit.  He ripped me to bits in front of guys in a pretty graphic way.  It was all sports to him. I think his name was Mark W.  Does he still work at CEDU with Pam?

I often wondered what the kitchen staff thought of all of us.  THey've heard the gamut.  [ This Message was edited by:  on 2004-08-01 20:32 ]

Bans bans bans.  I just got the run of the mill table time banned from all lower families for the criminal act of wanting to leave.

Oh, and my clothing and style and personality were banned. I learned early to just blend into the woodwork.  Once I laughed raucouusly over a story some guy told me and was chastised for flirting  I reaally wasn't....much. Just laughinh about our loves back home.  Banned. Pardon me for being 16.

I attended CEDU over a decade ago.  I never talked about my experiences at CEDU to anyone until I found this site.

For me, it is vindication of what I've always believed.  And part of the closure is hearing ex-staff validate this experience as unhealthy/abusive etc.  So, thanks for posting even when you get a lot of crap.

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HUH? You had to write your eulogy in Summit? What the hell was that and what is the "lifeboat" exercise?

I did not like mark.  I was only in a few raps with him but once he degraded me terribly and unwarrantedly about my clothing he thougtht was too tight.  The truth was I had gained 25 pounds rapidly and my parents didn't send me any more. Mark treated me like a slut for it... The funny thing is right when I went there I knew not to be dirty so it wasn't like I was a flirt w/the boys or had a rep in that regard.  Pam was always cool to me but I only had a few raps with her and she sat down with me when I had table time for splitting the first time.  She was totally cool didn't give me any shit at all.  maybe it was the good cop, bad cop thing.  My family heads were the bad cops.

Rudy was intimidating but he was cool to me and so was Jill.

Well, I am still surprised to hear about all the sex. I think its normal, I was just too scared at CEDU to ever do that. Also, having experienced recent sexual trauma immediately prior to CEDU, I couldn't deal anyway. CEDU certainly didn't help with its incredible knack for making you feel dirty for crimes against you.

I guess I thought CEDU had everyone so much by the balls how could they have sex and do drugs?  I know they totally had me by the balls and that's why I split after six months.

I started this particular post but i'm not anonymous anymore.  I don't want any confusion on what I say and someone else said.

Whoever said "how the fuck would you know" what were you referring to?