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« on: July 24, 2004, 03:25:00 PM »
OK. I guess the problem concerns objective truths. I think there are subjective truths and objective truths. If there were no objective truths, there would be no way to have a relatively safe, orderly society. To me, a place run by cultists (I realize that you don't agree with this definition)who aren't honest and are verbally abusive and encourage this in their "therapeutic" group sessions lack baseline ethics and moral fortitude. If you think the way these raps are run are subjective, then there is no point in discussion. I mean, they think its ok to kill women who have been tainted by rape in other societies, so I guess I can say that is their subjective truth. If I were to apply this "subjective truth" to every evil/unethical action in the world, we would be in deep s*&^.
The other thing is that after CEDU, even if you split, you are often still CEDU-fied. THe experiences there are so intense, you can't just shake it off. Even though I split, it was years and years before I ever disclosed fully (even to myself) why I left, because it wasn't to go back to screwing up. Instead, I over focused on the positive for me (this really entailed the hard physical labor, wilderness, forcing myself to deal w/disability -- not by the staff or by therapeutic measure by by the circumstances there) and suppressed the utter fear and anxiety of the raps and propheets, the falsehood propagated in these forums, the bullies at the school, the isolation and manipulation from and of my parents, the inability to question any part of the very flawed system, and frankly, the dangerous pasts of a few of the students. I know for a fact that it was too scary for most kids to EVER say how they felt about the program to parents, staff, visitors because of the ramifications later...your life would be a living hell. What happens is that this becomes so conditioned that you still follow this code even after you leave.
On another site some people admit that if you asked them on their graduation day how they felt, it would be more positive than after they are reimmersed in the real world and have time to process it away from the insularity of CEDU. Various people have said they have nightmares ten, fifteen years later.
The other thing is that if you had any history with drugs or low self esteem, you get conditioned to believe you can't beat it without CEDU and see the place as your savior. Many kids did not have real drug problems but were conditioned to believe they did or would. I guess if you really did have a drug problem then you might see CEDU as a savior, especially with those tools given to you that don't always seem to work in real life.
All in all, there were too many kids there who were parked there by their rich parents who never dealt with their real issues because the staff both recklessly mislabled and mishandled you.
These kids get out of school thinking they are OK and then end up swept by a tidal wave when they realize they have to deal with the same, unresolved issues.
Shanlea