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Hyde Schools / Hyde Survivor Testimonies
« on: December 10, 2021, 08:45:58 PM »
There are important testimonies to read on a different section of this board from Hyde students, under Q&A: https://www.fornits.com/phpbb/index.php/topic,22002.0.html

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Hyde Schools / Hyde School Survivor Testimony- Medical Neglect
« on: December 04, 2021, 06:25:03 PM »
Hyde School Survivor Testimony- Medical Neglect

I think I just accepted that I was a victim of medical abuse at Hyde. During my senior year at Woodstock I had a random pelvic infection. These infections are indescribably painful. I told a faculty member of my pain on Saturday morning before I took the SATs, he was very dismissive to the point of being cruel. I completed the SATs, crying in pain throughout, to the point that the proctor spoke to me and said I had to stop because it was disturbing others. Obviously I couldn't stop but tried by chewing/biting my sleeve for the remaining time. Afterwards, again I let faculty know i was in excruciating pain- their response again was dismissive and belittling.

I got back to campus and went to lie down. Woke up shaking, sweating, with stabbing pain. I literally hobbled and cried my way across campus to the nurse where I was essentially interrogated about the "real" severity of my pain. The nurse even pulled two faculty members in to vouch for my honesty.

I had a fever close to 104. They should've called an ambulance but instead sent me alone with a male faculty member to Day Kimball Hospital. I was admitted and put immediately on IV antibiotics and IV morphine (because Percocet did not even touch that level of pain.) I was hospitalized for 6 days.

I recently had a consult with an IVF doctor who told me the way that pelvic infection was handled was serious neglect, and is likely why I cannot get pregnant now. Doctor said the earlier treatment began, the less internal scarring I would have.

Hyde waited a full 24 hours after I started complaining of severe symptoms before listening to me and now as an adult I am dealing with the long term consequences, 20+ years later.

I haven't really spoken about my particular medical situation yet to others. I'm literally still in shock that I have long term effects because of that place not trusting me regarding my own body. I was eventually one of the "good kids" 🤮 and this was still the way I was treated. I cannot fathom what the outcome would've been had it happened my first year 🙀👿.

It's nearly impossible to explain to outsiders.

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Make sure to follow and support Lighthouse survivor Hannah on tiktok! She made some great videos speaking out about it:  https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMdoSScWu/.

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Hyde Schools / Hyde founder Joe Gauld: "The Black IQ" in Courage to Grow
« on: August 04, 2021, 01:25:08 PM »
The Black IQ - posted October 21, 1973 in a a column called "Courage to Grow" in the Maine Sunday Telegram, written by Hyde Schools founder and then-headmaster, Joe Gauld.




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racist racism Joe Gauld

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"Slap May Be Just What Child Needs" by Hyde School founder and then-headmaster Joe Gauld. Originally published in Maine Sunday Telegram's column "Courage to Grow", July 8th, 1973, which later was published into a book. It's pro-hitting kids, especially girls!

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Should you ever slap a kid? How about a man teacher slapping a girl student?

I think the place of such "physical" education in American childrearing is badly misunderstood. Most people who hit kids do it for the wrong reasons - like out of their own frustrations. Most people who don't hit kids, don't do it for the wrong reasons - like out of mistaken compassion.

"Spanking", at best, has a mixed acceptance in our society, but slapping a kid is definitely out. As one educator recently said to me: "If I had to hit a kid to get the message across, I would consider myself a failure."

Yet, with this seemingly "Christian" attitude in raising kids, assaults, rapes and murders mark us as the most violent society in the world today.
We do sean to have a hang-up on physical contact. We may not slap kids, but neither do we show physical affection. If a father and son embrace or kiss, we know their roots are still in the "Old Country".

A parent may believe his reasons for not slapping a child are compassionate, but the child may receive this message: "Your attitude deserves a good smack, but I won't do it because It's personally offensive and too much of a sacrifice to my principals". In other words, "I don't core that much." To answer that educator: 1 slapped my son once because I had failed three times to stop a selfishness in him. 1 had failed, frankly, because he learned it from me. But I cared too much to let any fault hurt his best, so I slapped him hard without a trace of anger. Malcolm must have known how hard it was for me, for he never made that mistake again. That was my first "slap" and it taught me something about true giving.

I have since had to slap other kids, for many parents have this anti-physical hang-up, particularly with girls. I can't like to, but I now have the confidence and the concern to give of myself to kids than most people are willing to give. But I just about gave my limit recently to Sally.

Sally was sent to me for an interview as sort of a "last resort." The Hyde approach seems generally successful, so we were often thought of in difficult cases, and Sally's was a beaut. She had taken complete command of her house and on the side had done in several psychiatrists. I hope the reader will remember these facts if he finds my methods with Sally too extreme. A surgeon can amputate a leg without blinding an eye if he knows it is necessary to save a patient's life. I knew if I couldn't "amputate" Sally's attitude, and she was headed for a hospital, reform school, or worse. The wrong attitude in a kid left unchecked will do exactly that.

One of my teachers gave Sally the interview. The Hyde interview is an in-depth session that requires both the student and parents to take a deep look at themselves and their attitudes. Sally quickly showed she wanted none of that, so shortly the teacher had to drag Sally and her parents into my office.

After several questions, she made the same clear to me. And when I tried to turn my attention to Sally's mother to tell her what she ought to do about it, Sally "made it clear" she didn?t want that either.

"Sally, you'd better understand several things. You may not want my help, but your mother has traveled over four hundred miles for my advice, so just sit quietly and listen, and when I finish, you can leave."

In response, she ignored me.

"Sally, your remarks insult me, your parents, and teenagers. I have a high regard for 16 year olds and you are going to act like one in ray office. I don't let little brats like you insult them with your six year old behavior in my presence."

She was slightly shaken, but undaunted.

"Listen, Sally, I'm not your parents and I'm telling you either change that attitude around me or I will jam it down your throat."
She left in a huff, slamming things around while startled visitors looked on. But she was shocked when she found me right behind her.

The next hour would have done justice to the Keystone Cops. I would get her apology, but she was so used to winning, she couldn't resist getting in the last word. During this battle, we had crawled in and out of her family's car twice (I got in before she could lock it), I slapped her three times in response to her screaming at me, and chased her once around the grounds when she tried to get away from me. We ended up at the Duck Pond and in her raging frustration, she let go with a well-turned obscenity.

With that, I picked her up, while her arms flailed away, and said, with what little breath I had left, "You either apologize or you're going in the pond." She knew I meant it and finally relented. Sally returned and sat somewhat quietly while I finished talking to her mother.

I don't know if I'll ever see Sally again, but at least I have given her one positive experience that tells her the reason her life is a mess, is not Sally; it's just Sally's attitude. That will give her a fighting chance to grow up in a society that presently can be a jungle for a teenager.

But I doubt it will work. Later, Mrs. S. was cold on the phone: "Yes, I asked you to try, but thinking about it since, I think your methods were extreme. You were irresponsible to say my attitude was the real problem just because my son is in a psychiatric hospital."

"Mrs. S., do you think your kids were born with those attitudes? You..." She hung up on me.

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Penelope's story:
I was a senior at Hyde during 2020. One night I snuck into the boys' dorm to hang out with my two friends. I was drunk already and wanted something to do other than sit in my room. I walked across campus without being seen and got to Emero Dorm. When I got there, one of the guys started coming on to me, but I didn't give much thought to it. I started blacking out from the alcohol, so we went into one of the guy's rooms so that I could drink some water, eat something, and sit down. I don't remember much, but the guys decided to take turns having sex with me. After both of them were done, I lay alone in the bed in a drunken stupor. A third guy from the dorm came into the room and tried to talk me into having sex with him as well. I said "no" repeatedly and screamed. I slept there that night and woke up to a lot of pain and bruising on and around my vagina. My throat hurt because I had also been choked.

A few days later, I told the school what happened and went to the local emergency room, where I remained for about 6 hours. I was told that it was too late to do a rape kit, but they took extensive photos of the bruising. They suggested talking to a criminal investigator, but I was too scared.

Laura Gauld [President of Hyde School, daughter in law of Hyde School founder Joe Gauld] tried to be as nice as she could in this situation, but made a bigger deal out of my using and drinking than she did about the actual rapes. I told her that I felt driven to use more to disassociate and numb from my trauma, and she reminded me that if I did, I'd get kicked out or sent to addiction treatment. I asked if there was anything I could do to help me process this trauma and she said she would get me treatment for that. She never did. A month later I was sent to a drug rehabilitation center because I had been using again to numb the pain.

The boys who raped me had known I was drunk that night, and they were sober. In response to this event, the school expelled one of them, an 18 year old who had also just been suspended for getting arrested for stealing in Bath. After being expelled, he started more drama about the event from home by making up rumors and insisting I was lying. The other boy who had raped me was closer to me, and he felt bad and apologized, although he said he didn't think it was rape. The school suspended him for the weekend, which meant he was sent home for a couple days to his parents' house nearby. The third guy who tried to have sex with me denied everything and turned all of the guys at the school against me. He was not punished or reprimanded for this, to my knowledge. I even had a boyfriend at the time, and all the guys had known that I would never cheat on him.

For the remainder of my time there, I was victim-shamed by my whole grade and school and everyone repeatedly told me I was lying. I felt very unsafe on campus, and like the violation of my body meant nothing. I felt powerless, ashamed, and like my body was worthless. It seemed like Laura Gauld only cared for the parents and hated dealing with students. She never really tried helping me through my pain, and was more concerned about getting me to stop using substances than helping me address the causes of my using. The school didn't inform the police. They punished the boys, but one got off very lightly, and the other had already been on his way out anyway. The third wasn't punished at all. The faculty and head figures of Hyde did not even acknowledge, let alone address, the toxic social atmosphere that followed the event - the victim blaming, the rumor starting, the active discrediting of the victim (me), the concept of consent which had been horribly violated, or the misogyny and rape-culture that is highly normalized and pervasive at Hyde School. As a response to all of this, I struggled with low self-esteem and hypersexuality. I am still struggling to come to terms with this trauma, grief, and shame.

This is my story. I am breaking code silence.

Original post: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/p/COb6-MSD118/
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Name has been changed to protect the survivor.

Key words: rape molestation abuse abused abusive kids teens Troubled cover up complaints sexual assault Hyde School Bath Maine Woodstock joe gauld Malcolm gauld laura gauld Hurd Macmillan neglect character

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