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« on: December 28, 2006, 10:09:01 AM »
This is a Carlbrook thread, not a Second Nature thread.
I was posting because I was asked for some information. I tried to give it and my purpose is not to argue and defend. I simply am not going to do that here. I will be glad to answer PMs if you want more detail about my son's situation or the program. It is impossible to convey the full nature of the experience to someone who has not been to this particular program or met these therapists (this re: Second Nature). I can assure you that my son is not holding anything back and even at one point asked me if I would lend money to the single mother of one of his Dallas friends so that the boy could go to 2N.
1. There is no affiliation between Carbrook, 2N and any escort service. 2N sends a few kids to Carlbrook (C-brook is very selective about who they accept and most kids don't fit the profile) but more to other programs or RTCs. Carlbrook does send some kids BACK to 2N, but usually Georgia or some of the other wilderness programs in the SE closer to C-brook. The escorts did not work at 2N.
2. 2N can work with a variety of issues because there are a number of different groups and therapists. The group you are in is not a random assignment.
3. The test report on my son drew no conclusion about programs and did not mention any. It was a very professional assessment and we have been told by several unrelated medical and mental health professionals that it is one of the most comprehensive, well-written reports they have ever seen.
4. I did not say the whole point of wilderness was to take away privileges and make the kid appreciate what he had at home. That is incorrect. The strength of wilderness is that the distractions of the home environment (music, friends, drugs etc., family, cars) are removed. It is just the kids, nature and the therapists. My son came away from there wanting to do a long solo camping trip. They do have to earn privileges (eating utensils etc) by fulfilling requirements. I am not going to go into public detail about my son working with the difficult boy, but it was effective for both kids.
5. Impact letters- I guess you had to be there. It worked. The kids did not feel coerced. They weren't reading these in church or at school. They were reading them to a group of peers with whom they were establishing a bond. The parents were helped with the letters- they were not filled with accusations and blame. They were factual and effective. The kids replies to parents were not censored (I assure you of that- our first letter from son read, "Do not believe anything the therapist Devan tells you. They just want to keep kids here long so they can make money.")
6. Solos- lots of safety precautions- staff checked on the kids and brought them food. They were not sent out on solo until they were willing and ready. It was something the kids WANTED to do.
7. 2N was not at all based on humiliation or breaking down. It is based on building up self esteem.