A nurse is a member of the health professions act. Does that make it ok because they have a former parent acting as nurse in the facility?
I understand they now have ANOTHER Program parent as the nurse in their new program that runs alongside the old one. Why don't they hire nurses that have never been in the program???
And what about the host homes ... there are no health professionals there. And the nurse can't be in all raps etc., that are run at the center.
A Mom,
Seriously? Thats what got them into major trouble in New Jersey. The Host Homes were a form of illegal care. The Bergen County prosecutor threatened my parents, "take your kids out, or we'll do it, and prosecute you for running one of these illegal care establishments in your home".
It was at that point my parents' eyes were opened a tiny bit, still not enough to agree that KIDS caused both my brother and I irreparable harm, or that I needed help beyond brainwashing, or that there is no "cure" for transsexualism beyond transition into the gender that the patient feels the most comfortable in.
The scary thing is, my parents somehow still believe all the lies I was forced to tell everyone, that I did a whole host of drugs, and that somehow the "program" saved my life.
Honestly, I did pot, and alcohol, and alcohol was rare - I didn't like it - like it more now than then. I did pot to be able to party with people all night, and have a roof over my head so I could continue to live out there without any money or food - potheads got the munchies - they fed me well. They enabled me to continue searching for the person I had met a few years earlier that had transitioned from male to female. The enabled me to have some hope that I wouldn't be trapped in the body I was living in for the past 18 years.
I did not do "Alcohol, Pot, Opium, LSD, Mushrooms, Methadone, Morphine, Codeine, blah blah blah" - I didn;t do Methadone or Morphine until it was prescribed for me a few years ago for the PAIN that KIDS caused me physically, even years later.
Yet my parents refuse to believe this, and still believe that me transitioning was a choice. Yes - I choose to give up my family and everything I have - I choose to feel trapped in this body, Yes, I choose to ostracize myself from society, become a third class citizen. I choose to spend hundreds of thousands of dollars so that I can finally feel like I don't have to RIP my genitals off because they "don't feel like they belong there". Or that a male role doesn't sit right with me when I'm interacting with others. That my brain doesn't match my body. Or that maybe its because of a hormone imbalance because of drugs taken when my mother was pregnant. Gee. Maybe its because this is a bizarre BIRTH DEFECT that makes everyone think I was MALE. Its something I wouldn't wish on The Newtons, The Semblers, and The Vauses of the world.
But its a choice.
And the fuckers made my parents believe that, and they'll never believe anything else.
I almost wish they hadn;t decided to pull us out, I probably would have had a chance to sue - the reality of it may have come back to me sooner than 2001. I would have been able to have some sort of closure.
Instead, my parents somehow believe that I was a complete druggie and was "saved" in there - and that the sacrifice of my brother's innocence was an acceptable thing.
Sorry - this post started about something else - then it all came out - now I'm exhausted - time to go back to sleep.
-T.