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They say that an idle mind is the devil's workshop...Well, being unemployed has given me time to think about how it's NOT SO COOL how easy the guilty are getting off. I'm sure that there are people out there who would like to see certain ASSES KICKED, or certain people at least publically humiliated. I'm just thinking, the first thing that we need to do, and in fact, I'm going to request RIGHT NOW that our site admin PLEASE consider this - is to start a "Shit list." (Kind of like the "Hall of Shame" that Scott W. has on his site.) Once we have a list of names together, survivors can then send in information as to the whereabouts of these criminals. Then, we could talk about how we're going to 'approach'

them... that's when the FUN could begin...Follow them to work or to any public place and start firing questions at them... Anybody know where "Cassian" Newton lives? Could you imagine the rush that certain victims would get knowing that someone was seriously MESSING with that old fukker? I wasn't even in St. Pete but I hate him anyway...I hope that someone will find it in their heart to post a follow-up to this, I'll be very 'hurt' if no-one does, LOL...



So Ginger, would you be willing to start a page on this site somewhere called the "Shit List?" There could be a space for the name, and a space for the reason(s) why the person is on the list... If for some reason you dislike that title, you could call it "the Guilty" or something... I say let's MAKE 'EM PAY!! NOW!!!

If we're on the island of unwanted toys, we'll miss all the fun with the girls and the boys...when christmas time is here...la la la la la la la la...

:skull: After looking up "brainwash" at http://www.M-W.com, I ended up here:
Lisa McPherson
Hmmm...

Being from out of town (I was from Balto., the program was in VA) I did not have to deal with going back to school and facing my "druggie friends", as a lot of you did. That must have been so damn awkward to have to say shit like, "I'm straight now, I don't want to talk to you..." or whatever...this was one of the plusses of being from out of town...of course it also made copping out that much harder...Alex

...my parents told me that they were going to take me
down to VA to "stay with some people who could
talk with me about drugs" or something like that.
I envisioned sitting around in a cabin by a lake
somewhere with some older burnouts talking &
maybe even catching a buzz once in a while...

- from an earlier post of mine (17568)

It's been 20 years. Before I went in, I had ran away from home for
about a month. I guess it was late September/October, so I also said
to hell w/ going to school. It was a new school, and I didn't know
anyone anyway, (I had failed out of the last one.) I ran away because
I had gotten grounded over something like staying out too late on a
school night or something. I was tired of my parents trying to run my
life. I wanted out of school. I really had no realistic goals about
what to do with my life other than being in a punk band. Go ahead and
laugh, but I was in one, had started playing gigs around town here
and there, and loved playing music more than anything (which I admit
wasn't really saying too much...) My parents, especially my mom, did
not like the anti-social overtones of that brand of music at
all...even less did she like my shaved-head & mohawk haircuts. This
was 1982. This sort of thing was not accepted at all back then by
most people. Not the way it is today. Anyway, so I ran away & stayed
with some friends of mine who were out on their own & living in apts.
(I hung w/ an older crowd.) when I ran out of places to stay, I came
back home. I remember coming down with a really bad flu and spending
a week or two laying in my room listening to dark classical music
and "Abbey Road." Sorry, but this is all I remember. I remember going
to see "A Clockwork Orange" with my friends. As far as drugs go, at
the time I had slowed way down & was just drinking and smoking herb
occasionally, instead of getting high every day, and drinking
frequently like I did throughout highschool. It seems that I needed
some direction in life, or at least to have someone say to me - "look
you're going to have to either get it together with school or go out
and get your ass a job"...or something along those lines. I don't see
drugs as being my problem and I didn't then. I was no "addict." When
I got back to my oldcomers house on my 1st night in, he proceeded to
verbally attempt to tear down my belief that I did not need to be in
that place. I told him I was in a band and that we played gigs. He
said things like: "Guitarists are a dime a dozen, they don't need you"
About my appearance he had to say "if I saw a guy like you around
here in my past I would have kicked your ass" I kind of believed him.
At one point while he was berating me I came back with, "You don't
phase me..." He didn't like that at all. I remember that night
sleeping with no pillow.
Over two years later I 7-stepped. Did it help? No. Not long after, my
mom threw me out of her house for something I can't even remember. I
went to live with my dad until I found a place in the city to live.
It wasn't more than 3-4 months before I decided I was going to start
drinking again. Then I indulged in just about everything but heroin.
Had some good times, had some bad times. But I sure as hell wasn't
straight and I was getting laid. So here I am 20 years later, not
able to support my family without help. (though I'm working at
getting out from under to be fair to myself)I'm just trying to enjoy
what's left of my life...that's all for now.

Alex


[ This Message was edited by: AlexL on 2002-11-12 07:19 ]

The Game:

The Game was group psychotherapy for the whole community and served as a way to discuss organizational change 24. Members were grouped by a Synamaster, usually an older member tried to achieve a balance of female-male participants and a varying range of Synanon membership seniority. A basic game consisted of ten to fifteen members and a Synanist to facilitate the activity 25. The Synanist was someone who had shown the ablility to either control the symptoms of his addiction for a considerable time or seemed to be progressing at a faster rate than his peers 26.

The Game was an emotional and aggressive group meeting in which members attacked each other verbally. It was an open arena for voicing and airing problems with one another en route to finding a solution. Members were free and encouraged to be honest with their feelings and frustrations. The "attack" was seen as an expression of love 27. It presumably helped people to see themselves as others do and compelled them to examine their own thoughts and actions. The Synanist acted as moderator and tried to help the participants find themselves and would use such tactics as ridicule, cross-examination and hostile attack to further the session 28. It was estimated that the typical resident participated in three to four three-hour games per week 29.

Role-joining was a very important aspect of the Game and was used to progress the session. Role-joining was an agreement between two or more game members to combine their efforts to place an individual on the "hot seat." Once the plan was evident to the other members, they supported and aided in the scheme. Role-joining was essentially like joining a bandwagon and would result in all the session members joining forces against one of their own 30.

The Game was also the cornerstone around which the Synanon community was formed 31. It was key to Synanon government and created an in and out of game dichotomy. When "in the game," one was expected to criticize others and reveal any personal conflicts one might have with whoever was in the "hot seat." On the other hand, when "out of the game," one was supposed to portray a happy, pleasant, and helpful manner

from:

http://religiousmovements.lib.virginia. ... nanon.html

-also, can anyone crack this code?

http://www.synanon.org/VisitorSignIn.cfm



[ This Message was edited by: AlexL on 2002-11-08 19:47 ]

Are we able to post on any_ DFAF site, or is the forum "read only" for all of them? Is there a way to post other than hacking in? Would someone please help me get up to speed?

Alex


[ This Message was edited by: AlexL on 2002-11-08 20:43 ]