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The best way for me to answer that question is to direct you to the other topic I started right below this one.  There are 2 ex-Safe clients and one mom that commented about their time at SAFE.  I do not know what happened to your friend individually.  During my 2 1/2 years at SAFE, no kid who graduated did so unequipped to handle the real world.  There were kids who did not finish their aftercare and who did not stay sober.

I am confused as to what you mean by destroy.  If you would like to be more specific about details you can PM, if you dont want to post something.  I had friends who worked there until recently.

I left SAFE in late 1995.  I worked there for 2 1/2 years.  I started when Straight closed and SAFE opened.  I worked there during the HRS investigations and the admissions moratorium.  Did you have any questions?

It is unethical.  The rule, simply stated, is once a client, always a client.  No dual relationships.

She said "Why would you want to be so manipulative and controlling in your childs life.

And of course that poor boy is thinking only of her he is being tortured in a wilderness program, and you are about to sabotage his progress to meet your own adgenda.

I am sad, for your children for that boy it is a shame."

So I guess I left a few words out that did not seem ridiculous.  I want to know where she and anyone else gets the idea that setting boundaries and enforcing them on your child is controlling and manipualtive.  It is a fact of adolescent development, that teens need structure and discipline.  They are emotional tornados developing into adults.  Providing this structure actually relieves stress, in the fact that the teen now has fewer choices to agonize over.  Kaydeejaded just needs to read a book about adolescent development.


To use a program analogy-remember when you were an oldcomer, the newcomers were driving you nuts and you had all these responsibilities to get done.  Do you remember the sense of relief you had when your responsibilities were taken away and you had fewer things to worry about.   Its the same principle.  




[ This Message was edited by: exsafecounselor on 2004-01-29 09:41 ]

I could not imagine a person like you being on staff either.  We agree!
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[ This Message was edited by: exsafecounselor on 2004-01-29 08:08 ]

Frodo,

You are correct.  Thanks for the spell check.

Ex

It is quite a bit of reading, but it talks about everything.  If you have a specific question, I will answer it.

I am sorry if my posting bothered you