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« on: November 04, 2005, 10:35:00 PM »
To the Anonymous guy who thinks I'm blaming others,
I appreciate that you're not really trying to rip me or pull the Hyde "you just don't get it" business as to my post. But I do feel compelled to address a few things you said.
Punishing a bright student because they aren't a "leader" in class is downright disgaceful. I never said I was screwed in life by the time I got to college, I was merely pointing that due to an unconscionable grading system, I had fewer options at that time than if they had graded my work simply on its merits. And I have a right to take them to task for it.
Also, my post may have appeared rhetorical in form, but in substance, it wasn't. I was there. These things actually happened.
Of course, the typical Hyde approach is to have the student always blame him or herself. In the real world, that isn't always the case. We have the right to vent our anger when others wrong us, when an institution wrongs us. Hey, I moved on. I worked hard AND played hard in college (a much healthier approach than the grim, all "work" approach that is central to the Hyde experience), got into law school and made a life for myself. I make good money and enjoy kicking the government's butt in court. I have a beautiful wife and two beautiful kids. Life is good. Believe me, I'm not blaming them for anything in my life now.
Those of use who endured that place have a right to vent, and, I believe, a moral duty to warn prospective parents. My parents bought into their bulls*&^ and it was three years of my life that I'll never get back. If anything good came of that, it's that I now thank god for every day I have on this earth that I can live my life the way I should - without having to share my intimate secrets with strangers, without know-it-alls trying to mold me into something I'm not.
What I'm seeing in these discussions is a lot of people like me who had terrible experiences there. And a few of the pro-Hyde folks who respond to our anger by responding the way the school did: you don't get it. It's a free country and as a lawyer who fights every day to uphold the constitution, I think you've got the right to say what you want on these boards. But understand that if you're coming on here to defend the school and in doing so, telling folks that they just don't get it, that they, not Hyde School failed, well, I have to say that you really ought to consider keeping your $.02 to yourself. It's just not appropriate in a forum where people are clearing some of the bile from their souls.
Life is not a Hyde seminar. And neither are these discussions.