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« on: July 05, 2005, 02:15:00 PM »
I SENT MY DAUGHTER TO MISSION MOUNTAIN SCHOOL 9YRS AGO. SHE LEFT HOME DURING A HOME VISIT BECAUSE OF THE PURE FEAR SHE HAD OF MIKE. NOT TO MENTION THE FEAR SHE HAD FOR JOHN. YES, SHE TRIED TO DO THINGS TO GET EXPELLED, BUT WE WERE NOT ALWAYS PRIVY TO IT. BEFORE SENDING HER AWAY MY HUSBAND AND I SPOKE TO JOHN IN PERSON ABOUT THE SCHOOL AND ASKED MANY QUESTIONS. WE LEFT FEELING SADDENED BY THE FACT THAT OUR DAUGHTER WOULD NOT BE LIVING WITH US. WE COULD NOT HELP HER TO HELP HERSELF. I FELT THAT TIME AWAY FROM HER FORMER FRIENDS WAS A MUST. WE DID NOT AND HAVE NOT EVER GIVEN UP ON HER. I SPOKE TO DEB ON SEVERAL OCCASIONS ABOUT MY CONCERN OF THE HTE HARSH TREATMENT I HAD SEEN AT THE SCHOOL. I WAS ALWAYS CONCERNED ABOUT THE TWO OF THEM WORKING TOGETHER WITH THE GIRLS. I EVEN TOLD HER I DID NOT WANT TO CAUSE ANY TROUBLE FOR THE TWO OF THEM IN THEIR RELATIONSHIP OUTSIDE OF THE SCHOOL. THAT WAS WHY I NEVER WENT INTO MUCH DISCUSSION OF HOW I FELT ABOUT MIKE'S ABUSE BEHAVIOUR TOWARDS MY DAUGHTER OR SOME OF THE OTHER GIRLS. I DO FEEL GREAT PAIN AND SYMPATHY FOR THE LOSS OF THEIR SON. MY DAUGHTER LIKED THEIR KIDS AND ENJOYED PLAYING SO
CCER WITH THEM. AS A PARENT, WE TRY TO DO OUR VERY BEST FOR OUR CHILDREN. SOMETIMES THEY NEED A ANOTHER APPROACH THAT WE CAN NOT DELIVER OURSELVES. PLEASE DO NOT BASH THEM OVER THE WAY THEIR SON DIED. THEY WILL ALWAYS LIVE WITH PAIN AND EMPTINESS KNOWING THAT THEY DID NOT SUCCEED IN HELPING HIM. UNTIL YOU EXPERIENCE THE PAIN OF BEING ABLE TO HELP OTHERS BUT NOT THOSE CLOSEST TO YOU, YOU CAN NOT UNDERSTAND THEIR PAIN. MIKE AND DEB, IF YOU READ THIS YOU MAY CONTACT ME. PAM