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Anonymous:
Don't you all remember the time we graduated/ or left the school and promised each other that we would keep in touch? We promised that we would remain friends forever? Well it looks like most of us never kept our words, from what we said at MMS. We told each other we loved one another and cared for each other during group. We cried together when times were so rough, and even laughed together when times were tough. We saw each other everyday...we basically knew each others's deepest secrets. The greatest thing I ever learned there was what amazing girls we were all capable of becoming and what great friends I was capable of having.

Even though we cared for one another we were all trying to make it through--and we were willing to keep our mouth shuts even though we saw some  being treated unfairly. I know most of you who have recently posted about your great experinces at MMS, and I feel as though you are only looking in to your own stories. I could see in to your  eyes (during my stay) and I knew that you were scared. scared of getting in trouble, scared of being picked on, scared of being humiliated. You were my friends when I was hurting, and you said you would always be there. Where are you all now, friends? I did not receive a single letter in the mail...of those who promised to write to me. So if you were so honest while at the school how come there is no honesty now?

We do not care about each other as we should..as we pretended.
and if you do care LISTEN....listen to those who trully feel hurt. Why would someone bother to complain 5 years later? Why would they bother in saying anything at all...and not just move on? The hurt is still there..and its undeniable. help your friends. Don't try to post your positve experince over theirs, as a way to shut them up. We all need to be heard. I need people to hear me and listen because it still hurts. don't just say "deal with it, move on."  Don't keep on posting all your great experinces just to compete about it. There are underlying facts...and they can not be denied.

I am remaining anonimous because I feel there's hardly any support. Just to name a few aya, whitney, Rebecca, Jessica, I knew you all, and I do not think I know you anymore. I even saw many things that were done to you guys that were unfair, and now you say that it was great for the most part? What about some of us who you knew back then? Did you not care about everyone then?
If you had a good experince that is a great thing, but can you stop making it seem as though the rest of us are liars? I sat in group telling my story in detail-embarrased, ashamed, humiliated- and not wanting to, but being forced in order to keep everyone and myself out of trouble. I was acused by John as a major problem and I sat there while he told me what a "manipulative little shit I was" and he had other girls bash on me. You all sat there and witnessed it. How can you deny these things? I am not trying to bring you guys down, but you say good things and bad things happened, but can you just say if it was right or wrong instead of making justifications.

We are all trying to see the truth here. I am glad that it helped you all for the most part,but what helps others trully hurts others and this matter does not need to be ignored. Think hard about things and be aware that some of us need your help. still years later.

and many of you have also stated "MMS changed my life"..well "it was definetly a change of life" being pUt in the middle of nowhere in Montana, and after a few years ofcourse it's going to have an effect on you. give yourselves credit though -YOU CHANGED YOUR OWN LIVES.
Think hard about things and be aware that some of us need your help-still years later.
I STILL CARE ABOUT YOU ALL

Anonymous:
Friend,

  Those who had a good experience are attacked for saying that.  Those who didn't are attacking the school and the others.  When I read those who had a good experience, I do not hearing them attacking or attempting to invalidate others' experiences, but obviously the emotions are so strong that they are taken as attacks.

WhitneyS:
What you have said is unfair, and to name people personally is even more unfair.  I do not know who you are, but as you have stated, we were there together.  Obviously we have not kept in touch or I would be more understanding of your experience and what happened to you.  "Didn't we all used to be friends?"  Yes.  And we still are.  I to this day communicate with most of the girls I went there with.  If you think you don't know me, its because you haven't cared to contact me.  
"Where are you all now, friends? I did not receive a single letter in the mail...of those who promised to write to me."
Um, did you write me?  Because every letter I received I responded to.  Every message left was a call back.
Its been five years anonymous.  I have grown five years older.  I have graduated high school, gone to college...  Among those things, I have also had some bad experiences.  My ex-boyfriend tried to kill me.  I had an abortion.  MY DAD ALMOST DIED.  Do you know any of this????  No.  You dont.  You judge me because my experience at MMS was positive?????  I never took away from you that yours wasn't.  Nor am I competing for good vs. bad at MMS.  Of course there were things there that happened to me that were unfair.  Did they help change my life?  YES.  If you are unhappy, I am truly sorry.  And if you want my support, you have it.  But my life has changed and I AM happy.  And I credit what has happened to the experience I had at MMS.  You didn't know me before I went there... You don't know me now.  You don't care what happened to me when I left.  All you care for is that I justify share your negative views with you NOW.  I will support and accept your experience.  Believe what you want, but I am a good friend not only to the girls I have in Arizona, but to girls from MMS.  If you want my friendship, email me.  Call me.  I AM HERE.  But please do not negatively comment on my life when you dont know ANYTHING about it.

Anonymous:
what the heck does all that have to do with the topic?

Anonymous:
Let the loving, let the loving come back to me.

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