welcome anony, i know the feeling. I'm glad you have found something useful in this forum. It's difficult to spend so much time not being able to speak your mind and then later only to be attacked for your opinions. I think speaking your mind plays an important part in coming into your own. Congrats on the 3 years, that's tough! I found it to be especially b/c MMS (and frankly) even AA say there's only one way to do it, their way- while in AA it's much easier to find people that don't suscribe verbatim to the program, MMS didn't afford us such an option. I recently found smartrecovery.com which I really like- promotes self reliance, but cleaned up about 8 years ago on my own.
I always thought that there were few things more destructive about MMS than not being able to reveal your own truth and evolve on your own, this duality created. On the one hand the person who had to go through the motion and convince herself as much as possible and agree with them,that this was the way and the only way- and then on the other hand that nugget of real me grew smaller and smaller.
Now that nugget though, however, has very much grown and here are my words and my actions are very much in sync with my own truth. The power of that truth, your truth, should not be underestimated. The truth is very powerful- hell, it's the truth! There's no doubt in my mind, obviously that for some MMS was very damaging and that poses a real problem for child advocates- they need more people like us to speak up.
Keep trying to sync up the two, you'll get their is you're not already! For some out there, I believe, MMS semi-permatnently or permanently damaged and much will be left unrevealed and undealt with. Others can't live with that lie...I'm here for you, should you need anything...I attended MMS in 92-94, many moons ago and have given this a great deal of thought- please don't hesitate to send me a provate message if you wish to discuss things further...
Best, kat