Hey Melissa,
Yea, I agree, have to find the strength within yourself to resolve matters before anything can be done, should anyone want anything done.
Once the haunting goes away, they're in the clear. I can say that I had issues before MMS that worsened at MMS, and worsened after MMS. Had I not gone to MMS who knows, but MMS exacerbated issues already present for sure.
I'm so old now, super stable, been 'married' for almost 7 years now, even boring and am not haunted by MMS, but certainly am bothered that there are girls out there that may be going through what I did and knowing that it only made me worse. I don't blame MMS for my problems in the sense that I am not willing to look at myself and take responsibility for what I do with my life now, but I think that as a theraputic environment there is responsibility that needs to be taken for the parts that are ineffective and that for some were extremely damaging. And certainly sounds like there are probably about an even number of those who felt helped and those that felt it was damaging, so seems to me not something that can be dismissed as the disgruntled few that are damaged goods.
But yea, as adults we can all learn to gaurd ourselves from harm- as you say, choosing no to take any bs and I think we all aim to do that, but if the trauma runs deep I think for some it's easier than others.
Until you walk in a persons shoes it's hard to comment.
[ This Message was edited by: katfish on 2005-05-02 18:03 ]