The girls who had good experiences need to read their posts to see how they are making others feel. I am just someone reading these posts (it's an open forum for all to read and to participate) and I just see that some of the girls sharing their positive experiences are full of themselves and are not very nice, to say the least. Maybe they should read their own posts a little more objectively. It's sad. You were all there and so you witnessed the abuses. You were probably victims of it yourselves, whether or not you want to admit it, whether or not you are even aware of it. Because what has been posted about what has happened there was abusive, plain and simple.
It would be like working in an office. If your boss was a very mean, horrible guy and treated you badly, was even abusive, you would not have anything too good to say about being there. Maybe there were some good things about the company as a whole, but your experience totally sucked! And when you had taken enough of his crap and you finally took the plunge to look for another job, you had a sense of relief just from getting out of there. But whenever you hear about the guy again it brings back the same old feelings and you're not likely to be too positive about the experience.
Then there's your co-worker. Maybe she had a boss who was thoughful, nice, caring, and fun. That person would say she had a great experience there.
Months later a bunch of you get together for lunch and you'd rather not think about this jerk. But people start talking and it brings the feelings back to the surface. You vent a bit, which is healthy, especially since you held it in so long. Most of the others are supportive of you. Then there's that one person who pipes up and says what a wonderful place it is to work and how wonderful everything is there. How this job has changed her life for the better.
Everyone in the room kind of looks at this girl and wonders why on earth she would come up and say that when obviously someone there was sharing some very painful experiences she experienced, things that still hurt today.
It's really the person who said all the good things that make people wonder why? What were her motives? To make herself sound better? And next time they decide to go to lunch as a group. Think they'll invite her again? I think not.
The funny thing is that all of the others who were there have their own expriences at the place. Some good, I'm sure, some not so good. The difference is they had enough manners and kindness to know what was appropriate to say at the time.