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Anonymous:
Mission Mountain School is imperfect as is everything.  There is obviously a lot of anger out there.  But the school has obviously helped young women also.  I sent my daughter there because she needed an environment where she could get firm and consistent discipline, instead of being another thing her dad and I could disagree about.  

The "addict" thing is imperfect.  However the 12 steps are not a bad way to live.  And using the 12 steps programs helps create a continuing emotional support for girls as they leave.  

Probably my biggest complaint with the school was that there was not as much individual therapy as I would have liked.

We all have different prespectives as we go through different stages in our lives.  It will be interesting for each ofyou to see where you are today, and look at it again in 5 years. . .

Most of all I appreciate the change in my relationship with my daughter that occured while she was at MMS.  I was no longer the "Wicked Witch" and was the one who loved her enough to hold her accountable.

At a graduation we attended one of the graduates said she loved people enough to cover their asses before she went to MMS.  She said she loved them a lot more now.  Mike said, "You love them enough to turn their ass in."  

MMS is not perfect.  Unfortunately, some will be harmed by what helps others.  When my daughter was at MMS, I believe they tried to separate those they would help from those they would not.  I'm sure they were imperfect.

To those who are so angry and unhappy, I challenge you to find something positive in your life to focus on.  YOU will be happier for it.

Anonymous:
I don't think these girls sit around focusing on the negative aspects of MMS. They are simply finally able to have a voice. It is a bit condescending to challenge them to find something positive to do with their  lives. They are already doing that. Give them a break, please. You are the parents, and you are speaking from a parent's perspective. You were not there so you cannot say what their experiences were nor can you say they were good if for them they were not.

Maybe it has been years since this happened. Most of them just recently found this place to share their stories. I bet a lot of them have been silent for many years and this is their way to get the negative things that happeend to them off their chest so they can let go of it.

And then there is another aspect, as Ginger mentioned. There are other parents who should know what happens in these places - from the children who were there. Those are the only credible ones who can honestly share what happened to them.

And you have to think that they would not come on here fabricating what happened to them. It would make no sense. I do personally believe their experiences and I think that it is very important to not lose sight of what has really happened that is being perceived as abusive.

If you and your daughter have a better relationship that's great. Just please do not put these girls in a position to have to defend themselves for wanting a place to vent and be heard. For now they are able to do that when they were silenced for a very long time. Silenced of their feelings that is. Forced to share parts of their lives that were private, and for some, to share things that never even happened to them just to stop from being harrassed. That is a crying shame if you would stop to think about it. Please do before suggesting they basically get a life. They've done that, remember, they are just sharing and venting.

And it's really easy to say things when something did not personally affect your life, meaning you were not the one who lived there day in and day out. You did not have their experiences.

Anonymous:
Were you there?  What is your relationship with this school?  

I think it's good to vent. I don't think anyone is fabricating.  I just think there are different perspectives.  The girls who had good experiences are being attacked for saying they did!  

It would be best to be able to get a poll of everyone who was there, not just those who found this site.  I would be interested in that.

Anonymous:
The girls who had good experiences need to read their posts to see how they are making others feel. I am just someone reading these posts (it's an open forum for all to read and to participate) and I just see that some of the girls sharing their positive experiences are full of themselves and are not very nice, to say the least. Maybe they should read their own posts a little more objectively. It's sad. You were all there and so you witnessed the abuses. You were probably victims of it yourselves, whether or not you want to admit it, whether or not you are even aware of it. Because what has been posted about what has happened there was abusive, plain and simple.

It would be like working in an office. If your boss was a very mean, horrible guy and treated you badly, was even abusive, you would not have anything too good to say about being there. Maybe there were some good things about the company as a whole, but your experience totally sucked! And when you had taken enough of his crap and you finally took the plunge to look for another job, you had a sense of relief just from getting out of there. But whenever you hear about the guy again it brings back the same old feelings and you're not likely to be too positive about the experience.

Then there's your co-worker. Maybe she had a boss who was thoughful, nice, caring, and fun. That person would say she had a great experience there.

Months later a bunch of you get together for lunch and you'd rather not think about this jerk. But people start talking and it brings the feelings back to the surface. You vent a bit, which is healthy, especially since you held it in so long. Most of the others are supportive of you. Then there's that one person who pipes up and says what a wonderful place it is to work and how wonderful everything is there. How this job has changed her life for the better.

Everyone in the room kind of looks at this girl and wonders why on earth she would come up and say that when obviously someone there was sharing some very painful experiences she experienced, things that still hurt today.

It's really the person who said all the good things that make people wonder why? What were her motives? To make herself sound better? And next time they decide to go to lunch as a group. Think they'll invite her again? I think not.

The funny thing is that all of the others who were there have their own expriences at the place. Some good, I'm sure, some not so good. The difference is they had enough manners and kindness to know what was appropriate to say at the time.

Anonymous:
well fuckin said!!!!!!

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