i recognize that this type of metophorical therapy may work on some, but to others there may a definite sense that it is useless, if not harmful- bruising, etc.
For me, however, it is difficult to understand how associating rocks with actual issues a person is struggling with is helpful. I don't understand how that leap can be made, but then again, I didn't feel MMS therapy gave me very much clarity to begin with, so naturally I don't think carrying rocks would have been helpful if I wasn't at all clear or had any sense of what I needed to tackle to move forward.
But that was the whole point of me being at MMS- getting clear and tackling these issues, no? I think if I hadn't been so terrified and was allowed to tell my parents this wasn't working- instead of them stating it was a manipulation trick- then perhaps a lot of heartache at MMS and after could have been avoided.
Unfortunately, I felt unable to speak up and had a lot more confusion and pain to deal with afterwards than I otherwise would have.
I also think, like the nightmares so many girls have of MMS, the anxiety and shame of not being good enough was not something that we a 'naturally' carry with us, but was put on us. Of course, it's up to each one of us to try and address that feeling (like what was posted earlier) of being too 'fucked up', but the point is that it is extremely harmful to harbor those feelings of shame that MMS so readily placed squarely on our shoulders in an effort to get us to alter our behavior and way of thinking. Surely there are better ways to reach that objective without causing that lingering feeling to plague each of us...?
Those feelings of shame can be much more damaging than I think we really give credit- it can have that self-sabatoging effect and I am sure it has caused much pain in many of our lives- regardless of our overall views of MMS. Again, of course, its up to each one of us to work through it and move past it, but for it to even be there to begin and be placed there by a school devoted to helping us makes me wonder how truly beneficial those methods really are ?