There is no right or wrong - only what works - OH Hell Yes!
The damn program beats you over the head with this psychopathic philosophy.
Also - as has been noted - the idea of no such thing as a victim. If you were raped, it is because you put you self in a situation where by you would be raped - so there fore - you caused it - so there fore - you are not a victim.
The only real damage done, was you let yourself believe you were a victim. The victim mentality is what is hurting you. You must acknowledge the part you played in the rape (Accountability, don't ya know) and quite thinking of yourself as a victim. Being a victim, is about the worst thing you can be. And of corse - once you get the kids well baked with this idea - you are pretty safe from any accusation of having hurt them. If you did hurt them - it was their fault - and did them good. Once they have accepted the idea that there is no such thing as a victim - and 'thinking like a victim' is pitiful and weak and degrading - you are pretty safe from them ever claiming to have been victimized by you.
These ideas caused me All kinds of problems when I was on the BBS. All this is the total opposite of Christian thinking and belief. Lots of others too, know doubt - but I was relating to other Christians when discussing these ideas. How can you insist you are a Christian, and then embraces such a Godless philosophy?
Its about what Works! they would reply. Or, Your just stuck in your Head. Or, your all about being "right" - a terrible thing for anyone to be - stuck in their head, and thinking they are right. Well - Better than out of your head, and wrong. How hard is that to figure out?
Occassionally someone would write privately, and say that they agreed; but you just had to take the good with the bad. Take the best and ignor the rest was advised by these folks. But generally, not on the board.
I also had a hard time arguing that there are such things as Victims - and that it is no shame to be a victim - it is the perpetrator who did Wrong; not the victim.
The whole Program philosophy is much the same as you will learn in Scientology - it is very "New Age" in the beliefs it is imparting in the brain washing sessions. I pointed this out on the BBS as well - how "New Age" this thinking was - and how totally opposite this was of Christian, or Judaic, or Islamic thought.
One of the things that confirmed for me that this was a cult - and people were being brain washed, was the fact so many who claimed Christ had abandoned His teaching for this new age philosophy - altho they didn't seem able to understand this fact.
I had this strongly validated when I read Cults in Our Midst. She writes about Life Spring - and how much damage was done to men and women who were forced to attend by employers who had been sold on it, and thought this "Life Change" was something all their employees should experience. It was forcing people to abandon long cherished ideas and belief systems, for one that was in total opposition - and this caused a good deal of mental anguish and the occasional mental collapse. She made the very same argument I had tried to make on the BBS - this is very New Age - and not at all in keeping with the beliefs found in Judaic/Christian beliefs, thought or traditions.
Once a person embraces the Seminar teaching, they replace God with the Program. "the Program" saved my family. The Program changes lives. The Program comes first - before family or friends or life long held, opposing beliefs.
From this Christian's perspective - "the program" is a plot hatched in the pits of Hell. It is leading people into the outer darkness. It is a tool of the destroyer. Any benefit felt gained from the Program is a deception - generated by the Great Liar himself.
