Again, I understand your opinion. You bring up a good point. If that happened to my daughter, I might ask a few questions. On balance, though, some spit in peanut butter was the least of my worries when my daughter entered The Whitmore. I considered us lucky to have her alive. Everything is relative. As I've said, what is acceptable to one parent might offend another. I had bigger issues. I'm not condoninig what you describe; I did not see that in relation to my daughter. If that were her biggest problem when she was at The Whitmore, I'd have been thrilled. You can judge that any way you'd like. In the big scheme of life and death, something like that would have to take it's place way down the list. Additionally, I would question everything my daughter told me at the time. By her own admission, she lied and manipulated, as do many other teens. I'm not saying the child in this discussion did that. I'm just responding. Spit in pb&j is indeed not healthy. Suicide is worse.
I can only speculate how I'd feel based on what I was going through when I sent my daughter to The Whitmore. Hindsight is 20/20, as they say. I certainly understand the parent who would be upset. I was just facing bigger issues.