Whether you feel these are valid to you, they are valid in general.
http://fornits.com/wwf/viewtopic.php?mo ... rt=0&Sort=These aren't priveleges. With the exception of jewelry and make-up, these are very, very basic human rights.
Not to provide the level 6 "privileges" is what the *rest* of the US calls "child neglect."
If the parents did not do that, in any state I am aware of, child welfare would take the children out of the home for child neglect. Particularly over the shoes issue.
If I provided my child with food that was substantially different and worse from my own food, unless I had consulted a nutritionist and the different diet was medically necessary for her health, I would lose my child and be prosecuted for wilfull criminal child neglect.
If I required my child to go around all day without being able to talk to other people, I would be prosecuted for criminal child *abuse*, if I failed to fix the problem after being warned.
That you think those deprivations are not criminal child abuse and neglect, and are not woefully out of compliance with minimum community standards for how children are entitled to be treated, is [could be] evidence that yes, you *have* been brainwashed.
That you can even for a moment describe them as "privileges"---even in retrospect you don't believe all of them were "right"----is evidence [could indicate] that you have undergone deep and pervasive brainwashing that successfully tampered with your mind.
The abuse and neglect you have suffered has [may have] put you at high risk of abusing neglecting your own children in the false belief that these behaviors are not harmful to the child and are, in fact, acceptable forms of discipline.
I'm so sorry for what happened to you, but you *mustn't* go on thinking those things are okay for fear that you, as an adult with adult responsibilities, harm a child someday.
*NO* child deserves to have the basic social contact of talking to people, shoes, or seeing her parents treated as "privileges" to be withheld for bad behavior. *Nobody* deserves that. It is not helpful or positive to do that to any child.
A rape survivor may be stronger after the rape as a result of recovering from the rape, but that doesn't mean the rape "helped" her.