On 2005-04-05 10:13:00, thepatriot wrote:
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On 2005-04-05 07:32:00, Carmel wrote:
"Has anyone read about how her parents have now sold off the list of fund donors? Sold it off to several different groups, including right-to-lifers and Christian convervatives?
Sold it off so that these whack-os so they can spam everyone who sent support to the Schiavo cause. Talk about sick.
I'll tell you what....as I am sure some people on this board do as well, I know a thing or two about losing a child. I lost my 5 year old daughter in a car accident not two years ago.
Now, she didnt starve to death, peacefully, in her sleep....no, there were no loving arms to hold my baby when she passed on, in fact there was nothing but the sandy ground and the hot sun. She was thrown from the vehicle, and it was at least 30 minutes before she was found. Still not dead, but unable to communicate...she was taken in an ambulance and pronounced dead on arrival.
It makes me FURIOUS. Positively FURIOUS, that Terri's parents drug this out and out in order to avoid the grief process. Its sick. It ceased to be about Terri's survival, and more about their fear of loss. NO ONE in this world is truly entitled to ANYTHING. Bad things happen to good people every day, and all there is to do is go on being the best that you can be.
I applaud her husbands strength, and despise her parents weakness. I feel that when those we love are gone from this earth, it is imperative that we maintain an honorable, strong path forward without them...so that we may make them proud in ALL our endevours, wherever they may be. I feel not one ounce of sympathy for those people who fear death as if it were not part of life.
Just my thoughts.[ This Message was edited by: Carmel on 2005-04-05 07:33 ]"
Applaude her husbands strenght? WHAT did he have to gain from starving her to death ? he had moved on with his life. He is the one that drug this out, all he had to do was give the parents back their right to care for their daughter. We would never smoke some low life criminal in the electric chair until all evidence was in of their guilt (well usually) or until all appeals weere exhausted. But in this case they began starving her befor all appeals were exhausted, there never was a living will only his word. All he had to do was giver her to her parents and walk away, instead he starved her. Let me keep food and water from you until you die and then you tell me how peaceful it is give me a break. Just my opinion, I am sorry for your loss as a parent I cannot begin to imagine going through that"
Technically, she began starving herself. But we wont get into that.
All I am trying to say is that up to the time of her death, it had clearly ceased to be an issue about what was right for Terri, and had become an issue of what was right for the caretakers, namely her parents and their subsequent 15 minutes of fame. Her parents were cowardly in demanding that she be on support when her condition was clearly irrevocable. In my view, what they did would be the equivalent of me allowing my daughter to stay in the same condition she was in,out there in the field, for 15 years. I find it selfish on their part to keep her hanging on, simply to shirk accountability both emotionally and "morally".
Her husband was admirable in that he maintained a respect for the idea that Terri would not wish for such a low quality of life, and he was willing to label himself a pariah for it as well as suffer the final loss. To me, THATS love. Its ridiculous to ask what he gained in "starving her to death" that isnt even the issue. Why do her parents feel they need to auction off her legacy to a bunch of bloodsucking spammers?
I never disputed that the manner of her demise wasnt cruel or painful or whatever, death seldom avoids either of these. But I will let you in on a little secret....EVERYONE dies eventually, and I am willing to bet that in the greater majority of deaths, the end is no where near so comfortable...relatively speaking.
I know this is hardly comparable...but my sister in law refuses to allow the family dog to be put to sleep. He is so very old and sick that he can hardly walk, he cries all day and night from the arthritic pain, he vomits, he has lost his hair. Euthanasia would be a welcome relief for the poor creature right now, the vet has even said so.....but she just CANT bring herself to the idea of letting go of her dog. So on he goes, living in a canine hell of pain, just so she can feel better. In the end, she doesnt really love her dog, she has only fear of the idea of loss. I find that repulsively weak. So it is with Terri's debacle.
