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Anonymous:
Parents, please consider this.

How many kids tonight are going to bed in strange beds, are sleeping in a room full of strangers, full of kids who wake up in the middle of the night screaming with nightmares and night terrors? How many kids are missing their moms, their dads, their brothers, their sisters, their aunts, their uncles, their grandparents?

How many kids would give just about anything for 5 minutes to talk privately to someone who they love? How many kids would give anything for a hot shower? For a chance to take a long bath? To lay on their bed talking with their girlfriends? To just be normal teenage girls?

How many kids did anything so bad to deserve being locked up and taken away from their families? Did they really deserve to lose touch with their lives? With the world as they knew it? Yes, some were heavily into drugs and they needed help.

Some would say kids need to be taken away from their environment in order to free themselves of their addictions. Maybe that's true. But what says they have to go to such extremes as to take these children far away from their families for years at a time, to take them away from normal life?

There are other safe options. If a child is truly drug addicted there are licensed programs, there are outpatient programs, there is therapy, there are other options. And if the child is in need of drug rehab chances are medical insurance will cover the cost of a safe program. So, why send them away to these places where we now know the possiblity of neglect and abuse is so high.

Knowing what I know I would never consider putting a child in any private residential facility. Period.

Kids need to fall down sometimes, pick themselves up, brush themselves off, and then keep going. Trying to shelter them from the world is not the answer. Remember what was said: anytime you sign away your parental rights you open the door to child abuse and neglect. There is so much truth to that.

I hope parents stop and think about what they are doing when they make the decision to send their child away. Read the stories. These kids are opening up their hearts and sharing their stories so that others do not have to go through what they have experienced. Please, listen to them. They have suffered and they need our support now.

Kerry, Melissa, there are plenty of us here who support you.  ::drummer::

Anonymous:
I was the one who made ther post saying not to discount the good aspects. I think those of you who werent there are getting a skewed perspective. I'm not like a battered wife saying "but what about the good aspects of the marriage?". Let me make myself clear. MMS the school is not the problem,John Mercer the headmaster is. If they chose one of the other therapists that had been there to be in charge on the school the negative aspects wouldn't have been there for me. The abuse didn't stem from anyone but him. There is a difference between tough love and abuse. Tough love is needed at times, abuse never is. John Mercer claimed to use tough love but all he did was manipulate and intimidate. The other staff actually WAS proactive in helping the students recover from their problems.

I'm not concerned about people believing or supporting me,I'm just saying what happened and clarifying what I said and my stance on things. I appreciate people caring, but I want to make sure people see things for what they were and not put blame in the wrong places. I would never send my own child to MMS with John Mercer still in charge but if someone else who was actually capable took over I definately would.

Melissa Gower.

Anonymous:
Hi Melissa,

You posted "I know for a fact nothing Kerry said was untrue, I witnessed it all. People are different, and treated differently and have different experiences. This is not a matter of people acting negatively or taking things out on MMS, it's them sharing their experiences good and bad. Period. Just as people shouldn't discount the good aspects of MMS, no one should discredit people's real experiences that weren't very good."

I guess that's where people are coming from now, believing this is not such a great place after all. Kerry had some really troubling experiences there and you agree they are all true and real.

There is usually some good with the bad in most things. The important thing to measure is how good was the good, and how bad was the bad. What are the lasting effect of both.

Antigen:

--- Quote ---On 2005-03-30 23:51:00, Anonymous wrote:

 I was the one who made ther post saying not to discount the good aspects. I think those of you who werent there are getting a skewed perspective. I'm not like a battered wife saying "but what about the good aspects of the marriage?". Let me make myself clear. MMS the school is not the problem,John Mercer the headmaster is.

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Melissa, what about all those other people who stand by and watch as this guy abuses the kids? Why is it that nobody hears about it till some kid who's been out for awhile posts on some web-forum somewhere. How does he get away with it?


Impiety: Your irreverence toward my deity.
--Ambrose Bierce
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Anonymous:
He gets away with it by intimidating everyone, students and staff alike. I know of at least one person who quit because she couldn't stand to watch the way he treated the girls. Unfortunately, there isn't much work in the area so people put up with him to keep their jobs. It's also a small town where few are bold enough to make waves.

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