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« on: February 14, 2005, 09:49:00 PM »
Who is out there reading this forum? When did you graduate? Are you sober? What are you doing for a living? Kids? Married? Interests?

I am: DG
Graduated: 1993
Sober: 12.5 years
Career: Sales, writing
Kids: 1 - a cute little boy
Married: yup, for a loooooong time
Interests: Art, spiritual pursuits, volunteering
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« Reply #1 on: February 15, 2005, 09:59:00 AM »
Okay, I'll bite.

I know who you are.  Hope you are doing well.  I recognize your initials.


I am: JM, previously JD, soon to be again.
Graduated: 1994
Sober: 9 years, I have the occassional glass of wine the last year and a half (and yes, I am glad I didn't drink for that period of time).
Career: Oil & Gas
Kids: 1 dog, he's cute too
Married: divorced.  1 1/2 in current relationship with wonderful guy.
Interests: music, my dog, volunteering (SPCA).


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« Reply #2 on: February 15, 2005, 01:38:00 PM »
Hi Jess! Glad you are doing well. My wife sends her regards. All the best. DG
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« Reply #3 on: February 15, 2005, 03:07:00 PM »
Say hi to her for me.  I hope you can see that I'm not a bad person just because we may have different feelings on a shared experience.
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« Reply #4 on: February 15, 2005, 04:51:00 PM »
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"Say hi to her for me.  I hope you can see that I'm not a bad person just because we may have different feelings on a shared experience."


I respect and honour your feelings - no one has the right to judge another's experience. :smile:
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« Reply #5 on: February 15, 2005, 05:56:00 PM »
Thanks Mr. DG, that means a lot coming from you.  Always thought highly of you.

Take Care.
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« Reply #6 on: February 15, 2005, 10:25:00 PM »
what's with all this touchy feely stuff
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« Reply #7 on: February 15, 2005, 11:11:00 PM »
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"what's with all this touchy feely stuff"

Yeah, I know, mindless brutal raving rage is so much better.

Take a break! Share the love.
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« Reply #8 on: February 16, 2005, 01:23:00 AM »
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On 2005-02-15 19:25:00, Anonymous wrote:


"what's with all this touchy feely stuff"


Yeah, I know, mindless brutal raving rage is so much better.



Take a break! Share the love. "
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« Reply #9 on: February 16, 2005, 01:24:00 AM »
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On 2005-02-15 19:25:00, Anonymous wrote:



"what's with all this touchy feely stuff"




Yeah, I know, mindless brutal raving rage is so much better.





Take a break! Share the love. "

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Yeah, sure, After we break you down

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« Reply #10 on: February 16, 2005, 10:01:00 AM »
You know what, it is nice not to have someone calling me a "crack whore" on this board.  DG and I were simply catching up on old times.  It's nice not to have ever topic on this board being them against us.....

That's what the point of that was, two people with two different opinions talking nicely to one another.... so lay off the touchy feely comments, it doesn't always have to be I'm right, you're wrong....
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« Reply #11 on: February 16, 2005, 11:33:00 AM »
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Don't you see, that's the method.  It's like a Mutt & Jeff routine.  First you break somebody down by (for example) demeaning them and calling them names like "crack-whore", etc.  When their self worth has been totally destroyed, you then overwhelm them with "love" and the Stockholm syndrome takes over.  It looks to me as though JessicaM is still ambivalent about her experience.  Interesting how Rachael has not gotten any open responses to her  post.  Why don't you talk to her, JessicaM?
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« Reply #12 on: February 16, 2005, 11:55:00 AM »
I have talked to her privately.  It was also just nice to talk to someone who I didn't have a completely negative experience with while in treatment.  I am okay with saying not everyone involved with aarc had or has bad intentions.  I just think it's refreshing when someone is okay with my opinion and I'm okay with his.  That's the whole point isn't it.  To be heard.
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« Reply #13 on: February 16, 2005, 02:09:00 PM »
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Don't you see, that's the method.  It's like a Mutt & Jeff routine.  First you break somebody down by (for example) demeaning them and calling them names like "crack-whore", etc.  When their self worth has been totally destroyed, you then overwhelm them with "love" and the Stockholm syndrome takes over.  It looks to me as though JessicaM is still ambivalent about her experience.  Interesting how Rachael has not gotten any open responses to her  post.  Why don't you talk to her, JessicaM?      "


Is EVERYONE who doesn't share your anger deluded? I would hazzard a guess that for every 200+ AARC graduate, there are 200+ different experiences. I certainly don't need everyone to agree with me in order to have an opinion about my experience. I am interested in hearing everyones experience, and where they are at today. It would be great to know where everyone was at, and how many blame AARC for their failures, credit AARC with their success, or take responsibility for their own life, like Rachael did in an earlier post. Anger, hatred, blame and pity may feel great for a while, but they have done me no good. Perhaps a little more care, understanding, and yes, love may be in order.
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« Reply #14 on: February 19, 2005, 12:27:00 AM »
No one with whom I was in AARC has yet contacted me... so as far as "cowardice" is concerned, I've not yet been convinced otherwise.
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