Treatment Abuse, Behavior Modification, Thought Reform > Who Am I Discovery/Whitmore
getting abused at the whitmore
Anonymous:
i have to agree with Annie on that one. You cannot open your mouth making comments about families and such that you do not even know. My parents are so far in debt right now, and by no means are they or were they "rich." In fact, they had to get a lot of help with sending me away. Their intentions were not that they did not want to deal with me anymore. In fact, they tried relentless times, and each time, I got worse and more rebellious. They did not want to see me get even worse than I was with their efforts. They tried, and I love my parents for that. I do not know about your family, but Ive got a DAMN good one! :smile:
Anonymous:
Don't know that we "TRUST" strangers all that much with our kids, but we sure turn the responsibility of raising them over to strangers a whole lot. Just look at 20/20 or Prime Time. Over and over we see these programs with people using video tapes in their homes "catching" the Nanny beating their kids, even little babies! It does make you wonder--what the heck is going on?
In the "glowing days" you speak of--Moms stayed home with thier kids, toughed it out financially...and felt being home with their kids was more important than the two-incomes. And when parents needed ADVICE, they went to THEIR parents and asked---not some shrink! When kids "acted out," there was discipline and rules....not ritalin and all this medications. And I don't mean: physical abuse either, when I say discipline!
People now just want the quick-fix. Sometimes we just might need to sit back and do what parents did back then as silly as it might sound and WAIT a bit: SOMETIMES these kids do "grow out of some of this foolishness" that we let others call UNCONTROLLABLE BEHAVIOR.
Anonymous:
but sometimes there comes a point where you cannot wiat until the kid "grows out," and the parents put so much more effort into it. I know that I love my parents for what they did, and I am glad that they did it when they did. I was getting worse as each day went on, and getting into more and more trouble.
Anonymous:
No OTHER alternatives? A relative out of state away from the current friends/situation?
In house treatment in your OWN TOWN where there is available individual and family treatment?
There are alternatives other than sending the kid away from home.
Antigen:
Ok, but why so many?
Anon (last, above) and Anne, I'll take your word for it that you actually were in serious trouble. But how come? What really went wrong?
Then there are the other kids who wind up in this fix; like Chris G. Based on Mary's description of things, he was an excellent student and over-achiever. No problem, except he smoked some pot. That makes him absolutely no different from roughly half of highschool aged kids nationwide (factoring in the very conservative enclaves in this country where far fewer teenagers try pot)
Why are so many kids so overly anguished or confused or whatever? And why do so many parents lose thir grip when their nearly grown kids engage relatively normal, harmless activities?
I honestly think it has a lot to do w/ the shift in customs and attitudes since we started compulsory schooling and the overall medicalization/scientification of child rearing.
I think that today's parents lack confidence in their own ability to handle whatever happens. And we also lack the neighborhood support we used to have. Used to be that if you did anything wrong, even something as trivial as cut through a yard where the owner didn't allow it, somebody would eventually tell your parents. And you'd be made to knock on the door, apologize and promise never to do it again. Now, the neighbors don't even know your parents. You either get away w/ whatever you want or they call the cops. There is no in between. Either you walk the straight and narrow or you're damned for all time.
Revelation indeed had no weight with me.
--Benjamin Franklin, American Founding Father, author, and inventor
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