exsafecounselor wrote:
So why is it that you resort to threatening violence? Are you not able to discuss things maturely? Do you lack the emotional development to deal with your feelings appropriately, so you have no choice but to lash out?***
I have never observed a person act "maturely" (rational, reasonable) when addressing the perceived enemy- one who is/was capable of perpetrating harm- in the moment. Didn't they teach you that in school? Or did you go to school? What ARE your counseling credentials? Just an FYI for you and other shade tree therapists- Are you aware that "counselor" is a professional title that requires one to possess a degree before refering to him/herself as such?
It's my experience that emotions and rationale are like water and oil, they don't mix. Vent the emotion and rationale is forthcoming. And sometimes the perpetrator deserves to hear the vehement resentment that was suppressed for so long under his/her control. Pretty common recovery process for victims, even if the perpetrator isn't present. You may not have been his personal counselor, but you appear to be a rep for the program, and proud of it- an easy target.
One good lashing out deserves another. My guess is that he had a reaction to YOUR very "mature" comment to kaydee, "I have read many of your post in the past. But this one takes the cake. Do you really believe the crap that comes out of your mouth?" Would that be an example of the, "emotional development, maturity, and discussion" you speak of. Sounds more like you're still trying to control the thoughts of others- while labeling them defective and hiding behind the "counselor" title.
We all have our reaction point. You're right down here in the trenches with the rest of us human beings, so get off your high horse and take your rightful place. You might do well to listen more than you talk, a really fine way to learn and gain understanding.
