Treatment Abuse, Behavior Modification, Thought Reform > The Troubled Teen Industry
Apologia - Serious debate only, please!
spots:
--- Quote --- The letters in a wwasp school are NOT censored. The kids can write anything their hearts desire, whether nice, or not. The family rep also has contact on a weekly basis with the parents.
--- End quote ---
My grandaughter was admitted to Casa by the Sea on November 2, 2002. During the first months, she was required to go to the computer area on every Monday and write a letter home (or to us, or to her siblings). In the first 6 weeks, 2 letters came to us. Two letters came to her mother also (I don't know if they were the same week or not). Of the 2 letters we got, both were oddly stilted, negative, not ranting, but simply stating (prophetically), "things are not what you have been told around here". The other weeks' letters simply disappeared.
During this period, the Odyssey family rep, Paola Segura, called the mother every Tuesday with a short update. Each call was similar: "...she is having some problems with the rules, but otherwise, she is doing fine." My grandaughter, upon returning home, told us she spent more than 2 early months in Worksheets, a very small white room with only a plastic resin chair, feet flat on the floor, hands by her sides, no schooling whatsoever, no physical activity save short periodic potty breaks, limited meals, including Thanksgiving, and no contact with the outside world, her peers, or her family. This was her existence from early November until sometime after the New Year. When recently asked about kids being on their knees, "is it true", she replied, "Yes, that's what R&R is all about". She also knew one girl in her family who had scars on her chin from continual repeated hog-tying episodes in R&R.
She also "chose out" of 3 successive Discovery seminars, not because of anything specific she said, but because of things she would not say. "If you don't say what they want you to, then they say you 'chose out', send you out and you wait another 6 weeks before they try again. You eventually learn to say what they want."
A child can write anything and everything he wants about WWASPS facilities. That missive, however, will seldom make it through THE CENSORS. Don't imagine for a moment it is uncensored open communication. Why do you think they have the kids use email (easily and anonymously delete-able) instead of handwriting? Would parents be comfortable with felt-marker blacked out chunks of letters?
It is vital that the Program have unfettered freedom to "mold" the minds of their internees. Parents who accept an evaluation of a minimum-wage, untrained, non-English-proficient guard grant to the Program their child's welfare. I absolutely am breathless when I consider that my grandchild was watched over by such marginal human beings, and was kept, as a Level II, from the outside world (including her parent) for 10 months of incarceration.
Anonymous:
Spots - I really do understand why you would want to believe your granddaughter and since I have ZERO experience of Casa by the Sea, I won't dispute this. It just seems odd,however, that the other schools don't censor mail, or should I say censor outbound mail. The two schools that I am familiar with don't use computers to write letters home. They're done the old fashioned way, writing by hand.
They do censor inbound mail for illegal items, not written content.
If your granddaughter was in worksheets and didn't complete discovery the first three times, what does that tell you about her needing to be exactly where she was? The kids that really don't need this level of help tend to fly through it. If what you just shared is what she really said, then she's got you right where she wants you and you seem to think that's okay. Hope it all works out, really.
Anonymous:
Your granddaughter kept herself at Level 2 - geez!
What I hear you saying is that you're better than other people and YOU'RE the only one good enough to be in her space, including her parents.
Thanks for sharing. :wink:
Anonymous:
I notice neither of you poor program fools wanted to comment on the months wasted away in worksheets; except to imply she must have deserved to sit motionless in a chair for weeks on end like some catatonic scitzoid.
I noticed you managed to ignore the girl with the scared chin from her frequent hog tieing. I suppose you feel she must've also been diserving of such treatment.
I garentee you; you would not have been able to ignore these things; or able to think it acceptable; before you went threw the seminairs.
And really, do you think the program is going to explain to you, they read your kids mail, and if it contains something they'd rather not explain, they fail to mail it?
There are programs that can treat you for cultic brainwashing and help you regain your ability to think for yourself. You should look into it.
Anonymous:
Just a little info:
Boundaries - Limits that you place on the behavior of others around you.
Walls - Limits that you insist on that shut people out.
Comparisons
about your needs vs. about the other person's behavior allows you to relate within limits vs. doesn't allow for relationship
Example
Tina had a boundary around the tone of voice people used with her. When people used a harsh or condescending tone of voice, she gently
explained how that affected her and requested that they speak to her differently. Winona also had a concern about how people spoke to her.
When someone used a loud or aggressive tone with her, she flew into a rage and criticized him for being rude to her.
Key Point
A boundary protects you from the things other people do that drain you or diminish you. Extensive boundaries allow you to stop the other
person before their behavior has an effect on you. Healthy boundaries give you more freedom and ease in relating to other human beings. When
you use your boundaries to judge others as wrong, insist on being right, or explain them in an aggressive or righteous way, they become
walls. They remove your ability to relate rather than increase it.
Benefits
A boundary saves you time and energy and keeps you out of conflict.
Walls become a source of conflict in your relationships.
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Lots of WALLS here!
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