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Treatment Abuse, Behavior Modification, Thought Reform > The Ridge Creek School / Hidden Lake Academy

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Anonymous:
yes, I was there during that time period.

Anonymous:
The following is a letter I had written in response to a concerned parent who currently has a child at Hidden Lake Academy:
"Hello. The letter you viewed was one I'd written last year around this time actually. I'd love to answer any questions you have. I must first ask though, why was he sent to HLA? The reason I ask is because you need to ask yourself a very serious question, Was the way he was before he went to HLA as dangerous as how he may feel upon his life after HLA? I'll give you a quick background of my story in order for you to understand. Right up to the time before I went to HLA, I had ceased caring whether I lived or died and had become a wandering junkie among the streets after dropping out of school and running away from home. I was sent to HLA upon a court order. I don't want to go into detail about how horrible my experience was at HLA, but I will say that there's no real individual counseling in order to find out what each child needs. It's all done the cheapest way possible in order for them to still say that they are counseling, which is group counseling. Group counseling on a mass structure can be successful when everyone may be suffering from the same problems such as Alcoholics Anonymous, but in this case what one child needs another may not. You must also understand that because of this they fill everyones heads with the same rules of life by breaking down everything they've been taught and rebuilding their thinking. This sounds as if it could be good, yes? But it's not. It's not actually correcting any problems. It's covering them up with a therapeutic veneer and teaching them to suppress their problems since they're not actually working through them. This insures that they may seem like things are better for them and that they're cured for a long enough time for them to leave HLA and then some. As you know though, anything suppressed will eventually surface and need to be dealt with again. So in actuallity HLA did nothing except offer a temporary fix. For some it does work, but very few. Most of the children end up with double the amount of problems, because you then have to worry about the same old problems accompanied by the trust issues and identity disorder that HLA has installed. After leaving HLA I started noticing that I felt like a robot. It took awhile to figure out who I was again. Through all this searching I was lucky, because I started noticing subtle beauties in life that made me want to live, plus being sober I was able to look back at all the wrongs I'd done and people I'd hurt and became determined to change some of my ways. Now I'm a very happy person for the most part, but I do suffer from some problems that I'm not sure if I'll ever be able to overcome, because my mind doesn't recognize them. They're purely irrational thoughts that I can't control which cause me to have panic attacks. I have social anxiety disorder and some serious trust issues from things my last psychologist said had become such a deep part of my psyche that it was part of my personality and could become a danger to try to change. I have learned to function fine as long as I take my medication. I am in a very successful relationship, my parents and I are now much better friends, and I care about my life as well as others'... Once again, I must say, that was my story. Everybody's story's different. For some the rebellious teenager is just a phase. It's practically impossible to know that though since we can't see the future. My parents have apologized a few times about getting me sent to HLA, because they see what it has done. They say that if they could go back they would do things differently. I don't think it's that easy though. I needed some help and my parents just didn't know what to do. I do not blame them for anything. They did what they felt they had to after we'd gotten into some serious scuffles and they saw me slowly but rapidly dying. You can see why I said that this is a very hard question to deal with. My advice personally is not HLA and is one on one counseling with the whole family. Make sure also that the psychologist is not a friend of anyone in the family, because you do not want them to be tempted into taking sides because of the personal relationship he/she has with a family member. For all we know, there may be things about all of you that may need to change in order for there to be that balance that your family needs. I know that's how it was for us, my family that is. This means that you must be open for anything that your therapist may say to you without getting defensive. There is no easy way out of this. Remember that... I to have never told my parents certain disturbing things that have gone on there, because they already beat themselves up over sending me there, so I can understand why your son is reluctant to say anything. Plus there's also the fact that he's scared to because of what they may try to pull. I was brainwashed into trying to commit suicide when they found out that I was trying to get my court order dropped because I felt like I'd worked through all of my problems, mostly on my own because i was willing and wanted to change things in my life. They wanted me to slip up and try something so as not to lose my money. It didn't exactly work as they wanted it to because we discovered what they were trying to do. Avarice and the ability to control someone's mind don't mix... Concerning your academics worry, there are no real academics. In spanish, the answers were always on the bottom of the page upside down and no teaching was involved, just worksheets. It's a gimic in order to make the parents feel as if some change is occuring. You cannot fail a class, you get incompletes until they make you do it with work assignments or calistenics. I remember when I made honor roll, my parents were so proud that I didn't even tell them that I was only in my first week of the school classes and hadn't actually done anything yet. So he may get good grades, but there's no serious learning taking place. I'd be more worried about his being able to function upon leaving than his academics though, because his credits should transfer fine. But he may do horrible in the next school because although it states that he made an A in the previous math class, there's a good chance he didn't learn anything, so it's going to be more difficult for him to keep up since he's been out of a real school environment for so long... I hope that all of this will encourage you to make the decision you feel is best. I'm sorry you must go through this, but since you must, please make the best educated decision possible. This is your son's future and possibly his life at stake. Since you obviously care about him in order to seek my help, I'm sure you'll do what is best. Here is a link yu may find helpful, http://www.heal-online.org/hiddenlake.htm.... Are you aware that there are a few class action lawsuits in the works against HLA?.. Please do not tell HLA that you have spoken with me. They are very powerful and have the ability to come up with answers to anything, hence the psychologist part. I'm risking alot by sharing these things with you. Thankyou and Goodluck. Love, Me"
I have posted this with the hopes that I could help answer some questions for those in worry. If you are planning to or know someone who may be planning to undergo such circumstances, please forward on this letter. Thankyou.

Anonymous:
I was a member of PG 12. This is a BAD program. Truly not worth spending your childs college money on a place that may screw them up more. If your child is young- and they are not into drugs, or they are just depressed, this is a really bad placement.

Anonymous:
Look people its like this- I went there for 2 full years and yes there is good that comes from this school but (and thtats a really big but) it is not good for everyone they use the same 5 point restraint that cops use. The men that dothe restraining are Army rangers and kids have come up from them with injuries. There are drugs that get in they do strip searches to everyone after a home visit. Physical labor, cals and Writing a 2 page answer to a question like What did you feel when you didnt tell the truth is HLA's answer to all the problems the kids there have. Dont get me wrong, I had fun and made friends that I still talk to 5 years later but that doesnt make up for the damage done. OH and someone had made a comment about being "in agreement" no there is no agreement it just thier rules NONE of the kids agreed to anything -thier parents did mostly without the childrens knowleledge. WHich is how the whole thing is set up the school tells the parents not to inform the kids of what is taking place. Get them on a plane and here thats all yoou have to do. People in my peer group showed up thinking that they were going on vacation ar a stranger got them out of their beds and stuck them in a car then put them on a plane bound for atl. One guy actually arrived sedated because his parents thought, and rightly so, that he would pitch a fit so the schoools sugestion was to sedate him. Yes the kids are manipulative but the school is far more guilty of that than any kids I knew there. My parents were so taken by the school that they still 5 years later dont believe the things I tell them about my experience there. I am a 23 year old mother now, what in Gods name would I gain by lying to my parents at this late stage? They act like they did me a favor but what they did was mmake college more difficult, My trust in most everyone nonexistant and a huge gaping hole in my teen years. Does anyone here realize the life shaping experiences that most teens have between the ages of 16 and 18? I was developmentally behind my friends at home in so many ways because I missed out on many of the things that most people do. My parents and aunts and uncles can look back onthose years and say "that was when I decided to go to college " or "that was when I knew I wanted to be a marine biologist You do get that when you are in a cage with out any bars. Hidden lake might not be a lock down facility but it dosent change the fact that you are stuck there until you are told other wise. If you plan on sending you child there dont do it because you have him/her in therepy and thats whats recomended. Try family therepy first because thats where the problem is. It starts in the home and ends in the home. it might be hard to make the adjustments that need to be made to help you child but it will save you 5k/ mo and give you and you child a better life than HLA will.

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