Queenmom,http://aacap.org/page.ww?name=Children+ ... r+FamiliesAmerican Academy Of Child & Adolescent Phychiatry
Children With Oppositional Defiant Disorder
Facts For Families
No. 72; June 2009
All children are oppositional from time to time, particularly when tired, hungry, stressed or upset. They may argue, talk back, disobey, and defy parents, teachers, and other adults. Oppositional behavior is often a normal part of development for two to three year olds and early adolescents. However, openly uncooperative and hostile behavior becomes a serious concern when it is so frequent and consistent that it stands out when compared with other children of the same age and developmental level and when it affects the child’s social, family and academic life.In children with Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD), there is an ongoing pattern of uncooperative, defiant, and hostile behavior toward authority figures that seriously interferes with the youngster’s day to day functioning. Symptoms of ODD may include:
* Frequent temper tantrums
* Excessive arguing with adults
* Often questioning rules
* Active defiance and refusal to comply with adult requests and rules
* Deliberate attempts to annoy or upset people
* Blaming others for his or her mistakes or misbehavior
* Often being touchy or easily annoyed by others
* Frequent anger and resentment
* Mean and hateful talking when upset
* Spiteful attitude and revenge seeking
The symptoms are usually seen in multiple settings, but may be more noticeable at home or at school. One to sixteen percent of all school-age children and adolescents have ODD. The causes of ODD are unknown, but many parents report that their child with ODD was more rigid and demanding that the child’s siblings from an early age. Biological, psychological and social factors may have a role.
A child presenting with ODD symptoms should have a comprehensive evaluation. It is important to look for other disorders which may be present; such as, attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), learning disabilities, mood disorders (depression, bipolar disorder) and anxiety disorders. It may be difficult to improve the symptoms of ODD without treating the coexisting disorder. Some children with ODD may go on to develop conduct disorder.
Treatment of ODD may include: Parent Management Training Programs to help parents and others manage the child’s behavior. Individual Psychotherapy to develop more effective anger management. Family Psychotherapy to improve communication and mutual understanding. Cognitive Problem-Solving Skills Training and Therapies to assist with problem solving and decrease negativity. Social Skills Training to increase flexibility and improve social skills and frustration tolerance with peers.Medication may be helpful in controlling some of the more distressing symptoms of ODD as well as the symptoms related to coexistent conditions such as ADHD, anxiety and mood disorders.
A child with ODD can be very difficult for parents. These parents need support and understanding. Parents can help their child with ODD in the following ways:
* Always build on the positives, give the child praise and positive reinforcement when he shows flexibility or cooperation.
* Take a time-out or break if you are about to make the conflict with your child worse, not better. This is good modeling for your child. Support your child if he decides to take a time-out to prevent overreacting.
* Pick your battles. Since the child with ODD has trouble avoiding power struggles, prioritize the things you want your child to do. If you give your child a time-out in his room for misbehavior, don’t add time for arguing. Say “your time will start when you go to your room.”
* Set up reasonable, age appropriate limits with consequences that can be enforced consistently.
* Maintain interests other than your child with ODD, so that managing your child doesn’t take all your time and energy. Try to work with and obtain support from the other adults (teachers, coaches, and spouse) dealing with your child.
* Manage your own stress with healthy life choices such as exercise and relaxation. Use respite care and other breaks as needed
Many children with ODD will respond to the positive parenting techniques. Parents may ask their pediatrician or family physician to refer them to a child and adolescent psychiatrist or qualified mental health professional who can diagnose and treat ODD and any coexisting psychiatric condition.
Please read this article and others, you will find that none are suggesting sending your child to a rehab, program or treatment center for ODD. Actually they are stipulating that you first get a complete diagnosis and prepare yourself as parents to work extra diligently to manage your child's condition. It is not his fault if in fact it is found out he suffers from psychiatric conditions (I am not saying he/her is not responsible for his actions, they are.)
All I am saying is the job of the parent will not be easy and you will have to work harder for your child's sake. I believe they are worth it.
These programs are not staffed with qualified psychiatrists and assistants to deal with conditions we are talking about here and the schooling with a little investigation, will show lack of accreditation.
I know it can be frustrating when a child is going through a rough time in his life, I have been there myself and with a child also. I chose to just let him be, stayed supportive and was always there. I had the benefit to know if I had sent him to a program it would have made his problems worse. He would have seen it as a punishment instead of a vehicle to help him, he also would have figured out that these programs are inadequate (to be kind) and been even more resentful of me.
I would have compounded the problems he was trying to fight through. Yes fight, he is a child they cry first then they fight. Natural mechanisms for dealing with confusion and lack of processing for a child. The marijuana can almost be a form of release for him (not that I am advocating smoking pot) I am not just saying your child needs a release for his pent up emotions.
Stay with your child through this time physically, let him know even if he wants to leave he can touch you at anytime this is extremely important.
Do not abandon him.
