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Anonymous:
You know I am so sick of hearing some of you blaming us parents. Some of you telling us you would never have fallen for their lies, their glossy brochures, their heartwrenching videos, their paid parent referrals, bu tyou know what, you need to walk our shoes to feel our hearts.  I dont think that there are many parents out there that didnt try to get help for there child because they wanted them punished. Out of LOVE we gave up so much to help them. Many of us cashed out our retirement, will be paying loans for the next 10-20 years and no longer have savings. For what? They told us our kid would be dead if we didnt give up all we had to save them. Truthfully, I would give my life for my child, but I didnt sign on for them to be abused or myself being deceived. The blame game has only just begun, and I for one am waiting fo r them to feel the pain of this lawsuit.

Deborah:
Look, there seems to be two kinds of parents. Those who wouldn't dream of sending their kids to strangers and trusting blindly that they would be well cared for. And there are those who are far too trusting, desperate, revengeful,________. They assume the owner's and staff genuinely care, who can be very convincing, particularly to a desperate parent.

My ex was the later. He indeed wanted to punish our son for not loving his new wife- who was the epitome of wicked step mother (no exaggeration).
You may not fall in that catagory, but there certainly are parents who intend to punish. Read the Struggling Teens message board. The teens are sometimes talked about as if they are inanimate objects. I can hardly make it through one pathetic post.

No need to defend yourself. People are going to voice their resentments. You should probably look at why that bothers you. One thing certain, you aren't going to stop it anytime soon.

I have walked in your shoes, and while I don't "blame" you, I don't understand how you could entrust your child to a stranger. I just can't imagine a situation in which I would choose that. And yes, I have been there. My older son was a mess (PTSD) when he returned from six months at military school. The thought never crossed my mind, but then I saw the effects of six months away.

Anonymous:
Anon, I have walked in your shoes.  What happened that you feel like such a victim?  I don't blame you, I don't blame wwasp, I don't blame my child.  It is what it is.  If your child didn't work his/her program, it's nobody's fault.  And, nobody told you your child would be dead if you hadn't done something...you knew in your heart it could have happened, so you did something about it.  However long your child was there was probably long enough for you to wake up and be a parent, not a friend to your child.  You learned what you needed in the seminars about yourself and what you were willing to accept, not lower your standards for your child's choices and many other things.  What you haven't learned is the true meaning of accountability.  The twisted definition is now "Make wwasp accountable"  - which really only means making them responsible for your and your child's choices.  

I don't trust a lawyer to see that this not about wwasp, but about you.  

I have never read anything on this board that is really about wwasp.  It's been about husbands, fathers, brothers, daughters, etc.  wwasp is the scapegoat and the lawyers will do what lawyers do...why the hell are there so many of them on this planet??

Get pissed...that will prove that I'm on target. Your statement about spending your retirement, etc., tells me this is all about money, not what was best for your child who decided not to work their program.

Deborah:
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You program(ed) people really crack me up. Go ahead and blast away anon, it will not prove s/he is "on target" about anything s/he said.

A classic example of how the brainwashing technique works. First lay out what you want the other person to believe, then tell the person if they react a certain way, they will validate your self-serving comments.

If the allegations of abuse and fraud are true, then you bet, WWASP needs to be held "accountable". Twisting of definitions? That's a good one. There are obviously enough independent complaints to warrant an investigation/lawsuit.

I think you're a control freak and are extremely brainwashed. I think you enjoy manipulating people to believe your warped perception of reality. Someone did a number on you. You, of all the anon posters, (yes, your posts are unique) are really eaten up with it.
Go ahead, get pissed, deny it. You'll only be proving I'm on target.
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Anonymous:
How sad. I don't know this Deborah person and I am glad I don't. What an unsensitive response. My parents put me in a horrible program and I now totally understand their fear, pain and desperation. If you truly beleive your child is going to die it is very easy to see how a parent would try anything to save their child. My experience has been that the parents that put their children in these programs don't know much or have any experience with drugs, alcohol abuse or a troubled runaway. Most of my program friends' parents were clueless about what was wrong with us or how to help us so they beleived these "professionals." To be quite honest I was safer in the program I was in than on the streets with whoever getting high. That does not mean I agree with any abuse of any kind to anyone. Obviously, the best situation would of been for me to be in a program that was not abusive and eventually I was. It sounds like this Deborah person may really be deflecting her anger and resentment towards her ex. onto everyone else.

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