Whooter - you are really grasping at straws here, and you appear quite desperate at that.
It was never demonstrated on this thread that people can be forced to change. Compliance can be forced, but change (true change) can only come about when the individual in question decides for themselves that they want to change.
None of the examples you've given demonstrate forced change, instead they show where compliance is forced only. A child who likes their therapist and decides that they want to cooperate and try to change - still has made their own decision, regardless of whether or not
they were forced into seeing the therapist in the first place. Conversley, a child who hates their therapist will continue to resist, or perhaps will tell the therapist what they think the therapist wants to hear - in order to give the appearance that they are changing (presumably in hopes of illustrating that therapy is no longer necessary). Big difference there - Whooter.
Lying about what others have agreed upon, and drawing false conclusions from the
discussion at hand, in order to add non-existent support to your own warped views
doesn't help your positionn at all Whooter. All it does is expose you for the complete fraud that you are - Mr. Reuben.
This is just a discussion Serb, no need to get upset and start taking shots at me. You made some good points.
Change is when the person embraces something new and takes it on to be their own.
Compliance is when the person is doing what he/she is told but doesn’t believe in it. They do because they are forced. But over time the person may see that what they have been forced to do is a better way to live… i.e. make their bed in the morning, see a therapist, eating healthy meals, reading, going to school, wearing appropriate clothing. Dealing with anger in non aggressive ways etc. etc.
If like you said the child just resists and justs goes through the motions then they are just merely complying and as soon as the pressure is off they will go back to their old ways. Like in your example where the child doesn’t connect with their therapist and hates him/her.
So you made some good points, Serbia, where we can differentiate between change and compliance.
So if a child is forced to see a therapist and starts liking their therapist and starts to look forward to going each week and benefits from it then that is real change. If a child forced to go to school and eventually looks forward to school or starts picking the healthier food choices on their own than that is change.
If on the other hand the child just goes through the motions so that they can make everyone happy then that is compliance and the child hasn’t learned anything.
So you can see that people can be forced to change in a non abusive manner.
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