Someone gets another DUI, don't chauffer them.
See. But that can sometimes make things worse. If the person loses their job as a result of not being able to get to work, and the rest of their life falls apart, they're likely to drink far more, not less. Stress and depression have a direct correlation with compulsive behavior. The "tough love" approach often leads to more problems.
I'd agree with the bail bit and most of what you said, but when something is salvageable and there is a lot to lose... If you're a friend you might as well help out. The whole "must hit rock bottom" thing is a myth. Smokers don't have to hit rock bottom to quit smoking and it's the same with any substance.
Have a friend who just recently ended in up in jail and I would not bail him out. He is a chef at the "W" in downtown Atlanta, the head chef, I mean this guy is originally out of Boston via NYC, to Atlanta, worked at some very prestigious restaurants in those cities.
One problem though everyone overlooks and enables he is a functioning dope fiend. Has been for so many years I can not count anymore. His drugs have always come first, before wifes, kids, family and work. It would not be so bad if others did not have to be impacted by his behavior.
Well to make a long story short, he got popped partying at the "Four Seasons" (Atlanta) in a room with others and a hooker (he is married). They found dope, prescription drugs (narc), meth and pot. He is 47, the average age of the other offenders was 21 yrs old, also the room was in his name.
I don't know about tuff love, I am just not bailing him out because I think he is safer in jail. His wife is gone, this was the last straw, she moved with the kids back to California, he will not be protesting.
Dude needs help and this is my assistance in helping him, I have not gone out of my way to tell others not to bail him out. He has plenty of friends, he is a charming charismatic dude everyone likes, looks like we all just want to know that at least we tried to help him.
This incident happened back in June he is still in jail, no one will bail him out. His case comes before a judge in late October.