I would also like to add. These threads I post are an attempt to explain the extreme advice given by the people I talked about earlier. I thought maybe they were "trolls" or in other words just joking about their advice, but after observing it appears they actually believe what they are saying. Does nobody else find it strange somebody could actually believe in their own mind, that murdering someone, sending yourself to jail, running away, bankrupting your own family, is somehow better than just going to a treatment center with no history of abuse?
I admit that I am conflicted here. I do find it crazy recommend to a 15 year old girl that she murder someone, opt for jail, run away , or bankrupt her family. That is my initial reaction. I find those ideas crazy, and I want nothing to do with them.
Then there is this other bottom-line logic that someone like Pile can no doubt rouse up in me.
- If you are being forced to go somewhere, against your will, that you perceive to be a threat, do you have the right to defend yourself, even to the point, of ending the life, of another(the person applying force to you), if it became absolutely necessary? Although, it would probably not put you in a good place in society, and strategically would be a stupid move, is it morally wrong?
( I don't want to get into too much detail, because the lives of people I know are no one here's business, unless they wanted to talk about them, but as vague, as I can be, growing up, I had a friend, who was a really good guy. He left one morning to go on a family vacation, that really wasn t. One minute he is sitting in his car, excited about his destination, the next he si surrounded by a bunch of cultist-fucks, trying to physically force him, into their "family-school". He tried to defend himself with a baseball bat, and it's worth mentioning he was a peaceful guy.
I don't know... as adults, you view things differently- more practical.. but as a kid, 17 years ago, I was proud of him. He was defending himself. He had problems, but everybody did. It was part of growing up.)
-Now, the jail-thing... For Morgan, No! I would definitely not recommend jail. I think she would be better off floating her way through the program, but I do know of people who opted for jail, over going back to Daytop, which wasn t really nearly as bad as some other places, and afterwards, they were really glad they did it.
Running away- again, not for Morgan.. but perhaps for some, in her situation.. We gotta remember here. They didn t give her any outs. They told her that if she did this, and that, she didn t have to go, but when she agreed, she still had to go no matter what. dad was willing to keep his promise, but mom had made her mind up long ago... And it s also worth mentioning here, that while I strongly disagree with what Pile did, with the posting of the info and such, I don t disagree that the parents are assholes, and the things that I learned from what he posted, only confirmed that further for me. I am not gonna jump on Danny B's boat about "Parent Abuse". Adults can take care of themselves, which is clearly demonstrated by how people deal with his attacks. When I saw the pics of Morgan's mom, I asked myself, "and what program shall we send this one too?"
My opinion based on what I saw, is that she wants her "troubled" daughter out of the way, so she has less impediments to pursue her own troubles.
I went off on a tangent there, but I would say that in her situation, there might be some who would be better off running away. I am basing this on my memories and experiences from when I was a child. Today I would never consider giving that as advice though. (hence, my being conflicted)
Bankrupting your own family to avoid going? I gotta admit it sounds really fucked up, and selfiish to me..
But now let's say you are a kid, and don t want to be shipped off. Your parents are sending you away with little regard, or any curiosity about how you feel about it. We all spoke to Morgan. She was a very intelligent, mature young woman. We are not talking about a girl getting high on drugs, inflicting harm against herself, a pyro -maniac, or any other shit. What is her best defense? Her family has turned her back on her, is it morally wrong for her to attempt to bankrupt her family for protection from them? I don t know.. She would only be trying to defend herself.. I wouldn t offer it as advice, because in the end, she will only be making more problems for herself. It is a dumb silly idea. DJ is silly. It is ashame too. because if he matured a bit, he could be very effective.
In my life, I don t have to worry about none of this shit. I just know, somehow, that no one that I care about, will go to one of these programs, so long as I am alive. I trust myself to make sure of that, as sure as the sky is blue, without my having to do anything stupid, reccomend anything stupid, or cause harm to anyone.
Paul St. John