suck it i guess I was a variation on the kid that you describe. I never ran away but i took drugs too much and got expelled from my private school. I am glad that your experience helped you and your mother reconcile. Maybe you went somewhere that was less harsh than some of the places described here. My issue with this industry (and i am no expert) is that I don't think an institutional environment is really not good for anyone in the long term unless their mental health issues are so hardcore that they are a continual danger to themselves and society. This is a really big thing to label an adolescent with and should not be done lightly.
I also wonder how one place can deal with such a wide range of issues as so many programs seem to claim that they can handle. Did you go to a place that only handled drug issues? Did they have a 12 step philosophy or something else? was most of the therapy 1 on 1? Aside from the absence making the heart grow fonder issue, what was done to make you more able to relate to your family?
I think most kids crave their parents love and acceptance even when they are pretty difficult. One thing i really don't like much is the way that a lot of places advertise. They say they are about helping the whole family but then a lot of the focus of the marketing is on all the moral issues of the kids. My problem with this is 2 fold. Firstly in the case of genuine mental health issues i just don't think this is where the focus should be at all. I also don't know if it should be the case with young drug abusers as it is pretty common for there to be dual diagnosis issues with a lot of drug abusers. In the case of kids who are mainly sent for being bratty and delinquent, i still am pretty sceptical about the effectiveness of going away to an institutional kind of environment. Sooner or later a person has to join the outside world. It is hard to do that when you have been away from it for an extended period of time.