Just out of curiosity Whooter.. How do these therapeutic boarding schools go about instilling self-esteem, in the participants. I am not trying to be challenging, here, necessarily. I would like to have more facts, upon which to base my own judgments?
What is the practiced theory, methodology, etc., as relates to facilitating the development of self-esteem, in young individuals?
Paul
Okay I'll give it a shot.
Just talking out loud here:I really don’t know the nuts and bolts of what they did at ASR but I can tell you that my daughter learned how to appreciate a compliment without sidestepping the feeling. She got to a point prior to her placement where she would change the subject if she was complimented on something she did, which was a red flag for me. Ever since she smiles and accepts it.
She was taught that she was not a victim and should not play that part and that failure was not a conclusion which defined her. It was an opportunity to see a path that was followed once but she had the power to chose another path and she did.
They taught her to change the way she thought about herself and to try to avoid negative thoughts.
She was tutored and taught how to study and make herself successful and get good grades.
They helped her to set short and well defined goals and they celebrated each time she reached a milestone.
They taught her great listening skills which helped her and I communicate so much better.. (she taught me a thing or two in this area, lol).
I think the most important thing is they taught her to love herself for who she was. If she wanted to work at Walmart and get an apartment and a dog then that was great. If she wanted to go to college that was good too.
She learned to accept the path which led her to ASR and not feel guilty or dwell on circumstances which are in the past.
She expected to be treated well by others and wouldn’t accept being stepped on by friends, (this was great to watch)
She was on top of the world when she graduated and continues to do well today.
I hope this helps.
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